To correct people who pronounce my name incorrectly?

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It can get a bit embarrassing as no matter how many times I do it, some people insist on (for example) Louise not Louisa.

Are there any ways you can make it clear it's irritating but still be polite?

You could correct for a first mistake. If you are repeatedly called Anne but your name is Anaïs, call Sarah Zara and Mark Marcus. Any complaint, apologise with a smile and say, oh well whilst we're at it, I'm not Anne, either.

My dd is Joanna, now she is usually Jo but when she was small we used to chorus A...at the incessant Joannes. It was worse because I love the name Joanna and am not keen on Joanne. What a difference an 'a' makes.
As I say, I'm 57 and still doing it!

I know a Carolyn who gave up and called herself Carol because she got so tired of being called Caroline.
I always spell my surname but people still put in an extra letter, or change one of the vowels. Very annoying.

I know a Caroline with the opposite problem (she is generally known as Cally.) It's must be frustrating - 'line' and 'lynn' don't sound alike!

I get called Anna a LOT, and embarrassingly I never know if people genuinely think it's my name or if they naturally drop H's.

Chaos, I know what your name is Deirdre

Nobody can pronounce my name. I just use a nickname instead.

I don't tend to think less of people for getting it wrong. I think sometimes, people go with what they know or their best guess. Unless it's deliberate, I think I'm inclined to just let it go.

My name has two possible pronunciations and two possible spellings. I don't think I've every corrected anyone on pronunciation, and only bothered with spelling on things that matter like official paperwork. For me I find that not giving a shit works pretty well.

You are certainly not being unreasonable to keep correcting people, they should make an effort to get your name right, I certainly would. However I think this is one of those things that is a losing battle and you'll only succeed in getting more annoyed by it while having very little effect. I agree you shouldn't have to accept people getting your name wrong, but learning to ignore it is probably the best approach I'm afraid.

I do my best to say names correctly, given I'd had issues myself.

And always try to wite the name correctly, even using copy/paste at times to be sure.

Otherwise it's rude.

But if I can't hear those extra sounds in someone's else's language, I'm not going to be able to replicate them, I'll be saying your name in the way that I hear you say it. And with no intent to be rude.

I was recently called through to a medical appt by someone who got my name completely wrong. Firstly, they called my middle name instead of my first name, then they got that wrong too. They called Carly. My middle name is Caryl (Welsh for Carol). When I realised it was me she was calling (she mispronounced my surname too) I told her that was my middle name and that it was actually Caryl. She told me it wasn't spelled like that! Then she tried to carry on calling me by that name instead of my first name.

She was bonkers though. :)

My first name is often mispronounced. I usually just say it correctly, then answer the question asked or agree with the statement that is being discussed without making much of an issue about it.

But then my parents saddled me with 2 names that aren't 'normal' spellings. And both of my surnames (pre and post marriage) are ones that are prone to be mis spelled and said wrong ever so slightly.

Even DD (who I gave very straightforward names to, to avoid such problems) has come home to ask exactly what her surname is as we say it one way and school says it another. I wouldn't mind, but SIL works there as a LSA and has just given in with the way they say her surname, so the teachers all assumed that DD's was pronounced the same way, when it isn't (and nor is SIL's).

It really bugs me when people say Ny-oh-me instead of Naomi... and it's not even my name!