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AIBU?

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To let a 4 year old boy sparkle

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eedon · 04/10/2015 07:23

I knitted my friends daughter 6 and son 4 a jumper. They both loved them however I used some sparkle wool in the daughters jumper and the son asked if he could have some sparkle next time. I said of course- what do you want, however mum gave me a huffy look and said "boys don't wear sparkling clothes".

She's raising her daughter to be super girly and I guess the opposite for the son.

I'll be starting on new jumpers soon, I've found a bit of navy sparkling wool, very subtile. Aibu to just use a bit of it in the jumper and ignore the mum but give my god son the jumper her asked for?

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Mehitabel6 · 04/10/2015 07:30

If you are knitting it for a gift do whatever you like!

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eedon · 04/10/2015 07:33

Yep its a gift, thanks that's what I want to do!

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turningvioletviolet · 04/10/2015 07:37

i wouldn't bother - she probably wouldn't let him wear it. And it would more than likely mysteriously disappear as happens to items of clothing that I'm not keen on given to my children

Angelika321 · 04/10/2015 07:38

Is it possible to compromise and do like a little star motif in the sparkly wool?

ilovesooty · 04/10/2015 07:39

What's the point of knitting something she won't let him wear? Whether you agree with her parenting choices or not she has the final say over his clothes.

horsewalksintoabar · 04/10/2015 07:45

Don't sparkle. You're lovely, kind, and talented! My friend knits my kids cardigans and I love them and the kids do too. We wear them into the ground. And if you were knitting for my son you could sparkle away. But the mother you speak of sounds errr, unsparkly. You might put in all that effort and find he never wears it because of mum. So I'd follow her wishes.

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eedon · 04/10/2015 07:48

Yes I was worried about it going missing

I may just knit it and let him wear it round my house. Although he will adore it if a I do a rocket jumper with a bit of sparkle in the sky, doubt she would loose it as he probably would be very upset. He's not a doll after all, he knows what he wants to wear.

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JessePinkman33 · 04/10/2015 07:52

Do sparkles as stars or the moon or s the sea/waves?

turningvioletviolet · 04/10/2015 07:55

Err, I hate to break it to you eedon but you're not his parent. Whether you think he should be allowed to sparkle or not is totally irrelevant.
That said, a rocket with firey sparkle type stuff sounds a reasonable compromise.

EugenesAxe · 04/10/2015 07:55

Yes! A brilliant idea - surely she won't stop him wearing something 'boyish' if it features things that genuinely sparkle, like stars. Or rocket engine spume.

InternationalEspionage · 04/10/2015 07:56

I say go no sparkle on jumper...and do matching scarf / mittens WITH sparkle.

Btw I loathe parents that bring up their kids like that....my 7 year son is a really manly little boy but he still loves his sparkle! He has it all collected in a special massive treasure chest along with pirate skeletons etc.

He would LOVE a sparkly jumper and I would be only too happy for him to receive one. Just saying.

InternationalEspionage · 04/10/2015 07:58

And what you said about him not being a doll....that's what I completely agree with. Happy knitting (and x posted but rocket sounds like great idea).

Sighing · 04/10/2015 08:11

Ooo navy wool with a bit of sparkle. You've inspired me to do a space design on my next scarf!

NeededANameChangeAnyway · 04/10/2015 08:11

The rocket jumper sounds fab - can you link to a pattern? My mum is a great knitter and my ds would love a space jumper!

kelper · 04/10/2015 08:16

My cousins little boy asked for a pink jumper when she was knitting him and his brother a jumper each. He looks awesome in it.
My son loves sparkly stuff too, why must boys be unsparkly? Knit him a navy sparkly jumper, why should he miss out because somebody thinks it's not manly?!

TiggyD · 04/10/2015 08:19

Pink jumper with winged unicorn with rainbow coming out it's arse flying across a sparkly pink sky with the words "I'm feeling gay" underneath.

captaincake · 04/10/2015 08:22

YANBU but it seems a waste of your time to knit a jumper that won't be worn much or at all. If you'd like to make it in 18-24m my son would love it too and I'd be more grateful I really like the idea of a 'boy design' incorporating sparkle.

rainbowstardrops · 04/10/2015 08:23

Tiggy

HortonWho · 04/10/2015 08:26

Er, you're going to let him wear it around your house after the mother specifically said "no"?

Whatever your opinion of her parenting, it's incredibly disrespectful to her. Never mind undermining her authority. Not exactly what a godparent is meant to be, is it?

Bottlecap · 04/10/2015 08:29

Ultimately, you have to respect the mother's wishes or the jumper will indeed go missing. She's not going to let that one go. But a sparkly rocket would be amazing.

This boy is lucky to have you in his life. I hate this crap.

AnnaMarlowe · 04/10/2015 08:30

Why don't you ask the Mum?

I wouldn't have thought many people would have objected to a wee bit of sparkle on a rocket - it's in context after all.

Shockers · 04/10/2015 08:36

Your own default setting was 'no sparkle in the boy's jumper' too, or his first one would have sparkled!

I think the rocket, with added subtle sparkle, is a really good idea.

Although I'd love to see how Tiggy's went down .

kinkytoes · 04/10/2015 08:37

My little nephew loved my compact mirror, always pulling it out of my bag to look at himself. So cute! So I bought him one for his birthday (not even sparkly). My sil huffed and rolled eyes and everything.

I don't think yabu OP it's a lovely idea.

RiverTam · 04/10/2015 08:43

I'm surprised people think a 4 yo can or even should be told what to wear. At 4 dd had pretty strong ideas about what she would and wouldn't wear and these days I tend not to shop for her clothes without her there.

I think this completely falls into the remit of what a godparent is for.

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHorrid · 04/10/2015 08:49

Poor kid. He should of course be allowed to wear a sparkly jumper.

There's no point knitting it for him if his mum won't let him wear it.

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