To correct people who pronounce my name incorrectly?

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It can get a bit embarrassing as no matter how many times I do it, some people insist on (for example) Louise not Louisa.

Are there any ways you can make it clear it's irritating but still be polite?

It happens to me all the time. I just respond with My Name Is ...., not arsey or anything, just matter of fact. If you leave it too long it gets embarrassing so better to say something straight off.

No you can't. If they persist, your only option is to scream loudly in their face...

People do this this my surname all the time,...they also misspell it even after I have spelled it out to them.it isn't even difficult..it's spelt exactly as it sounds... I am sad to say I have given up....when they ask how to spell it I just say 'anyway you like,...cos you will anyway'

Yanbu. You know how to say YOUR name they don't... You shouldn't have to repeat yourself more than once.

I have had this all my life. Drives me crazy. Call it being called Carolyn instead of Caroline. I'll say, for example "it's Caro-line" and I have actually had this reply: "oh yes, Carolyn, that's how I pronounce it".

I have had to develop a nickname instead. But I have found that I LOVE people who say my name correctly.

It's perfectly polite to just correct people! Don't overthink it.

I would go for boring people into submission. Really, it's bloody rude of them.

We have had a lot of threads like this recently. It doesn't bother me what people call me - and I have a genereic name that people have thier own versions of, (think -- Chris/Christine/Christina/Cath/Catherin/Cathy/Cate Susanne/susan/susie/susanna/sue - type of thing.)

However if it does bother you you should correct them.

I have this issue, it's usually (not always) OK if it's written down but if I tell people my name they usually decide I've said something else (FE: I say "hello, my name it Caitlyn", they insist therefore after that my name is 'Cathrine'). I even try and joke by saying "ah, no it's actually Caitlyn, goodness I wish I'd been called that, spare confusion!", still don't get embarrased into using the 'right name'. I wouldn't mind, but I've had people (teachers) in the past actually shout at me for not answering to my 'name', even though they have been calling me something totally different - even 'Stacey' once (note, Stacey is nowhere near my actual name). I seem to bring out severe name-amnisea in people.

MrsGentlyBenevolent

I can sympathise about teachers using the wrong name.

On my first day at secondary school, the form tutor took a look at my very unusual first name in the register and decided instead to call out my middle name.

A name that I've never actually used (and no-one else had called me this either). My unusual first name is not at all difficult to pronounce

Luckily a friend of mine gave me a nudge and said "she might be calling you".

She threatened me with detention for not answering, but I was very polite when I said that I hadn't answered because I hadn't realised she was calling me, as no-one ever used that name for me. I think she backtracked at that point because at that school teachers had to write down why they were giving out detentions, and she must have realised she'd have looked a tit writing down that it was for not answering to the wrong name, especially as in a room full of witnesses, it was clear I was being very polite.

Happens to me and my one of my son's constantly outwith the place we live. We both just answer to anything really. It's not usually people we will be meeting again but it's easier just to ignore it for us

Jeez, Raspberry that's awful! You're braver than me though, as an introvert at school, I usually went bright red and apologised to them for getting it wrong. I don't totally blame people for trying to 'change' my name, it is unusual and quite horrid, I'd pretend I hadn't heard it properly either if I were them (it's one of those names MN would say 'think of their career when they're older, no judge would be called that' type of one).

I've got a twist on this. My DM pronounces my name incorrectly. So, she chose it, but insists on saying it in a strange wat. Everyone and their chinchilla call me by a shortened version, so no one else to irk. Just her, and by jove, it's fugly the way she pronounces it. But there would be humphiness if I correct, so I just bite myt tongue.

Think Victor-Ya not Victor-Ia.

I have an 'a' on the end of my name, as opposed to an 'e'. I correct, every single bloody time. I'm 57. If you can read, read it properly!

I have a very unusual/foreign name that people never get right if I havent said how to say it (so if they are calling me first time after an email etc) but once I have told how it is said most get it right after that (because it really is very very easy to pronounce). However I once knew a woman who just didnt get it right even after 5 times of me telling her how to say it and would insist on calling me with completely wrong name. It just made me laugh.

What I hate though is that people who answer my emails get it wrong constantly even though my name is there (twice I may add as I have it in my signature too). They use the same letters that are in my name but in a weird order (think carileno instead caroline) and its always the same even with different people and it cant be a simple typo as the letters are not next to eachothers on the keyboard etc. I have the urge to then spell their name wrong but unfortunately I dont think my manager would appreciate that.

On email, I deliberately spell their name wrongly. So if it were Louise and Louisa in my case, and the correspondent were called Iain, I respond with Ian.

Verbally, after a couple of mistakes by them I say firmly but kindly, it's Louisa actually, not Louise, with an a at the end. And give a huge grin.

And I gave to do this often. But it's good for them. Widens their horizons and teaches them yo loud ten mire carefully.

Have to to this often. But it's good for them. Broadens their horizons and teaches them to listen more carefully, even.

I have a foreign name and answer to anything remotely similar sounding. Think Anaïs but I'll answer to Anne or Anna. I am bored by the same conversation over and over, so Anne is close enough for me.

My first name sounds similar to a frozen character but it isn't.

I do get sick of correcting people.

But of course YANBU, I am just defeated by now.

When I was at school there was one particular teacher who, without fail, pronounced my name and my best friend's name wrongly. We were sure she did it deliberately. I tried correcting her but was told off for being rude and that it didn't matter how she pronounced our names, we knew she was talking to us! She would also spell mine wrongly on certificates for gymnastics etc.

I got really fed up of it so I started calling her by slightly different versions of her name. She was called Mrs Richards so I would say, ever so sweetly, Mrs Richardson, Mrs Rickard, Mrs Ricketts. When she corrected me I said it didn't matter what name I called her, she knew I was talking to her!

She managed to get our names right after that.

I had a poster on mn trying to wind me up calling me Rennie and I smirked a little- little does she know how usual that is for me, just like RL!

DH called our neighbour Irene or Eileen for years. Her name was Elaine. He just couldn't remember however many times I reminded him!

YANBU but I'm another one who has given up.
My mother made my name up, and I was born in another country so no one in the UK has a chance of pronouncing it correctly. I call myself by a shortening that sounds like a boys name so a lot of people try and feminise it.
I now answer to anything that sounds vaguely like it starts with the correct letter of the alphabet.