Dc1 has come home upset are they BU?

[systemusername]

I have name changed so other posts aren't linked. If you do recognise me please don't out me. Dc1 is in secondary school and has SN. Many of the sn pupils have fidget tangles to aid concentration.
The senco in school gives these tangles out but some parents have purchased spares.

There has never been an issue with this. The school however have a new acting head who seems to be trying to assert her position. Today she has said in assembly allegedly that tangles must be used in pockets and If she sees any child using theirs out of their pocket she's going to go round and confiscate EVERYONES.

DC1 is distraught. A. They are struggling at the moment and struggling with anxiety and b . They are rather protective about belongings and often has panic attacks if they think they have lost something and HATES if things feel unjust.

I have no issue with backing school rules but taking an sn aid from an sn child on the basis of another childs actions seems a bit mean.

DC1 is really struggling at the moment and I have been struggling to get them to go to school and now they are worked up over this.

The problem with calm and reasonable catford is that many of us have been being calm and reasonable for years (approximately nine years in my case) and nobody listens. I have been polite, not made a big deal, made a bigger deal but politely, asked for help, begged for help. It is especially difficult for parents of children who mask as is common with ASD. So dc1 may be quiet at school but anxiety and anger will have been building all day and they come home and explode. Screaming as though they are being murdered, thrown things, broke things, pushed and screamed some more until they are in an hysterical worn out mess.

Meanwhile the kids who cause trouble at school or whos parents have repeatedly kicked off are getting bags of help while mine has a breakdown and panic attacks.

So have you talked to the head and clarified what she said. You need to explain why they are important

systemusername

My comment is about some of the advice given to you on this thread. You have been urged, as a first course of action, to:

1. Contact the LEA
2. Threaten the school with press exposure
3. Allow your child to contact the police
4. Invoke the Geneva Convention
5. Consider 'ripping a new bumhole' in the Headteacher.

In addition, the Head has been simply written off as a "petty wannabe" or on a "power trip" before s/he has had an opportunity to respond to your legitimate concern. (Please note that I have never said or suggested that you should not be concerned.).