DH smoking in 'his' car.

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So DH and I have 2 cars. One is my car in the week but also the family car and the other is mostly his. He is a smoker and has always smoked in his car pre DC.

Now we have 2 DC I have asked him not to smoke in the car as we have a spare carseat for youngest DC which lives in his car.

On one occasion where we all needed to travel in his car I noticed it smelt of smoke (only very slightly) and there were bits of ash in the car. He admitted he had smoked in the car and agreed not to from now on.

Tonight it has transpired he is still smoking in his estate car and thinks it's ok as he has put the carseat in the boot with a canvas cover over it.

I am fuming as he needs to take our youngest daughter out on Saturday. I am pissed off as he has agreed not to but also because I don't want the DC travelling in a car which smells of smoke. I know it's rare for them to be in his car but I really don't think it's too much to ask that he smokes before he gets in or after he gets out!

I am an ex smoker myself so completely understand the 'need' for a fag but AIBU about this?

FWIW...smoking is NOT dangerous while driving. There are many more distractions that are far more dangerous than smoking;

Smoking and passenger distraction both increase risk of crash. Evidence on voice-style sat navs is mixed as a lot friends on what might have been displaced.

Plenty of studies out there on this stuff. Saying something isn't a risk because other things are also a risk is ill-informed.

If you could barely smell it, and trust me, ex smokers have noses like bloodhounds, is it really worth getting upset about? As you say you rarely travel in it, I really don't think the slightest smell of tobacco is going to kill anyone. Poor sod, when he's stuck in traffic it's probably the only thing that keeps him sane.

Sorry it has been so long since my last response. Ridiculously long day!! I would of course love it if my DH would give up smoking altogether and I hope he will one day soon. My going on about it will not help this to happen. He has admitted he was in the wrong if only because he broke our agreement and thankfully has agreed not to smoke in the car again. If that makes me controlling so be it. I do not want OUR children to stink of smoke. I know this can't be prevented completely as DH is a smoker but i also can't see why we wouldn't minimise risk where we can.

I find it hard to believe that you could barely smell it. We have a car that had previously been smoked in and I can 'barely' smell it after 6 months and several fumigations. The next day it would be strong.

I think yanbu smoking in cars is grim.