Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Flexible and made to last.

Meet the Other Phone.
Flexible and made to last.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

Not to take DC to school disco?

73 replies

Mabledoggly · 09/10/2015 18:14

DC's (7 & 10) school is half an hour away. They want to go to the school disco tonight but I've already spent 2 hours driving them backwards and forwards today.

Their father has plans and can't help out so I've told them they can't go this time. There are six discos a year.

They have been crying on and off since 3:30 and I'm feeling horribly guilty and shit. Aibu?

OP posts:
SolidGoldBrass · 09/10/2015 18:56

Is there a specific reason other than you can't be arsed? And have you just told them? If yes to both then YABU and a lazy cow.

Fluffy24 · 09/10/2015 18:56

YABU.

IHaveBrilloHair · 09/10/2015 18:59

Very unreasonable from what you have said, take them.

JoeMommuh · 09/10/2015 18:59

Yes I think yabu and I'm quite a lazy/harsh parent!

MythicalKings · 09/10/2015 19:00

YABU

cuntycowfacemonkey · 09/10/2015 19:00

Like everyone says YABU especially if you have only just told them today.

SideOrderofChips · 09/10/2015 19:04

Yes YABU

cruikshank · 09/10/2015 19:04

If all that you have had to do today is drive them to school and back again and all you have to do now is drive them there and back again, yabvvvvvvu. If, on the other hand, you've been at the coalface since six o'clock in the morning and you're trying to fit more work in in the evening and you literally have no more time to spare, then it's a crying shame that they miss out but these things happen. But I don't think that's the case, is it?

ProjectPerfect · 09/10/2015 19:05

YABU

Senpai · 09/10/2015 19:05

Its a bit mean to tell them just today they can't go because "you don't feel like driving". Presumably you knew about your schedule in advance and could have known that your day was over booked?

6 seems a bit high. At high school I had about 3 dances. Are they formal or just fun hang out with music and snacks?

Take them this time, and then figure out in advance which ones they are going to and which ones they aren't so it's not dropped on them.

Dixiechickonhols · 09/10/2015 19:06

I wouldn't have come home in between.

Collect kids from school, tea in supermarket cafe/mcdonalds etc then back to school (change in toilets) for disco.

A kids disco can't be starting late.

NerrSnerr · 09/10/2015 19:07

It's not their fault the school is 30 minutes away. I would take them, read a book in the car (or have a sleep) so you only do the journey once.

Mehitabel6 · 09/10/2015 19:13

Hopefully - by now- you will have chosen to take them.

JeffsanArsehole · 09/10/2015 19:17

No, I always tell them once I pick them up on a Friday I won't be a taxi after that.

Always say this in advance though so you're a tiny bit unreasonable if you didn't.

originalusernamefail · 09/10/2015 19:20

My DS is just 2 so the whole school disco thing doesn't impact me too much yet but I don't think I could listen to 3 hours of crying over a car ride. As pp have said you chose a school 30 minutes away, it's not that they've been naughty or that you don't have transport. I would go then get a coffee / drink with a magazine or book so I didn't have to drive there and back twice iyswim. A school disco will be packing up by 8ish surely? If it's too late now I would try to turn this evening into a 'treat' I.e nice pudding / DVD to make up for it a little.

MinecraftWonder · 09/10/2015 19:26

It sounds like you've just told them today, and if so YABU.

I might be 'just' a school disco to you, but kids build things like this up and they're very important to them

I by no means think that kids always have to have everything they want, but you do need to at least give them some notice so that they're not excited.

PegsPigs · 09/10/2015 19:27

YABU. How is it their fault their school is 30 minutes away? And presumably you signed them up to the after school activities necessitating the trips backwards and forwards? It's not nice to miss out for no good reason especially with no notice just because you realised too late to plan otherwise. I hope you took them.

LyndaNotLinda · 09/10/2015 19:32

Yes. It's not their fault they're at a school 30 mins drive away. You chose the school, you take them to stuff.

I think you're being really unkind, especially if they thought they were going but you then decided you couldn't be bothered to take them.

Jackiebrambles · 09/10/2015 19:34

I feel sad for them! These things are v important to kids. I still remember school discos from when I was 10, they were that important to me - I'm nearly 40!

Jackiebrambles · 09/10/2015 19:35

Sorry, yabu

HeartsTrumpDiamonds · 09/10/2015 19:37

Take them to the blardy disco.

nooka · 09/10/2015 19:56

How does everyone know that the OP chose the school? It may well be either the nearest school or the one allocated to them.

Three hours of crying seems completely excessive. By ten my two had decided that the disco wasn't something they enjoyed any more, is this one especially exciting or important?

jelliebelly · 09/10/2015 19:58

YABU if they expected to go and you sprung it on them at 330 that they wrrent going because you couldn't be bothered to take them.

Original poster
Mabledoggly · 09/10/2015 20:17

Well I took them, they were very exited but I'm exhausted. DP has gone to collect them and neither of us has eaten yet, just got youngest in bath so late night all round!

Will definitely have to start a one on/one off or start to share the thing with their father.

Yes we do have a big busy day tomorrow. Ah well!

OP posts:
Gileswithachainsaw · 09/10/2015 20:34

in fairness also, no one chooses a schopl that far away unless the local ones are over subscribed and/or shit.

give the op a break.

definately a good idea to take turns or its really not fair on you Smile

Swipe left for the next trending thread