Clearly iabu and my judgey pants are on

[m0therofdragons]

I'm on a housing association fb page that's run by a friend. Most members are living in ha as that's the point but a few of us are on it for other reasons. It's usually a supportive community page with a bit of chat. Friend often puts questions to start a conversation and today's question is how many children do you have?
The answers have shocked me. Most are more than 4 with quite a few with 7 and 9.
I can't help thinking that if you asked people who don't live in ha housing in this area how many dc they have the answers would mostly be 2 or 3.
Suddenly I'm feeling all dm but it's hard not to think that having a dc every 3 years and living in ha has become a lifestyle option for some and that seems wrong to me.
I absolutely think ha is essential and people work very hard for too little money but that doesn't mean you can just keep having babies. Well actually it apparently does.
I just always assumed it was the dm making daft headlines but it seems it may actually be true.

Are you basing this on the assumption that HA = not working?

And why are you even on that page if you don't have an HA home?

do you have proof they are on benefits? yabu very fucking judgy these people might be working very hard but live in an area where it is cheaper to live in social housing the difference in my area is up to £300 pcm and its not guaranteed accommodation is it so why go private to satisfy you and what you want?

not everyone can get a mortgage not everyone wants one i meet people who can afford it but live in fear of losing their job no job no house at least if you rent its a roof over your head

jesus op think before you post such judgmental drivel

I was going to say blended families - one of my friends, if you ask her how many children her and her DH have, would say "5" but as 3 are from his first marriage and don't live with them, if they were in the situation of having to claim benefits, they would only be able to claim for the 2 that live with them, but she would never say "we have 2 children" - at a push, she might say that she has 2 children, plus 3 step children, but would never say she has just 2 DCs.

Can you imagine what hard work it would be to have 7 or 9 children? If it is a lifestyle choice, it's far from a lazy one.

Much easier to get a job and not bother with kids if you were lazy, I'd have thought.

My Sister has 10 children. No job and a DP who works full time. I have 2 children, a full time job in a school and a DH who works away often. I know which of us works hardest and it sure as shit isn't me. Choosing to have so many children isn't a choice I'm prepared to make because I'm content with 2 (plus I'm more than a little selfish). But she certainly isn't lazy.

Not sure I ever said they were in benefits or lazy - work is definitely easier than looking after dc!

Sounds like an estate of much larger than avg properties hence why so many kids.

Almost all the women I know with 5+ children are home-owners.
Of the people I know in HA properties, they have
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7 children in each household.