Firstly, I will say that I accept if I AM BU because I do tend to be very sensitive at times...and especially to language and the way it's used.
Ok. MIL speaks to her 2 year old grandson (SILS child) in a very specific way...she does not and has never said these things or similar to my two girls (who she has also adored) my girls are 7 and 11.
She will say to my little nephew the following when she's looking after him
"Oh he likes to be in charge...are you supervising the girls?"
"Here he is...look at him, managing things!"
"Oh he's such a little man! Isn't he? He's SUCH a man."
For eg. he will run off with a tool or something and she says "He;ll give it back when he is ready to...he's just letting us know whose in charge."
The constant references to him being in charge, managing, supervising etc are REALLY getting my goat and I think there's an ingrained sexism to it.
AIBU?
Today she said something along these lines and I couldn't help myself...she always says it in front of my girls and I don't want them thinking this crap is true...so I said "You might find that telling him he's in charge so much comes back to haunt you when he's 6 and isn't so pliable"
I said it in a light fashion.
She didn't say anything. But I'm right...I think.