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AIBU?

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To want people to post in the right category!

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Cnmorgan13 · 30/09/2015 22:04

Pregnancy related.
Have been on mumsnet for a while now and something I've noticed had really begun to to grind my gears. People posting in the wrong/inappropriate forums. For example, IMO questions like "am I pregnant" or "thinking about starting a family" belong in the preconception board not pregnancy. Likewise, posts about abortion and losses have their appropriate boards. (I only mention this as I was a paranoid, nervous wreck at the start of my pregnancy because of all the negative posts.) and again posts about labour/delivery should be in the childbirth board. Again, just my opinion, but it really annoys me.

OP posts:

SaucyJack · 30/09/2015 22:05

Shouldn't this be in Site Stuff.....?

But yeah, I agree. I don't care if you think you're MN royalty or no; chat posts should be in chat.

Original poster

Cnmorgan13 · 30/09/2015 22:37

Mumsnet royalty I like it lol!

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Samcro · 30/09/2015 22:41

yanbu. but yes this should be in site stuff.
I wish i could tidy mn up and put every thing in the right place.

but did you know, even if you report a thread, most times mn hq will only move it if the OP agree's

Mintyy · 30/09/2015 22:46

Yanbu, it is a horribly weird quirk about Mumsnet: they create all these lovely topics for people to converse in, then don't give a shiney shite wherever people post their OPs.

There's a lot of us agree with you, hq really just cba to change anything.

WorraLiberty · 30/09/2015 22:57

This subject comes up time and again (not having a dig OP...I just mean it never gets resolved).

There are far too many topics

MNHQ know there are far too many topics

They apparently have culled a few

There are still far too many topics

Therefore, people just tend to stick with the few busy ones so they don't have to wait hours for a reply.

CuttedUpPear · 30/09/2015 23:00

You yourself have posted in the wrong category.

Everybody posts their every waking thought in AIBU and it's a junkyard of inappropriate huffs and musings.

Spilose · 30/09/2015 23:05

Aibu being used as a chat board is what irritates me. YANBU

Trills · 30/09/2015 23:07

SaucyJack I salute you

Scobberlotcher · 30/09/2015 23:15

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

WorraLiberty · 01/10/2015 00:12

Exactly Scobberlotcher

Duck90 · 01/10/2015 00:21

You are being hypocritical by posting in this topic. Yes some topics are full of threads that could be in another area, but I try not to open them.

Aibu or chat have many parent and child parking space discussions - should they be in the parent, or car section instead. (Or disallowed completely)

differentnameforthis · 01/10/2015 06:53

There's a lot of us agree with you, hq really just cba to change anything.

What the hell do you expect them to do though? Spend the entire day moving threads around?

It's a forum, people can post what they like, where they like.

AuntieStella · 01/10/2015 07:24

I think happening an enforced "post in the right topic" week would be an interesting experiment.

Eee what people do, when there is only one genuine AIBU a day. Others in Their topic, or in WWYD.

So yes, I'd like to see proper use of the topics.

(MNHQ will move pregnancy 'chat' threads to their own topic, thank goodness! Better policing of moving threads of those not yet pregnant to 'conception, and those making choices to 'pregnancy choices' would help enormously. I'd also like to see a separate 'sticks and scans' topic for those who want people to help interprets pee sticks of post pictures of the contexts of theIt uterus)

AndDeepBreath · 01/10/2015 07:36

... It's a free site with many users. Without a lot more moderators MN couldn't do this. It's also not at all clear where some posts belong as a newbie when (say) you don't know that "miscarriage" is under "bereavement".

As someone else who started out fairly nervous too and purposefully stayed out of the "bad pregnancy ending" stories, when I then went on to have my first miscarriage, it was extra scary. I really think if I'd done some basic prep reading rather than endless TWW threads, then the panic wouldn't have been quite so bad - the next two were "easier" in that respect.

I've also ended up reading questions I never would, and watching heartfelt questions in their proper forum left unanswered. Meanwhile when MN went down and I switched like a traitor there were posts in the Other Place which went unanswered even after their moderators helpfully moved them and added a chipper note to that effect.

So ... YABU. Just don't open the threads you don't want to read!

eurochick · 01/10/2015 08:02

As I have a life, I really couldn't give less of a shit on which section of an online forum people decide to post.

HaydeeofMonteCristo · 01/10/2015 08:03

Too many topics, I agree. And you know everyone is on this one anyway.

It doesn't annoy me one jot where people post, however.

Mn royalty is a ridiculous concept also. The point of an internet forum is that everyone is equal here, surely?

HaydeeofMonteCristo · 01/10/2015 08:04

Ps I have just been told that I posted something in the wrong category.

BIWI · 01/10/2015 08:09

Why the dig at 'MN Royalty' anyway?

I agree with you OP, but this is a well-worn complaint that is never acknowledged or dealt with.

Partly I think it's because as PP have said, there are too many posts for MHNQ to have to move them all into the right place, partly because many posters simply don't care (as you have already seen) and partly because it is a vicious circle - people don't post on the right thread because there 'isn't enough traffic' so they continue to post on Chat/AIBU, thus driving all the traffic into Chat/AIBU and so ensuring that there isn't enough traffic in the appropriate boards.

reni2 · 01/10/2015 08:19

I find the different boards invaluable for long term support with education or health issues etc, there are some very well informed and helpful people on there. Anything else goes on AIBU or chat.

Trills · 01/10/2015 08:20

And partly because there are too many topics - yet people keep asking for more!

ilovesooty · 01/10/2015 09:52

I also don't see what MN royalty has to do with this.

reni2 · 01/10/2015 10:00

Are MN royalty worse at sticking to the right board than MN commoners?

DextersMistress · 01/10/2015 10:05

The thing is, if I post about an illness on general health there's one or two replies. Reword it into an aibu and there's loads of help as more people frequent that board.

reni2 · 01/10/2015 10:21

There are exceptions to this, for queries regarding feminism, education, pregnancy, conception, housekeeping and I'm sure many other topics you are better off on the appropriate boards so these very busy and supportive. I wouldn't dream of putting a ttc question in the bear pit, but got some lovely advice on the ttc board.

Maybe the question isn't how to declutter AIBU and chat, but how do we improve the boards that get few hits so people no longer feel the need to post elsewhere.

RebootYourEngine · 01/10/2015 11:21

There are too many topics.

I have seen threads in AIBU or chat where a poster says that they have posted on the 'right' topic but got little or no response so post in AIBU or chat for traffic.

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