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To think this was entirely gross?

49 replies

MotherBluestocking · 10/10/2015 23:32

Queueing for the loo in a coffee shop today. Two loos, one disabled, one unisex. Enormous queue. Woman with toddler went into the corner of the little lobby where the loos were; toddler weed into a paper cup. Which she left there.
Had a wwyd conversation with husband subsequently; I would have asked to jump the queue (especially as one of the cubicles was disabled); he would have taken the cup with him.
But leaving a paper cup full of wee?

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WorraLiberty · 10/10/2015 23:34

Was anyone using the disabled toilet?

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MotherBluestocking · 10/10/2015 23:35

Yes. The unisex one was occupied throughout the time I was queueing so people were using the disabled one indiscriminately.

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WorraLiberty · 10/10/2015 23:37

Yeah it's gross anyway.

I would have taken him outside if he was genuinely bursting, and found a drain or a tree or something.

reman · 10/10/2015 23:38

GROSS

Unreasonablebetty · 10/10/2015 23:39

Just a bit!!
We've always got contingency plans if DD really needs a wee and there's a huge queue-
Either my husband checks the men's quickly, ushers her in to a stall and she wees then,
Or if there's a disabled toilet that isn't in use- providing there isn't a disabled person on the way to the toilet I tell her that she is to do the quickest wee ever and go in there...

I can see there could in hindsight be a few issues with either way we deal with huge queues but so far all has been well. And no ones pissed in a cup With strangers watching!

MinecraftWonder · 10/10/2015 23:41

Mine have weed into a plastic bottle more than once when there's genuinely no other option.

But in PRIVATE. Not in a lobby FFS. I agree, totally gross and unnecessary.

teeththief · 10/10/2015 23:41

Apart from the fact she left it there, I don't see the problem. He didn't wee in the toilet, surely weeing in a cup is the same as weeing in a drain or a tree which apparently is acceptable

teeththief · 10/10/2015 23:42

But males wee in urinals in front on one another all the time. It was a toddler who couldnt wait. I really don't see the problem

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MotherBluestocking · 10/10/2015 23:44

But she left it there! Wee! In a cup! In a coffee shop!

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cozietoesie · 10/10/2015 23:47

Maybe she put it down and having a toddler on her hands, simply forgot about it for a moment? (Until it was too late to do anything about it.) I'd just have disposed of it quietly.

Tiggeryoubastard · 10/10/2015 23:48

The wearing in a cup for a toddler in need was understandable. The filthy cow to leave it though. Scratter, as the kids here say.

teeththief · 10/10/2015 23:48

She's teaching him resourcefulness! Toddlers need to go when they need to go. Maybe she panicked and didn't know what to do with it

Tiggeryoubastard · 10/10/2015 23:48

Wearing, not wearing. That would be messy.

sparkleup · 10/10/2015 23:48

I always carry one of those potties with bags with us in case this happens. Try to ensure they get some privacy and we can easily take it with us to dispose of. Having said that if I were that desperate I'd have used the cup, but I would not have left it there.

TheSwallowingHandmaiden · 10/10/2015 23:48

I think it's okay to leave wee in the vicinity of a toilet. Wandering around with a cup of wee brings with it a different level of 'what the..?'

HirplesWithHaggis · 10/10/2015 23:49

How big was this coffee shop that there was a queue for the loos? Confused

Tiggeryoubastard · 10/10/2015 23:49

Balls! WEEING!

dodobookends · 10/10/2015 23:49

Surely no-one's going to mind if a small child is bursting and has to use the disabled loo because they can't hold on any longer?

MilkTwoSugarsThanks · 10/10/2015 23:49

What could she have done with it though?

Perhaps the coffee shop needs better facilities!

AliceMum09 · 10/10/2015 23:50

This is why I love my pottette portable potty for my 3 year old! Although I think I would have asked if people in the queue would let us go next before using it inside a building (it's usually for the park/beach where it's quite a trek to the nearest toilet). I would have let DD use the potty, tied the bag up and taken it with me.

WorraLiberty · 10/10/2015 23:51

Oh I've just realised the cup was a paper one Blush

Not quite as gross as I thought then.

I was thinking cup and saucer!

Still, leaving it there was gross though.

Notcontent · 10/10/2015 23:57

I think with toddlers you just do whatever you need to do. I used to carry one of those portable potties with a plastic bag that others have mentioned and dd used it in all sorts of unusual places, like in a street by some rubbish bins! I think there is a chronic shortage of public toilets in the uk.

cozietoesie · 11/10/2015 00:02

It really wouldn't bother me - sounds as if she thought she was doing the right thing by using a paper cup. So she got it wrong........

Gross for me would be having to do a mother cat and drink/eat the waste products and then lick bottoms clean. Humans have it good I think.

SilverdaleGlen · 11/10/2015 00:10

No sorry why the fuck should a member of staff have to come along and deal with a cup full of piss?

You lot defending her are barking!

I have 3dcs and have never and would never resort to that.

LondonKitty · 11/10/2015 00:14

I've lots of questions about the facilities of this coffee shop and why on earth there was such a queue.

I don't think it's unreasonable for a parent to be caught out without a back up plan for a small child. Shit happens (in this case, luckily not literally...Wink).

I'd get over it. If the disabled loo was being used and no-one was offering to give up their queue spot, then quite frankly I think she was resourceful. I would hope that I would have been as enterprising if put on the spot - far better than a teeny little guy in a crisis. And I wouldn't walk out of the loo with a toddler in one hand and a cup of wee and my bags in the other. That would be silly and the absolutely unavoidable outcome (I'd never claim super co-ordination) would be even more gross. Sorry, but I'd leave it there.

It would be taken care of by staff who I would assume are used to dealing with the consequences of not enough toilets (a situation that has not quite fully been explained).