To think this was entirely gross?

[MotherBluestocking]

Queueing for the loo in a coffee shop today. Two loos, one disabled, one unisex. Enormous queue. Woman with toddler went into the corner of the little lobby where the loos were; toddler weed into a paper cup. Which she left there.
Had a wwyd conversation with husband subsequently; I would have asked to jump the queue (especially as one of the cubicles was disabled); he would have taken the cup with him.
But leaving a paper cup full of wee?

Or you could, crisis averted, do the decent thing and wait as you would have had to for the q to go then empty it in the loo and bin the cup.

Fucking disgusting to leave it there. Who wants to smell piss when they're trying to have a cup of coffee? I hope it didn't get knocked over onto anyone!

Yes it's gross! Go somewherelse or go outside!
I can't believe people actually think it's ok for their kids to wee in a takeaway cup in a coffeeshop!
Sure the poor staff won't mind clearing it up.
If i'd have worked there and seen it they would have been taking it home with them.

london no in over a decade of working i have never had to deal with piss because somebody couldn't wait to use the loo.

London it is people like you that make me glad I don't work in retail any more.

When you work in a coffee shop you do not also agree to handle cups of people's piss.

Although the fact you would leave it there speaks volume about the entitled sort of person you are, so perhaps I shouldn't be surprised.

I would have asked to jump the queue, most people would understand that a toddler can't wait.

As for the cup of wee she could have picked it up and waited her turn in the queue to dispose of it in the toilet/bin.

The op is not about 'someone' who couldn't wait to use the loo, it's very specifically about a toddler. I think that changes normal rules and conventions. It sounds like the staff were going to be clearning up wee one way or the other, be it on the floor because he couldn't hold on any more or (more conveniently) in a paper cup.

The circumstances in the toilets have not been fully explained - I really don't understand how queues in a coffee shop could possibly be so bad, but the op did stress that they were. It's hard to imagine that the mother felt this was her only resource. But, I have found toilet queues are not sympathetic to panicking toddlers, and this is why I sympathise with her.

The bottom line is she had to do something. We don't have enough information about whether going outside was a valid option. I agree in most circumstances it would seem to be, but if not (e.g. it would take too long), then she had to do something.

I read from the op that the wee was left in the toilets, not the coffee shop itself, but as I said, the details of the facilities on offer are not clear.

Sure, I agree that just leaving it there sounds a bit urggh, but it also sounds like it was a very stressful situation for her and I'm not willing to judge her as being any of the things you've called her (and me for putting forward that view ) without knowing more details.

What would you have said if she poured it down a sink? Walked into the coffee shop with it? Or indeed, if you had witnesses a humiliated and distressed toddler wet himself and wee all over the floor while his mother just looked on aghast?

We don't have enough details about why she left it there - she could have felt utterly mortified and just fled as fast as she could, after having such an unsympathetic (why didn't anyone offer to help/ let her into a cubicle?) audience to her personal drama. It's unlikely it was a personal snub on the staff.

Unless I'm told that this is her regular way of getting her dc to wee in public (which I very much doubt), then my reaction remains sympathetic.

For clarification: the coffee shop was in a shopping centre so I think there will have been non-customers in the queue. She could have taken him outside when she saw the queue in not much more time than it took her to fetch the paper cup.
As I left, I saw her sitting at a table with someone else, so, again, she could have left the toddler with him while she went to dispose of the cup.
I agree it can be very stressful when you're with a desperate toddler, which is why I was curious to know what other people thought of her rather extreme solution.

It was a cup of toddler wee. Not a steaming hot jug of pox. I'd have probably said pass it to me and I'll get rid of it for you when its my turn for the loo.

Gross, but yes, I would have allowed him to wee in the cup. then I would have waited in the queue to dispose of it in the toilet. Why on earth should someone else clean it up?! Even if he had weed on the floor I would have gone and asked for a mop and bucket to clean it up. It's not the staff's responsibility?!!!

Of course it's gross, haven't we all had young kids who need a wee badly, somehow we manage without having to resort to something like this. Apart from anything how on earth did she manage to get a toddler to get it in a cup anyway without it trickling on the floor. Did the mother wash her self afterwards, she must have got some of the wee on her hands?

She wnu to get to him to wee in a cup (although I would have asked to queue jump first) but she was beyond U to leave it there! Chuck wee down sink, rinse, and cup in bin.

She must have forgot I guess.

"No sorry why the fuck should a member of staff have to come along and deal with a cup full of piss?"

This! I agree emphatically.

Oh that's disgusting. eitger take the lid outside, plan your trips a bit better ie taken regular loo breaks until your child is reliable enough, or if your child can't wait long enough to get to a toilet then maybe they should be in.pull ups outside the house.

either way leaving cups of piss fir people is beyond disgusting.

The child was desperate, fair enough. But, take your piss-cup with you.

How anybody can think this is okay is beyond me. No respect for the people who work there.

I would have let my child wee in a cup, but then queued for the toilet still, emptied the cup and throw it in the bin and then washed hands.

I'm baffled anyone thinks it is okay to leave a cup of piss in a corner of a coffee shop. Baffled.

But then I was at a coffee shop once with a 'friend' I had met through baby group. She seemed normal and sensible, but changed her toddler's pooey nappy On The Table where we were about to be served our eggs on toast.

I could never look at her in the same way again. And FWIW, there was a bloody toilet right behind us.

Salem- i'm also glad i no longer work in retail! Can no longer take the entitledness of some people who expect staff to just do everything that isn't in the job description!
I had someone ask me to take and put their disabled grandmother on the toilet once. I have compassion, i also have broken disks in my but apparently this was not a good enough excuse.
Yes toddlers can't hold their wee, i don't judge them i do judge people who do this where people eat and leave it there
Sure if the coffee shop had a health inspection they would have loved that.

To leave a cup of piss for someone else to clean up is disgusting.

Not wanting to resurrect this, but I just read the OP's last post and it has rather changed my mind. That doesn't sound like the sort of desperate situation I was imagining (and I have been in a couple of desperate situations, I was imagining those). While admittedly I couldn't think of a situation where I would leave a cup of toddlers wee behind without disposing of it, given the lack of help and empathy I have had in similar urgent toddler situations, I wasn't willing to judge the woman without knowing more about her situation and how she was feeling (we all make rash decisions under stress). It can be dreadfully stressful to have a panicking toddler and no help, (and indeed weeing in a paper cup sounded a solution I would have jumped at in the past if I had thought of it, or a cup had been available...Don't ask...). However, now that you have described her available companion and how near outside was, then I've lost all sympathy. I will happily concede to peer pressure and boak and judge with everyone else.

Kali110 Did you do it, put her on the loo?