To,ask for a suitable punishment?

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For ds. He is 12. In y7. First year of seniors for those of us who still use that system.

I have just seen 'the planner'. The book I am supposed to see every week.

I have apparently signed this every week for the last month and a bit.

My signature looks awful! I have even spelled my name wrong. It's only 4 letters, I have been writing it for the best part of 40 years

I have also been using the wrong pen. I always write in my Parker cartridge pen. Never a biro.

The teachers have signed underneath these obvious forgeries.

So do your worst! Teach the lying little pre-teen some honesty please?

But little things like drinks and PE kits....it doesn't affect you, only him.

If he doesn't have a drink he will be thirsty.
If he doesn't have the right PE kit, he will get whatever punishment the school dishes out
If he doesn't have a coat he will get wet.
Year 6 to year 7 is a massive learning curve. They get there in the end

fred signing planners at our school is so you know what homework they have and you can monitor any comments from teachers (either good or bad).

The problem is, my friends ds (in year 7 with my dd) has had 8 detentions and 3 full day isolations. His planner has gone missing every week in a failed attempt to hide it. Of course the school then email his mum. Costs £4 a time to replace. So it's cost her a fortune and he hasn't got away with anything

What doesn't ever make sense to me is the fact secondary schools harp on and on about them taking responsibility and dish out detentions like hot dinners for forgetting things first time - yet expect them to remember an extra thing (planner being signed) and want parents to check it and chase up homework etc.

It sounds like you need a good chat with him re organisation. I'd leave the planner bit out.perhaps come up with a job lists for morning that he can work through - if he does it all then you give him his phone.

Axe my ds school and my friends DD school (different) also write the negative things in planner as well as email or put on student portal.
I HATE it. Email the parents - fine. Write it in the child planner that they see it every time they write in homework - not fine. Afaic once you've done the consequence it's finished. But then I'm of that opinion because since starting secondary 7 weeks ago my ds has had 1 negative behaviour point for being off task and 1 10 min lunchtime DT for being off task again in that lesson. They are logged in his planner - written in red and purple ink. Nowhere, not once, have they logged the 28 merit points he's got. I do not agree with just recording the negatives or punishment being used and logged and parents having to sign for it as a way to get children to behave.
What is the school doing and putting in place for the child who is clearly struggling?

Both of my dc forge my signature in their planners.
I do look through them and I receive an email once a week from school detailing their behaviour. Therefore, there are no surprises in the planner. The planner is their responsibility and helps them plan their school day
It needs to be signed every week or they get a detention.
I haven't signed their planners this school year.
My son is especially good at my signature.

I would neverhave forged a signature either & tbh would be livid if one of mine did it.

Perhaps if it's too much for a child to pass the planner to a parent or for a parent to sign it once a week then that should be taken up with the school?

Is secondary really such a big leap from primary ?

Is there really such a lot more to remember?

I'm sure some kids are lazy/forgetful, but here we had a timetable from day one in primary, so looking at it & packing bag the night before was just second nature by secondary, as was looking in your homework book to see if you'd done everything.
Admittedly school age is 6, but primary is only four years!