Fairly new friend of only about a year. Met on the social media network - the one with the blue bird. Seemed like a nice enough lad, older than me at 40yo and not without his troubles, but then again who isn't?
Anyway, the main topic of conversation with him tends to be his woes and worries. He has a partner of 9 years but says they can't stand the sight of each other. He claims to be desperately unhappy.. he is the main bread winner, she stays at home with their DD (when we first started talking he said she was 8, today he said she was 6 
) and claims she does nothing around the house, place is always a tip, just sleeps all day, won't let him do anything he wants to do. You know the script.
I've tried to give helpful advice and told him that if he is unhappy then he should leave, but he always says "oh no I can't do that, I'm a wimp, I can't stand up to her" etc etc. Clincher today though was he "accidently" sent me a screenshot of one of his convos with her on fb. The conversation did not look at all like she can't stand the sight of him. In fact, she was asking him what he wanted for dinner when he got home and asking if he'd like a bit of fun later once their DD was in bed.
I'm not sure if in fact it was an accident like he claimed or if he was trying to make me jealous. A pointless endevour though because I've told him right from the start, I have a DP and we are planning our wedding and TTC. He knows I have absolutely zero interest in him romantically/sexually/any way at all really.
He does try to push the boundries of friendship by reminding me daily how much I mean to him, how much he cares about me and how he would love to be with me instead of his DP. (I have told him countless times that I don't like that kind of talk so this usually envokes a deadpan silence from my end now)
Anyway, today along with his mumps and grumps about how unhappy he is at home (I don't bother giving advice now because it's always the same "I'm trapped in my terrible life - woe is me") he has also mentioned a fall out with another female friend of his. The usual- I asked him if he was ok, did he want to talk about it. He said "we fell out because of you" Erm.. me? Who is this person and how the bloody fuck does she know who I am? He said "She fell out with me because she thinks I like you more than her" When I enquired that 1) does she know we are just friends and that is all we will ever be, 2) does she even know I'm long-term taken, there was a silence of about 15 minutes until he said "Doesn't matter anyway because she doesn't like me like that." Followed by the usual "nobody likes me like that, I am so unattractive, Nobody will ever date me, I'll never ever get good sex in my entire life" boohoo.
IABU? I was very angry about this. I will admit I don't really have a lot of patience and I don't think he has told this friend (if she is even real) what the script is between me and him. I told him I was sick of his helpless attitude and to stop using me as a tool to make others jealous.
On the whole, I usually enjoy talking to him but I'm getting really fucking bored of playing silly games and I can't help but get the feeling he is putting on an act of boyish weakness to try and gain sympathy from me. What's the best way to deal with this?