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AIBU?

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To let a 4 year old boy sparkle

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eedon · 04/10/2015 07:23

I knitted my friends daughter 6 and son 4 a jumper. They both loved them however I used some sparkle wool in the daughters jumper and the son asked if he could have some sparkle next time. I said of course- what do you want, however mum gave me a huffy look and said "boys don't wear sparkling clothes".

She's raising her daughter to be super girly and I guess the opposite for the son.

I'll be starting on new jumpers soon, I've found a bit of navy sparkling wool, very subtile. Aibu to just use a bit of it in the jumper and ignore the mum but give my god son the jumper her asked for?

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AnnaMarlowe · 04/10/2015 08:49

River while I would have had no problem at all with a sparkly rocket I didn't let my DS wear things with skulls on them when he was younger (very fashionable at the time).

My DC are a older than 4 now but I still have veto over clothes I think are inappropriate - why wouldn't I? It's part of being a parent.

As an example although she covers them my DD understands I will not allow her party shoes with high heels.

AnnaMarlowe · 04/10/2015 08:50

^^covets

Crazypetlady · 04/10/2015 09:06

Let him sparkle the mother is a dick.

TheIncomparableDejahThoris · 04/10/2015 09:12

If you knit him a sparkly jumper his mum doesn't like, you're setting him up to have it taken away.

While I deeply disagree with your friend's daughter, her son shouldn't be cannon fodder for my ideology. So, I suggest you go to your friend's daughter, and say, "I understand you're not happy with a sparkly all over jumper, so would a sparkly rocket or star be okay?"

DurhamDurham · 04/10/2015 09:18

I think a bigger deal than is necessary is nine f made out of this....he has probably forgotten all about it by now. I'm sure he loves the jumper you knit for him, sparkly or not.

You missed your chance to make a point if you wanted to make one.......you knit him an I sparkly one in the first place. You sound like you just want to wind his mum up, and why would you want to do that?

I honestly only ever come across this on Mumsnet, girls should not be allowed to choose pink girly things but boys should.Where's the equality in that?

Tory79 · 04/10/2015 09:20

What others have said really, and a little bit sparkle on a rocket sounds like it might be an acceptable compromise.

But it makes me so sad for these boys - soon enough they will stop wanting these things of their own accord - why can't they just be allowed to enjoy pretty things while they can? My eldest is 4, he has fairy and princess dressing up clothes, loads of frozen jewellery and crowns and a pair of lelli Kelly's that he loves and wears all the time. He also has batman clothes, pirate and knight costumes and plenty of 'boys toys'. I will feel very sad when he realises he's not 'supposed' to have pink sparkly stuff

Neddyteddy · 04/10/2015 09:22

You could tell the mum you thought navy with silver would be ok because it made you think of a night sky and space rockets/spacemen

PlayingSolitaire · 04/10/2015 09:25

I agree with others who said just ask the Mum. "Last time your DS said he wanted a jumper with sparkles, and I know you said you were against it, but would it be ok if I used sparkly wool for the rocket/star in this design?"

TimeToMuskUp · 04/10/2015 09:29

Just knit me a sparkly blue jumper instead because there'd be no chance of it going missing and my Mum won't complain at all.

In all seriousness, the compromise sounds fabulous if she's going to be funny over sparkly stuff. I've always told the DCs there's no such thing as boys toys and girls toys, just toys. The same for clothes. It's difficult though when buying toys and clothes for friends children because so many parents don't agree with that.

pickledparsnip · 04/10/2015 09:33

What a shame, I hate all this bollocks. My nearly 6 year old boy loves sparkly stuff. He'd quite happily cover himself in glitter every day. If the mum won't let him wear something sparkly, there is no point making it. Bloody stupid, but her choice nonetheless.

TheHouseOnTheLane · 04/10/2015 09:36

Oh yes do a rocket jumper with sparkly flames! Gorgeous.

BlackeyedSusan · 04/10/2015 09:51

you have to find a really boyish motive for the sparkle to get through the mother censorship.

Starkswillriseagain · 04/10/2015 11:17

Poor kid, mum's being unfair there imo.

I agree though it will go missing and it will piss the mum off and despite her being unfair, you shouldn't undermine her choice by giving him a jumper. She'll lose it and get bothered by him asking for it, which is very unfair on him because he'll see something he'd love and be denied it.

Do they stay at yours for the night at all? I was wondering about a dressing gown or something to be at yours for him?

SomethingOnce · 04/10/2015 11:34

my 7 year son is a really manly little boy

I am trying to imagine what this means.

Neddyteddy · 04/10/2015 11:45

Or make him a plain navy jumper with a sparkly fire work on

VashtaNerada · 04/10/2015 11:49

Poor kid! Nothing wrong with a bit of sparkle. I'd be tempted to do it in pink with glitter and a disco-dancing unicorn but that's just me...

blushrush · 06/10/2015 16:06

Love the rocket idea! Or what about an alien or an alien spaceship? (Quite tempted to ask for my own alien jumper...:D)

It's a shame his mum thinks 'sparkles are for girls' but you can work around it ;)

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