To not want dh and ds to visit PiL?

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Dh wants to take our ds to visit his parents in either January or February. I wouldn't be able to go. They live in Central Europe and dh wants to go with him one last time before ds turns 2 in April and the cost of his plane ticket goes up.

It would only be for 4 or 5 days but he's never been away from me for longer than 14 hours and I think he's still too young. I only work 2.5 days a week so he's used to having me there all the time.

I'm also pregnant (due in March) and I had a difficult time with spd in my last pregnancy - put on strict bedrest at 21 weeks for 3 weeks, then on crutches. By 32 weeks I couldn't walk to the end of my street and back, pick up something from the floor, or even get out of the bath without help. The spd is back and under control but I worry about being on my own if it gets bad again.

We are visiting his parents this week and I assume they'll come over in the spring when the baby's born. They're obviously welcome to visit any time in between. Aibu to not want dh and ds to go over there in Jan/Feb?

You might like a break and your spd may not be that bad. Could 3 days be an option?

I think you should let him book the tickets but on the condition that if your spd flares up, then he'll have to cancel the trip.

I can understand your worry about him missing you but I'm sure your ds will be ok and it will be good for his dad to take care of him on his own for a couple of days.

I think that when families live abroad it's important to be flexible. I know you've said they can visit but perhaps it would be good for your dh to spend time in his home country?

Can understand you feel anxious about it though, maybe plan lots of nice things with friends to stop you missing ds when he's gone.