Let's solve most of AIBU

[beefthief]

Situation 1) A mum / a friend / a person you saw in the street is doing things in a way that you wouldn't. Their actions have no bearing on your life.

Ignore it and move on with your life, don't waste precious hours worrying about it.

Situation 2) Your normally reasonable other half has been doing something you don't like.

Decide if you can live with it, and if you can't, talk to him politely and like an adult, and work with them to resolve it.

Honestly, so many threads here would be so much easier if people weren't getting so worked up over the trivial annoyances that make up part of life. Not being so bloody nosy would also help

More seriously, sometimes abused women come here with what looks at first sight like a minor issue. It turns out to be part of a pattern of abuse.
I'd be very sad if they were discouraged from posting in the first place.

I think it should be 3 topics

Goady AIBUs
Petty AIBUs
Troll AIBUs

Alternatively post in a more suitable topic if you actually, genuinely want help. There is ALWAYS a better topic.

Oh give over Owl. Posts like your are one reason it needs to go.

It's a pit of unintelligent farce.

I have never seen LTB unless it is justified. A lot of people seem to accept a lot of shit in their relationships as normal

I agree with this and Lweji's post above. I've seen many an aibu over something petty moved to relationships once OP realises that their relationship is not normal.

It takes a bit of perseverance, some hard truths and sometimes a little reverse armchair pyschology for the OP to get to that point. And it doesn't always work straight away, often they come back time and time again and keep getting the same responses until one day they realise that people are trying to help them.

AIBU has become far more busy of late, seems to me that chat used to be the default place to post in (?) and that has now shifted to AIBU, that presumably leads to threads being put there because it has more traffic

I get the impression that new posters to the site think AIBU is the whole talk section.
Probably because of seeing some bizarre thread highlighted on The Wright Stuff/loose Women/The Fail and coming for a look hoping for more of the same.

I think it's just because AIBU is at the top of the list. I blame the alphabet.

And because its posts come up most in the trending box.

Which list Fair? Is than on the mobile site?

Trending (or Most Active as it should have remained) is a real PITA when you have topics hidden because it doesn't allow for that.

Laptop, 'Popular talk forums' at the bottom of the page. Don't know if it's there on mobile.

Ah yes. I see it there now. I have never scrolled down to the bottom with all the small writing. I might use that now.

It would be great if we could customise the list.

Situation 87. The frozen badger you accidentally repeatedly clubbed the person who parked in front of your drive has defrosted and zombified and is now getting jiggy with the lazy susan.

Solution - Smash the badger's brain, bleach the whole table, dispose of the body in a layby dustbin at least 20 miles from your house, change your car tyres, under no circumstances visit the disposal scene for a month. Kill the person who sold you the tyres and dispose of the body in a similar way.

Yes I would love to customise the 'Trending' list.

I proposed renaming it Petty Gripes about 4 years ago. It would solve SO many of the issues people have with AIBU.

AIBU exists for the same reason Jeremy Kyle, the Coliseum, and public flogging do.

Sorry, it was 3 years ago but hq don't care, see

Their actions have no bearing on your life.
The irony.

I think OPs should have a special "YANBU only please" flag they can add so nobody accidentally wastes their time answering if it is one of those "IANBU and don't your dare tell me otherwise" posters.

OP, you are doing just what you complain about in Situation A.

As others have said, a chat board is for chatting. The premise of the chat needn't be profound, original or pleasing to all. If you aren't interested, the beauty if that you can move right along.

It's just people having conversations. If you don't want to join in the conversation then don't!

I think where your idea falls down is that many of the partners aren't normally reasonable.

Often the OP is posting about something that's the tip of the iceberg.

Sometimes the OP is on the verge of realising that and posting about it brings it home. I actually think many people don't post about trivial issues with their DP. They just wouldn't bother.