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to ask what's the worst/silliest advice you've seen on here?

708 replies

Francoitalialan · 23/10/2015 12:36

MN is such a tremendous source of info but sometimes it goes wonky. What's the worst/silliest advice you've seen?

OP posts:
MoriartyIsMyAngel · 23/10/2015 17:10

I cringe when I read a title like 'DH wants to go on a stag do and miss DC's birthday', because I know several people (usually the first ones to open the thread) will inform the OP that she's an evil cow, and why should her DH go to his kids boring birthday party when he could be leering at a strippers fanny instead?

tethersend · 23/10/2015 17:13

"'I honestly think some folk are just hard wired to be contrary for the sake of it.'

Now that is true."

No it isn't.

Lweji · 23/10/2015 17:17

YABU, because it is.

squoosh · 23/10/2015 17:18

It is true.

MythicalKings · 23/10/2015 17:21

Is this a five minute argument or the full half hour?

Garrick · 23/10/2015 17:22

I ? this thread.

Lweji · 23/10/2015 17:23

I ? this thread.

No you don't.

See... we could keep this till the early hours.

paulapompom · 23/10/2015 17:23

It is true, BUT you can pad a lot of meals out with lentils... here's my recipe for home made cottage pie

SistersOfPercy · 23/10/2015 17:24

My favourite will always be the poster who had a woman with a toddler go full on fishwife on her in the toilets for turning on the hand dryers. Poster was advised to disregard the fact the woman had been effing and jeffing at her and take her to the cafe for a cup of tea as she's obviously having a bad day.

I seem to recall someone was also advised to buy another fishwife type a creme egg. That was amusing.

Sparklingbrook · 23/10/2015 17:27

4 years on MN and I never been offered a virtual Creme egg. Sad

Narp · 23/10/2015 17:28

I don't think all of these various complaints would end in a bun fight.

Talking about them on here just smacks of bitching after the fact

FartemisOwl · 23/10/2015 17:30

Offer a creme egg....Grin
I'm SO trying that next time I get fishwifed in public. I just hope they don't twat me one!

Narp · 23/10/2015 17:30

.... especially ones about threads that are active right now. Have the guts to assert yourself on the thread itself

squoosh · 23/10/2015 17:32

I think the person advising handing out creme eggs to grumpy fuckers must be the weepy girl from Mean Girls.

to ask what's the worst/silliest advice you've seen on here?
laughingatweather · 23/10/2015 17:33

I once tried to point out on a thread that NPD is a complex Psychiatric disorder and can't be diagnosed by Googling symptoms and saying 'there we go, classic narc'. And that there is a huge difference between exhibiting possible narcissistic behaviour and actually having NPD.

Another poster very angrily replied 'are you trying to tell me that only a Psychiatrist can diagnose NPD?? What rubbish!. Of course anyone can!'.

Shock
Lweji · 23/10/2015 17:35

I've never seen the cream eggs suggestion. Are you sure it's not as a joke?

StillStayingClassySanDiego · 23/10/2015 17:35

I loathe show him/her/GP/MiL this thread. Angry.

Why the fuck would the recipient of such a thread take notice of the opinions of random strangers.

Don't do it!

LurcioAgain · 23/10/2015 17:44

I think the endless online diagnoses of NPD are interesting. It should be enough for a woman to say " you know what, my husband turns out to be a selfish manipulative fucker and I wouldn't treat a dog the way he's treating me, I'm getting a divorce." But I think such is the social pressure to " work at marriage" that a lot of women can't get their head round the fact that "he's a selfish manipulative fucker" is a good enough reason - but somehow if it's dresses up in the language of pseudo psychology (I know it's a real diagnosis, but when diagnosed over the Internet. ..) it leaves the woman feeling she now has some sort of official sanction to leave.

WindyMillersProbationOfficer · 23/10/2015 17:56

I remember seeing someone on some innocuous thread mention that they only had a bath, not a shower, and someone replied accusing them of having a non-diverse enough group of friends, as Islam forbids bathing. Hmm So yeah, lady, you should build a shower for those times when your friends who pop round might want a random shower.

MrsJayy · 23/10/2015 18:05

Somebody after a cheap break away camping go camping once you buy the kit its cheap. Hmm

MrsUltracrepidarian · 23/10/2015 18:06

This thread is really cathartic and expressing all the things I think but can't be bothered to post Grin
Some years ago (in a temporary name) I discovered via A FM msg from the OW H that my DH was having an affair. The marriage had not been good for some time, and I was partly to blame. I posted in a state of shock, and some lovely supportive response that gave me the strength to talk to him, and we did work it out. But some of the initial responses (while I was still reeling) were hugely damaging when I explained that I had not myself been an ideal person to live with, was accused of letting him dupe me into thinking that ( he didn't - they were my sentiments).

MrsJayy · 23/10/2015 18:08

Omg that hand dryer thead was hilarious yep offer to take somebody who is likely to deck you for a cup of tea and a handhold

bedknobsandbroomsticks · 23/10/2015 18:09

Loving this thread.

My favourite is the "you have to go to the wedding/funeral/party because its family and they will never forgive you".

I must admit to using the line "No is a complete sentence" to my DC once though ....

Axekick · 23/10/2015 18:10

I think all of these various complaints would end in a bun fight.

Well plenty of us do think it.

And no, there is no point saying that a narc can't be diagnosed by strangers over the Internet. Tried, upset a load of people. I think some people forget (when diagnosing another posters family) that you are listening to one persons point of view. That's why you can't diagnose it.

Narp · 23/10/2015 18:12

Oh well, must be wrong then

I will give myself a biscuit and bigger off