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Original poster

to think this doesn't count as DH's turn (light hearted)

40 replies

Tinklewinkle · 01/10/2015 10:56

DH and I are having a debate (we haven't turned the central heating on yet so are having to find other things to pointlessly bicker about)

We both work full time so take it in turns to cook each night.

Last week I made a couple of shepherds pies. Ate one and put the other one in the freezer.

Last night was DH's turn to cook so we had the shepherds pie. Actually, he only did half a job anyway, he put it in the oven then cleared off round next door as he had to have a 'quick word' with our neighbour. I had to dish it up.

He thinks this constitutes his turn. I think it's a pisstake as I made it in the first place so it's still his turn.

It's all pretty irrelevant as I put a casserole in the slow cooker this morning, but I can bank the brownie points Grin

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WhyCantIuseTheNameIWant · 01/10/2015 11:05

Yup. Points to you.

Gileswithachainsaw · 01/10/2015 11:07

No it doesn't count Grin

LaContessaDiPlump · 01/10/2015 11:07

He so has not had his turn!!

pinkyredrose · 01/10/2015 11:11

He had 2 turns in a row from tmw!

pinkyredrose · 01/10/2015 11:11

Has not had

Original poster
Tinklewinkle · 01/10/2015 11:16

Well, I'm trying to work it so he has to cook Sunday roast - we operate a seperate rota for cooking Sunday roasts and that currently standing at my turn (I fecking hate cooking Sunday roasts)

We really need to get out more Grin

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biscuitkumquat · 01/10/2015 11:23

LTB

howabout · 01/10/2015 11:28

Glad to hear we are normal. We need to bleed the radiators before we can turn CH on.

Definitely not had his turn. How does it work if he orders a takeaway? I hate phoning in the order so that would count as my DH's turn.

We have Sunday roast on Saturday but only if my brother comes round to organise the DC to do the washing up.

Littlef00t · 01/10/2015 11:32

He would have got some points if he'd dished up, but as you did it def forfeit his turn.

If you like Rotas perhaps you could consider a points based system on the complexity of the meal and offset against washing up.

Freezer food must be 1/3 a cooked from scratch meal.

amazonqueen · 01/10/2015 11:37

I think you haven't been precise enough of the definition of 'cook' .

You -and most people would take it to mean prepare-and-cook the meal .(Dishing up may be a subsection to that).
Your DH has taken the meaning to be provide only. I can imagine him protesting that its not his fault you have stretched the meaning to include preparing .

So you need to go back to the agreement and decide exactly what is to happen each turn.

I think it would be fair enough if you were to make several lots of a dish , freeze and dish them up when its your turn. DH should be banned from touching 'your' food. You would be banned from touching 'his' food obviously. You might have to invest in colour coded bags and boxes. Maybe use individual freezer shelves.

-or let it go this time but poke fun at him for dodging a simple task.

zzzzz · 01/10/2015 11:38

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HaydeeofMonteCristo · 01/10/2015 11:40

He has not done his turn.

FanOfSpam · 01/10/2015 11:40

He's having an affair with the neighbour? No! YADDDDDDNBU!

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Tinklewinkle · 01/10/2015 12:00

with takeaways it depends on whether they deliver or if we have to pick it up. A delivery means that it's no ones turn, but if we have to pick it up then whoever's turn it is goes and gets it and that counts as their turn.

I think we'll have to introduce to new clauses to the Your Turn rules, claiming food that someone else made as your turn is just not in the spirit of it

God, what happened to my life? I used to go out and drink cocktails and everything

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StepAwayFromTheEcclesCakes · 01/10/2015 12:06

YANBU, when I cook its usually a lovely meal from scratch, fresh and yummy, when DH says 'I'll cook' its often something easy from the freezer that I was saving for a night when I couldn't be arsed cooking, looks at me like this Confusedwhen I tell him that's cheating.Smile

2rebecca · 01/10/2015 12:13

No, I got annoyed with my husband for doing this, just reheating something I'd made as his turn at cooking. Fine if you've agreed to do this before otherwise he's got to put in an effort equal to yours. He can make 2 portions and reheat one of his for a future meal of "his" though just not one of "your" meals

AnnihilatedBeerGuttedCats · 01/10/2015 12:14
Grin

He's wrong you're right.

Cheek of him

myotherusernameisbetter · 01/10/2015 12:22

Too complex a system and too open to abuse! We do the "I cook 360 nights out of 365 (excluding when we eat out etc) and he clears up every night - even when he cooks" rota. It's not the cooking I object to that much (or heating stuff up as it becomes some evenings) it's the planning/deciding what we are having and buying it all that I am fed up with. Who does that or is that a separate rota?

Charlesroi · 01/10/2015 12:31

Oh yeah, what about meal planning and shopping?

Grin
derxa · 01/10/2015 12:44

Well you gained MN points for 'slow cooker' and batch cooking.

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Tinklewinkle · 01/10/2015 13:08

We don't really meal plan. Perhaps we should, lots more scope there for pointless bickering, I'll suggest it.

I usually do the shopping while DH takes DD2 swimming (I have a bit of a thing about wetness and feet). We keep a list on the fridge where everyone writes stuff when we run out. I just kind of buy stuff

I do love my slow cooker. I feel all smug when I come home from work and haven't got to start cooking. I'm a bit 'ha - in your face DH' Blush

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myotherusernameisbetter · 01/10/2015 13:12

Yes, you definitely need separate lists of shopping etc - maybe you could get his with yours since he is doing the swim thing but he should definitely have his plan and list that he supplies you with :)

myotherusernameisbetter · 01/10/2015 13:13

No-one in my house ever has any meal suggestions but still declare it wasn't what they fancied when I've dished it up....Hmm

fredfredgeorgejnrsnr · 01/10/2015 13:24

The big effort is the choosing what to eat, not the cooking, so heating up what someone else cooked food is still a turn. YABU

TheExMotherInLaw · 01/10/2015 13:29

How about he does 3 days a week - including Sunday roast - NOT using one of your meals, and you do the other 4, which will include a meal from freezer. I won't do Sunday roast either!