Hi All, AIBU?
I started my maternity leave this week and I've had a particularly hard pregnancy with some complications that have made me feel very tired. My husband and I have a 3 and a half year old already which obviously keeps us on our toes. My husband has started a new job and has been doing early shifts for several weeks but gets two days off a week. He sometimes takes overtime but this is obviously his choice.
In respect of domestic chores he does nothing! Apart from washing up all the other housework I do and have done despite working full time. I have asked him for more help but he hasn't bothered if I'm honest. I also bath and do the bedtime routine with our child.
He has a day off tomorrow and mentioned how pleased he was to be getting a lie in! I reminded him that I was 38 weeks pregnant and it should be me getting the lie in! He continued to say he had done earlies for weeks. I then reminded him that I have been carrying his child for 9 months and I am due to give birth in two weeks time!! I said I found it worrying and upsetting that he did not see or even consider my point of view.
I appreciate that he works long hours but he is physically well. He then started saying that he works long hours to bring the money in for the family and started to make me feel guilty because I wanted a new washing machine because our other one had broken. He then had the nerve to tell me to get another job as well as my full time one!!!!
He did used to have our daughter in the afternoons whilst I was at work after he had done a very early shift and all he did was bring that into the equation. I then reminded him that when I have our daughter I am trying to catch up on domestic chores that he could have done the odd few during the week. I only talking about putting a wash on or folding up washing. We even have a rota he never follows!!!!