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to ignore him screaming

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Candypops14 · 23/10/2015 10:47

My 20 month year old hates the pram just screams and screams, he's only quiet if he's eating in the pram but as soon as his foods finished he screams for more! If we're out for a few hours I can't keep constantly feeding him he scoffs it really quick to, it's not as if he's hungry as he's usually just had lunch or breakfast etc.
Even if I get him out the pram he won't walk with me he will scream and cling on to my legs! So j pick him up and Hel scream to get back down but cling to my legs again! This scream sounds like a proper tantrum scream, and the looks I get from some people really put me of taken him anywhere!
I have no idea what's wrong with him, everyone asks what's wrong is he ok but I dknt have a clue why he's doing it lol

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Jollyphonics · 23/10/2015 12:39

Both my kids screamed if I ever took their buggy into a shop, so I gave up shopping, it just wasn't worth the hassle. I did all my shopping on line until DS2 started school.

TattyDevine · 23/10/2015 12:43

Goblin has a point if its several hours in a row. There's no way mine would have tolerated that, and then I couldn't tolerate them, so I'd do half an hour, or 45 minutes tops and then I'd have to bribe the little buggers with something better than cucumber

TattyDevine · 23/10/2015 12:44

Our closest supermarket is Tesco so we tend to go there mostly. My son particularly hated it and from a very young age as soon as he saw the big logo on the sign as we pulled up in the car park he'd start whingeing and moaning

Jw35 · 23/10/2015 12:49

Sitting in the buggy is boring. Personally I wouldn't allow eating in buggies! But I'm not judging that just wondering if you're maybe starting bad habits! Shopping is boring and I think anymore than an hour tops in a buggy is enough whether you're in the shops or on a lovely walk. Toddlers need to stretch their legs!

CigarsofthePharoahs · 23/10/2015 12:52

My 19 month old does get bored in the buggy quite quickly. He's ok in a trolley, but if we're going anywhere where I know it isn't too busy he wears a little dinosaur backpack with a rein on the back. It's a bit of a pain, but less annoying than the whistling kettle noise he makes when he gets bored.
If I have to be out for more than an hour I will have some time in the buggy and some time on the rein.
Plus the backpack has a cute dinosaur hood so people tend to forgive him for butting into them by accident!

TattyDevine · 23/10/2015 12:54

Wouldn't allow eating in the buggy eh

I always said I'd never let my kids eat in the car.

If you look in my car now, there's not just some empty breakfast bar wrappers and some empty apple juice cartons, but there are actually a couple of side plates with toast crusts on them too

Folded faster than superman on laundry day...

Carelesstalkcostslives · 23/10/2015 12:56

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Jw35 · 23/10/2015 12:57

you could be right there Tatty! My dd is 10 months..guess time will tell!

WorldsBiggestGrotbag · 23/10/2015 12:57

I don't let DD eat in the car or pushchair!

WoodHeaven · 23/10/2015 13:01

dc1 would never have accepted to stay in a pram whilst I was in a shop.
Maybe an in and out thing at Tesco but otherwise, he woud just bawl.

I just stopped going shopping with him tbh! Not worth the stress, either for him, nor for me.

Actually I remember one day when he fell asleep (first time EVER) and I started to be really worried that something was very wrong with him. I had to check several times that he was still breathing as it had never happened before. It never happened after that either

Paintedhandprints · 23/10/2015 13:08

My 18mo only really goes in the pushchair for his naps now and if I need to get somewhere quickly. Casual shopping a big no no. He would be so bored. It's hardly relaxing or enjoyable experience. Just about get him to sit in a supermarket trolley. He has a lot of energy to burn off.

TattyDevine · 23/10/2015 13:12

You probably have higher standards than me Jw35 ... in fact most people do

MazzleDazzle · 23/10/2015 13:17

I liked the Kari-me sling as you can put them on your front (forward or rear facing), hip or piggy back. Worth seeing if you could borrow one from a library to try?

You have my sympathy though. Sounds like a nightmare! I promise you, he will grow out of it, though that doesn't help you now. In the mean time, don't feel bad for doing whatever is easiest for you.

My DD was only happy if I sang songs (with actions!) like a loon. I am proud to say I have about 90 mins of non-stop nursery hits in my repertoire!

Nanny0gg · 23/10/2015 13:27

It sounds perfectly normal to me. Mine always started screaming as soon as we went inside a shop.

And if walking on reins they would throw themselves down and refuse to walk.

It will pass...

slightlyconfused85 · 23/10/2015 13:58

My DD hated the buggy, screamed every time unless eating or occasionally sleeping. I gave up on it at 2 and got one of those back pack carriers for bigger kids. At about 2.5 she got stronger and less tired and was happy to walk with the occasionally carry. she's 3 in a couple of weeks and now walks everywhere, quite long distances. I feel for you as it always looks as though everyone else's child will sit for hours in the buggy- you're not alone

slightlyconfused85 · 23/10/2015 14:03

I would never have got a thing done if I hadn't allowed eating in the buggy! My standards are low...

HaydeeofMonteCristo · 23/10/2015 14:04

My 20 a month old is much happier in the really cheapy pushchair we have just bought than in a more expensive "carriage". Because it sits completely upright. Is yours a bit reclining? You describe it as a pram, so I wondered if he's somewhat outgrown it.

EponasWildDaughter · 23/10/2015 14:15

I have a rough time limit with DD4 (21 months) and if i stick to it i find we can stay tantrum free.

We go out when she's not tired or hungry, and she'll sit in the buggy or trolly and be pushed about for a while, but i'd say 30/40 mins is tops. And that's if we're in and out of places with plenty to see and hear, and i keep moving as much as poss.

2 whole minutes of me stopping to look at shoes or make up is enough to start the wriggling and squeaking.

d270r0 · 23/10/2015 14:17

Agree with Goblin- toddlers get really bored in the stroller for long periods of time (as in more than about half an hour). They want attention and some will be a bit scared/nervous of new places and lots of people, and feel trapped. Hence why I do my shopping online. Yes I like shopping- but too much hassle with the kids. So would rather leave them with parents/grandparents and go out for the day occasionally. I do go to shops other times with the kids, but only for half an hour or so, much too stressful otherwise.

Topseyt · 23/10/2015 14:17

I have to admit that I just ignored mine when they sat and screamed in the buggy, beyond checking quickly that nothing was making them uncomfortable.

As far as I was concerned whether they went in the buggy or not was my decision, not theirs, whether they liked it or not. If I had to I would walk down the street with a screamer in the buggy and I refused to pander to them at all.

Oddly enough, it was a phase that didn't last, and they seem to have survived intact.

So, yes I would ignore it. That was what I did. Nerves of steel can be necessary, but I don't regret it.

HaydeeofMonteCristo · 23/10/2015 14:24

Also I agree that keeping toddlers in a buggy or pram for a couple of hours is too long.

WorldsBiggestGrotbag · 23/10/2015 14:25

The thing is I just wouldn't find life at all enjoyable if I was regularly walking down the street with a screaming toddler in a pushchair. It's not about pandering to the toddler, I wouldn't put myself through it as it would stress me out.

Topseyt · 23/10/2015 15:09

I didn't do it for the sake of it, but I can't say I let it bother me if I did have to do it.

I ignored them. I can assure anyone that neither my kids nor I suffered for it.

PeppaWellington · 23/10/2015 15:19

If it's mostly when you're indoors, might he be getting static shocks from the buggy? I used to find this with a Maclaren - I found the solution was to make sure I had a hand/finger on a metal bit at all time we were on a floor that was static-y.

Jw35 · 23/10/2015 16:03

Bit harsh Topseyt I don't think leaving them to scream is fair on anyone, least of all them.

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