surely I'm not unreasonable?!

[HunterHearstHelmsley]

My sister and her partner are living with me at the moment. They had friends over yesterday evening (fine but prior warning would have been nice!)

Friends arrived with two Boxer dogs. I wasn't particularly pleased as I think it's incredibly rude to turn up with your dogs but anyway I thought ok and put up with it.

Until... I was "told" (not asked) to put my cats out as the dogs don't like them. This was met with a HELL NO. Guests weren't impressed and put their dogs in the car and didn't stay long.

I've been informed I'm a terrible host and should have turfed the cats out. I think I wasn't a bloody host and i'm not putting the cats out for visiting dogs.

Mumsnet jury, please?!

I'd be putting the sister and her partner out, not the cats!

You are a better host than me. I would not have let the dogs in!

YANBU. Dogs are always allowed in this house, but I've never known anyone not ask if it's ok to bring them.

I would have shown these friends the door as soon as they suggested my pets should be turfed out of their own home. Sister and partner quickly following them. Did your sister forget to pack her manners when moving into your home?

Cats live there so dog's outside if they don't like it!

How much longer are they going to be with you? I imagine this could end up going horribly wrong if it's for much longer. It's your home and while they are living there they need to respect that.

You certainly weren't a host last night, weren't even your friends!!

YANBU

I would be asking guests to leave after that.

Are your sister and her partner paying to live with you?

Not unreasonable, they sound like idiots.

Anyone who asked me to turf my cats out would quickly find themselves out the house instead.

Set some ground rules with your sister and perhaps remind her that you are being a host to her. If you are not meeting her exacting standards perhaps she could find accommodation elsewhere.

Of course you aren't being unreasonable.

Taken by surprise probably.

A guest that would have the cheek to ask that wouldn't be a guest in my house for long. Also think you need to have a word with your sister about house rules if she thought it was acceptable too. YANBU,

I reckon they've turned it on you as they know they made a mistake, they probably told their friends it was fine without checking and now the friends are pissed off with then.

I'd be asking when they're planning to move out tbh.

Of course you're not unreasonable.

Our friend was visiting from up North a few weeks ago and stayed over, didn't ask us if he could bring his 8month old Lab .

Our cats hit the roof, the dog stayed in the garage all night.

Yanbu
I'm very much a 'dog person' (not that I've anything against cats though) and Cats that live there > Visiting dogs.

Yes - lay down some ground rules.

It is your home. They should ask if it is convenient before inviting anyone human.

Same goes for animals.

Their attitude sounds bad. Are they taking the piss in other ways?

YANBU

you need to have major words with your sister.

what's the living arrangement? this sounds horribly like a problem I had with a flatmate who had a relative as a "temporary guest" on our sofa....then that relative had a bunch of people round till very late one night when I had a meeting at the arse crack of dawn - and I said to my flatmate "since when did the guest, who isn't paying rent etc, get to HAVE guests?!"

But even if your sis is paying rent, if you don't want someone's dogs in your home that's your prerogative. but saying the cats should go somewhere else is just crazy talk.

YANBU at all!!
I'm still getting used to the idea (seen on here before) that even your own invited guests would bring dogs etc without checking first. FAir enough, if you HAVE to bring the dog because the sitter falls through, but then surely you just walk it a bit when you arrive, pop it back in the car, & attend to it very regularly.

Your Sis and her DP are the problem though, as they are treating YOUR home as if it is thiers. It's not, and they need to know there are rules. Guests - you need warning of, and no dogs!

I have a dog and a cat who tolerate each other, just so I can't be accused of coming down on the side of the pet I like!

YANBU!

The visiting and uninvited by the 'hosts' pet always should give way to hosts pets!

YANBU

Dogs don't come in my house at all.

Phew! Part of me thought I was being!

Long story with her living here and this is pretty mild for her, sadly. She's paying a pittance because she knows I won't kick her out. She's likely to be in for a short sharp shock soon.

Your house OP, your rules. I love boxers and I love cats but visitors can fuck the fuck off if they think they can tell me what's what in my own gaff. End of.

I have 2 dogs. My niece doesn't like dogs and SIL asked me to put them outside last time she visited. Therefore niece and SIL will not be welcome here again! I do prefer animals to children tho

Oh don't get me wrong... I like dogs! I would probably have let them in the house if the cats were ok with them and vice versa. I'm very much of the thought it's the cats home... I'd relax that for allergies but not much else.

UADNBU OP. My cats live here and would not be turfed out for anyone. I allows friend to bring her dog, but he loves cats, and while my cats are horrified, they go upstairs where he can't get them. No way would they be thrown out.

The only thing you are being unreasonable about is not growing a spine and throwing her out. She's a freeloader with a bad attitude.

Yanbu why would you bring dogs round to a house of people you didn't know, bad enough your ds inviting the humans round to your house without checking with you .let alone dogs