Two very good friends of ours are finally tying the knot, but just got the invite and it is in six months in new Zealand as one of them is a kiwi. Bit of a shock but I was talking to dh and saying it is a bit inconvenient and short notice but we have to go as they are some of our best friends (both of them), godparents to our children, we have been hassling them about getting married for years since she caught the bouquet at our wedding etc etc. At this point I am pretty sure he agreed with me, even said something about doing some work in the office over there, and we both sat down and showed dd1 a globe and explained where it was, and why we were going. Then I started looking at flights.
Later dh got really stressy with me and said he didn't think we could go and that he hadn't agreed really I think he did but got worked up later and accused me of stressing him out looking at flights when the bottom line is we can't go. He is going for a promotion at work and doesn't know whether there will be something he needs to go to in six months (long drawn out process) and said if he signed up to going then it was like tempting fate and assuming he hadn't got the promotion.
Now I am torn. Luckily I haven't yet replied to say we would definitely be coming (nearly did after our first discussion) but at the same time I still feel that we should really go for all the previous stated reasons. I am pretty sure that at some point they were talking about wedding location and we encouraged them to have it there and said we would definitely come!
So now I am considering going without him, with my two dds (will be 2 and 4) which would obviously be pretty stressful for me, 24 hour flights and all, or toying with the idea that my mum could come.
So aibu to even consider taking them halfway round the globe without him? I am really torn because they are really good friends and I dont want to say no, but don't want to stress dh out any more than he already is.