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I was unreasonable and I am sorry

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ShitHotAwesome · 02/10/2015 16:42

Went into a café yesterday with the DCs as DS needed the toilet. We frequent the place fairly often and they are happy to let us use the loo - they have a buzzer behind the counter to open the door to the toilets.

We got there and could see through the window that there was a woman in the toilets so knocked on the door but she ignored us. "pah" thought I, and went to ask the counter people to buzz us in. DCs knocked and peered in the window but the woman obviously felt that letting us in would be out of order which pissed me off 'cause, well, FFS we just want to use the toilet and all she had to do was reach her arm out and who the f* made her the guardian of the loo.
So, when we were duly buzzed in by the staff, I said a pointed "thanks" to the woman. Which I shouldn't have. If I had to say something (and I should have let it lie, I know), I could have said something a bit less unpleasant.
It turned into a bit of a row - she kicked off on one and I remained calm and just said that the kinder thing to do would have been to just let us in but she shouted and called me a bitch (which was over-reaction on her part, I feel)

Anyway, it was all a bit nasty and I am the one who inflamed it and I am sorry that my kids saw the angry lady (I told them after that I should not have said "thanks" in that way) and so on so I am giving an open apology to that woman as she must have been having a crap day or something to blow up like that.

Aaaand...that's off my chest!

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laureywilliams · 02/10/2015 20:58

I have been in her position.

I let the people in. It's not my job to police who gets to use the loo.

She totally overreacted.

usual · 02/10/2015 21:00

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Sparklingbrook · 02/10/2015 21:01

It's really annoying in Argos when you can see your treasure on the shelf at the back but your number hasn't been called usual. Angry

Bettercallsaul1 · 02/10/2015 21:02

Do you think these dreams could be traced back to toilet training gone wrong?

TalcAndTurnips · 02/10/2015 21:02

Owl - I often have that one where you are sitting on the pan in a public loo and then realise that there are no partitions, or just minimal ones at around hip height.

It involves working out how you can piddle discreetly and hoik up one's undercrackers without revealing all to the world. Wiping is a challenge too.

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Owllady · 02/10/2015 21:03

How can you be rude? Argos is a free for all :o

Sparklingbrook · 02/10/2015 21:04

I am the only one that sits in the chairs at Argos. Everyone else likes to stand so they can dash up as soon as the stuff comes, like it will go back up the conveyor belt if they don't.

I look like I am at the bookies watching the screens clutching my ticket.

usual · 02/10/2015 21:21

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Sparklingbrook · 02/10/2015 21:25

Ooh yes I like a nice sit down in Argos, and to watch what people are looking at at the Elizabeth Duke Counter. Grin

They should serve coffee.

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nauticant · 02/10/2015 21:29

I'm still not getting sorry from your posts OP. Although I am getting I'm sorry I met an abusive women but look at me rise above it (while not rising above it).

Perhaps you should think carefully about why you pick fights with strangers in toilets.

Janeymoo50 · 02/10/2015 21:30

I always sit in Argos, it's part of the Argos experience I feel. I feel cheated if I don't get to sit for a bit, even if I see my Item ready to collect at Collection Point A.

nauticant · 02/10/2015 21:31

Damn. The thread had already become an Argos thread and I'm now off-topic.

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MaisieDotes · 02/10/2015 21:42

I had a nice sit down in Argos just today. It was while I was waiting for my printer ink.

My life is wall to wall glamour.

Sparklingbrook · 02/10/2015 21:44

I bought printer ink in Argos last week Maisie. The Epson one with the fox on the front. Rock and Roll.

MaisieDotes · 02/10/2015 21:48

< fist-bumps sparkling >

Think mine's a Canon. It just has a number on it Sad

Owllady · 02/10/2015 22:02

I sit in Argos but it's always followed by a weird toilet dream

Bettercallsaul1 · 02/10/2015 22:06

I think you should take this to a psychiatrist, Owl. They'd have a field day.

Owllady · 03/10/2015 14:04

Confused :o
I have much weirder dreams than those Blush

TheHouseOnTheLane · 03/10/2015 14:09

I wouldn't have let you in either. They have a buzzer for a reason.

TendonQueen · 03/10/2015 14:15

So OP gets a big bollocking for her sarcastic 'thanks' but the person who yelled at her and called her a bitch gets no comment? Not getting the direction this has gone in.

For anyone on the receiving end of this, in case toilet lady is reading, the very best response is to play it totally straight, smile broadly and say 'Thanks!' as if accepting a true compliment. Keeps you in the right and drives sarcastic thankers mad.

Oh, and if I saw someone with a child, who presumably can't wait all day for the toilet, I'd buzz them in.

LittleMissIntrovert · 03/10/2015 14:15

It wasn't up to her to let you in, the buzzer is there for a reason.

I have dreams about public toilets too! Usually that they are really dirty. I hate using public toilets, is there a phobia of it? If there is I have it!

Sparklingbrook · 03/10/2015 14:19

But what if you were unwittingly buzzing in the people the buzzer was installed to keep out?