To want to move soon?

[Polgara25]

The house we live in is owned (outright) by my DP. I sold my small flat, stuck the proceeds in a savings account and moved in with him.

Thing is, it's in a horrible area and is falling apart. I've offered to pay towards repairs but he declined.

The area is so bad I wouldn't even walk to the corner shop on my own after dark. Think smack heads fighting outside of the takeaway.

We're TTC. I've told him that I am not bringing children up round here. He agrees we can move before the youngest started school. However, I don't actually want to live here either myself.

We have plenty of money, that's not the issue.

I'm miserable - I moved from a lovely home in a decent area to this.

Start looking at houses. Do the feasibility- look, darling, we could afford this one which is in a pleasant area/ good schools etc, and the mortgage would only be x, which we could easily afford whatever happens. Make it clear that you want to move to a suitable home in joint names and then TTC.

At the moment he is clinging to what he has not seeing the life your new family could have.

"At the moment he is clinging to what he has not seeing the life your new family could have."

That, makes perfect sense.

I've booked three house viewings. He's agreed to go.

I think my DH couldn't visualise what difference a new home could make so he was sticking with what he knew. He would say that having a garden didn't matter but now we have one he is out there all the time. For him, living with something familiar but unsatisfactory was easier than making a change to something new.

Another point of view, quite prepared to be shot down, but you mention that you are perfectly able to buy a place on your own, you have money etc - do you think he is hanging on to the asset 'he' has because he feels threatened by your financial independence?