AIBU to think people should THINK before they SPEAK?

[Number3cometome]

DS2 is 11 weeks old.

I went back to work last week, working full time.
DS is in nursery.

I work for a foreign company and many of the staff have looked at me with shock and horror that 1) I am back at work already 2) that my child is in nursery.

I understand that it's horses for courses, but I wish people would think before they open their mouths and declare how they "couldn't leave a poor little baby at nursery" or "couldn't trust nursery with a baby that small"

It's upsetting, especially when no one actually wants to leave their baby to work, we just have bills to pay.

AIBU to think people should think about others feelings, before they speak??

I went back at 8 months with my first and 6.5 months with my second. Both made sense in terms of timing for my job.

Both of my DDs settled into their childcare settings well (I worship at the feet of our CM, she's completely amazing) and quickly.

Right decision for all? No. Right decision for our family? Hell, yes. Anyone else have the right to judge? Well, as I often to say to my DM, you may have the right to opinion. You don't, however, necessarily have the right to express it in my hearing.

Yanbu.

People are so thoughtless and insensitive.

grazia is talking sense, and flower power is right re people think they can interfere once you have kids.

I chose a nursery for DS at 7 months over childminder because he would be with babies his own age rather than toddlers running riot (as they were at the cm I saw, not judging all cms but finding a great one takes work). Also the room was set up for babies, and the nursery will never have a sick day as there are many carers. A teacher friend of mine also pointed out that the carers police each other.

Not a nursery v cm row, just some good point s of nursery.

Congratulations on your baby and I totally agree, people should STFU.

I'm 7+3 so got a while to go yet, however have said since I was an adult that if I had a child, I'd want to take a short maternity leave. I love my career - not only because I want to always maintain my financial independence, but because I went to Uni to get a PhD in it and have done bloody well to date. I really enjoy what I do and don't believe that being a SAHM is the right choice for me.

My current plan is to take 3 months maternity leave and within that, take as lot of KIT days where I can work from home and keep in the loop on conference calls and what the team are up to - My Boyfriend has already confirmed he's happy to do the 'shared parental leave' after that so we will potentially both be taking time off work and from months 4 to... 6? I'll be supporting the family.

I'm wondering if I'll get any comments about it... I'm known as being a feminist and very 'different' to most people in regards to my thinking - I've not felt any guilt.. yet, however there's obviously a long way to go.

I'm glad your Boss was supportive