To think that 10 year old girls who aren't great at friendship...

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Might get better? Dd may or may not be a bit rubbish at friendship; dh sees nothing wrong, I see a girl who really loves being around people but is not all that great at the business of friendship and a bit fickle. She is talking a lot at the moment about not being included in gangs/games and I'll admit that sometimes I could see why. She does like her ideas to be heard and isn't great at being told what to do. Dh thinks she's ten and that I should let her get on with it. I agree with him to an extent.
I want a crystal ball though-I want to know that young kids get better at friendship with age.
Anyone have a daughter who struggled about with friendship but got better at it?

I have a ds with ADHD and you can teach better social skills. it's took me a while to develop his proper responses to other people ie trying to show some sympathy when someone is hurt and not laughing, going asking how they are. Currently working on how to play well - taking turns, listening - responding appropriately. it's not easy but we are getting there. Could you try some role play with dd on how she would handle different situations.

I am doing bits with dd in developing social skills; at the moment she seems to have trouble taking part in games others organise without taking over so we've rehearsed a "script" she could use in a similar situation. I also know that I've got to give her a bit of space-I kind of know too much almost and so want to help, but she's got to want me to help and not feel pressured (and sense the panic I often feel when hearing about friendship problems). But if she does have adhd, like me, she is going to have to learn what people often just absorb so I do want to help.

My dd is 11 and has lots of friends but not a particular best friend.
She speaks to groups and individuals but doesn't belong to any group and just likes to be herself and not have to bother being bitchy or over pally etc.

Some girls are like this, your dd will be fine and work out her own place.

I can so relate! My DD is 10, really struggles and I can see why people don't want to be friends with her.

She is very controlling and very 'bouncy', think Tigger on speed and we are in the process of trying to get a diagnosis of ADHD for her.

I have seen children physically recoil when she has bounced up to them to say hello! That is hard to swallow. I just need a way to get her to adulthood, when I am sure she will make some friends who see her for the awesome person she is!

She is so kind and bewildered when people behave in any way other than this to her!

Having said all this, my eldest DD, who is popular and lovely now sometimes had issues with friendships at school too. Not to the degree DD2 does but still upsetting at the time!