to think you don't need an audience every time you go to toilet?

[BigOCupOfTea]

Just that.

Why do so many people on here allow their children to follow them into the toilet every single time they go?

[DinosaursRoar]

If DH isn't in the house, then I leave the door open as my DCs do tend to want me the moment I sit down, and either I let them wander in, or half way through a piss I've got a tantruming toddler outside the door, I can either let them cry (getting more and more wound up so by the time I flush it's reached the sort of epic proportions that she's forgotten what it was she first wanted and now will take half an hour or me cracking and sticking on cbeebies to stop sobbing) or I can stop mid stream to waddle over with knickers round my knees to open the door and find out the crisis is. (It's usually not a big deal, DC2 wants to show me something right this second and then is happy to skip off).

They are getting better at leaving me to go in peace. (although DC1 does have a fabulous habit of deciding he needs the loo the second I go and just hops outside the door encouraging me to hurry up.)

If you don't have a child that howls when you leave the room, then enjoy it. For some, just going quietly to the loo in peace isn't an option, it's either with company or with a soundtrack of tears and tantrums.

[Therewasanoldladywho]

We sometimes have me, dh, baby and the cat in the bathroom when one of us is peeing. We call it family bathroom time and have no problem with it!

[liquidrevolution]

It started because DD would cry if I disappeared off for a toilet break. Then she was fine but I needed to keep an eye on her as she was walking/crawling.

Now I think its good for her to see me use the toilet. She even wants her nappy changed in there now . We wave goodbye to the wee/poo when I flush

[BigOCupOfTea]

I just remember a poster saying once that she was putting a tampon in and her child opening her legs to see where it had gone.

I just don't get it.

Guess thats why we are all so different..

[unlucky83]

I come from a very closed door uptight family ... I then have lived with lots of different people with different approaches (the flat mate who put a tampon in in front of me and whose sister asked me to scrub her back in the bath I thought was taking it a bit far )
In my own family we have an 'open door' bathroom policy. DCs now 8 and 14 and they do close the door sometimes but I will knock and walk in if I want something from the bathroom and I will sit on the loo and chat to them, I walk around naked/half dressed. Not in front of visitors/their friends though! They came in with me as toddlers, it helped to make periods just part of life. Even the cat comes in with me...if the door is ajar it will push it open - especially at bedtime as it is telling me to be quick it wants its bedtime stroke. DP (only male) is a bit more discreet ... I think we have a happy balance.

[sproketmx]

I hear ya op. I've got a door with locks and a baby gate on mine . Learned my lesson years ago

[TuckingFablet]

Mine has to come everywhere with me because if I leave her for 30 seconds she climbs on the coffee table and pulls everything off the shelf. I've moved everything off the shelf now, but she still climbs up there and sits on the shelf. I would rather have her with me than have to take a trip to a&e. Do you have toddlers? If you stand they are happy to be left alone without causing chaos then good for you.

[Katedotness1963]

I never let my kids into the bathroom with me and I never had tantruming outside the door. I'm so uptight I lock the loo door even if I'm home alone though...

[Gileswithachainsaw]

mine were always put in the cot or play pen when small. if they cried they cried.

they walked in at times as toddlers and were sent back out.

I don't let them in now unless they are desperate and I'm in the bath.

but I can't be doing with being followed to the toilet.

others do as they see fit

[TheImprobableGirl]

Haha gosh imagine actually letting dd2 aka devil spawn out of sight??! She would be riding the wall mounted telly by the time I had a wee, let alone a poo!!

[Gruntfuttock]

*My dd still follows me into the loo sometimes and she is 12. I have even had a conversation with my neice 33 whilst I have been on the loo!"

I can't fathom why people of that age would want to do that. Babies and toddlers, yes, but 12 and 33!

[beetrootpickle]

I could take phone calls, go to the loo and take a shower all by myself when mine were toddlers.

I had a secret weapon playpen fllled with exciting toys noisy flashing lights plastic tat that only ever stayed in the playpen.

[diddl]

Can't see the problem tbh.

The door can be locked or not as people wish.

[DinosaursRoar]

Just to add, those who have DCs who come to the loo with them, rarely planned to have open door policies, I'm not naturally a "everyone see me shit" type person, I wouldn't piss or poo infront of DH (child birth excluded, obviously), nor would I change a tampon or saintary towel in front of him.

But while DC1 was a bit more relaxed about mummy leaving the room to have a wee in peace without following me all the time when he was a toddler (although he was another who if he wanted to talk to me, would expect the door to open), but DC2 is different, clingy as anything and it's just easier.

I would say "well, it's not like they'll be coming in to see me poo when they are 13" but it seems from up-thread it's a very real possiblity, thankfully, at 5 DC1 does seem to get that mummy would rather go alone now... (he just always wants to go when I do and hurries me)

[Amummyatlast]

My toddler can open the bathroom door, so I can't go to the toilet in peace even if I want to. There's also the possibility that if I leave her, I'll come back to her standing on the window sill, top of the book case, etc. I also think that it's good for her to see what adults do in the bathroom. She'll come in with me, sit on the potty while I sit on the toilet, and will pretend to wipe herself with toilet paper at the end.

[BigOCupOfTea]

would say "well, it's not like they'll be coming in to see me poo when they are 13" but it seems from up-thread it's a very real possiblity

I really hope not

[stoppingbywoods]

I live for the day I can have a bowel movement without someone holding my hands saying push mummy puuush, you can do it!

[Whoknewitcouldbeso]

My Son didn't used to care less, now he knocks on the door shouting mama, mama repeatedly and it's just easier to let him in. I've decided to use it as an opportunity to talk about wees and poos and the appropriate place to do them as we will be potty training soon.

[Whoknewitcouldbeso]

stopping

[sproketmx]

OMG. I dont even take mine in public loo cubicles with me. Last time i did that My step daughter told the woman on the till in farmfoods that 'mummy's in a hurry coz she's bleeding from her bum'. Fuck that ever happening again. They can scream all they like but they're not getting in

[HackerFucker22]

I can manage a shit without an audience but not a shower. DC2 can be left safely for 5 minutes in chair or jumperoo but not long enough for me to have a proper shower.... so she comes with.

[PitilessYank]

This issue was solved in my house by my learning how to use the bathroom very quickly. I can get in and out like a rocket. It is my superpower.

QuickPeeWoman to the rescue!

[PitilessYank]

I have also perfected the three minute shower, and the. "drop it like it's hot" one minute BM.

[Gileswithachainsaw]

they can scream all they but they're not getting in

I think I love you

panic attacks aside as that's a different kettle of fish I am immune to toddler tantrum. it's a waste of time trying to.stop them happening. after all you are breathing all wrong....

[Pointlessfan]

There is no way on earth I would leave my 18 month old unsupervised in any part of the house while I am in another room with the door closed, when she's not climbing up furniture she's emptying out drawers or cupboards or trying to eat cat food. It is much less hassle to take her into the loo with me.