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Wibu to not offer this man a lift?

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Sparrowlegs248 · 07/10/2015 13:51

Yesterday I pulled into a little lane and parked. I was getting out of the car and about to get 10wk old DS out to go and do a daily errand.

A man came walking up to the three way junction, looked lost and asked me which way to *village". There was really no direct route but i had a local map in the car and looked and advised him.

He said 'thanks love, its just I've just been let out of the police station. I was in overnight. Got picked up for drink and disorderley. Got no phone or anything and the coppers said to walk this way'

And off he walked. Nice and polite.

I was telling my sister that i felt bad for not giving him a lift as i was driving to a village much closer to where he wanted to go. He had a 15 mile walk and i could have dropped him 4-5 miles away. She asked why hadnt i offered then, if i wanted to. (and i did feel i wanted to)

My reasons - Mainly i had DS in the car. And polite as he was hed just spent a night in the cells for D & D. And he was wearing broken fake crocs. Dsis thinks i was being judgemenral as i mentioned he looked a bit 'rough' for want of a better expression. Hand and neck tattoos and bad teeth. I fedl judgy just typing that. She tinks iwbu by not offerinh him a lift as it was a long walk, about to rain and he had crap footwear.
Was i?

OP posts:
DoJo · 07/10/2015 19:56

When did your sister last actually give someone a lift? I can potentially understand feeling a bit sanctimonious about it in theory, but unless she is flinging her car door wide for all and sundry on a regular basis, then it sounds a lot like hot air on her part to suggest that you should be too...!

quinoaasmustard · 07/10/2015 20:34

Fucking hell, only on mumsnet

lljkk · 07/10/2015 21:56

I occasionally give lifts to hitchhikers (yes even lone males) and I wouldn't have offered a lift to someone who just got out of gaol having landed there due to too much drink. No touchy with bargepole.

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