to suggest H moves into DDs bedroom?

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DD is off to university tomorrow so won't be there.

I don't sleep well. I thrash. I wake up. I have a dodgy back and my comfortable position is flat. But then I snore.
Obviously this irritates H and then he gets disturbed and wakes up and grumbles and gives off bad vibes which wakes me up.

The options are...

1. I kill him
2. He kills me
3. Someone moves out.

I don't think it should be me. I could sleep if I wasn't disturbed by his bad vibes.

I agree with the others. I don't understand how a bad back causes snoring. Have you considered asking your doctor for a sleep study to rule out sleep apnoea?

Because it hurts. Pretty much all the time. Has done for years. Nothing to be done to cure it. I can function and that's as good as it's ever going to get.
Turning over hurts and wakes me up. Lying on my side hurts.
It hurts least when I lie completely flat. When I lie flat I snore. I don't have apnoea, a bit fat but less fat than I was. Sprays, strips and other stuff haven't worked.

The vibes have to be experienced to understand. Like rolling black evil thoughts. Like glaring at someone until they look back at you. Bad Vibes.
I'm quite fond of him but when sleeping is so hard to come by it is really really really irritating to be woken up.

Does it matter who moves, so long as you each have your own room?

I can sympathize with you re the back pain. I don't enjoy sleeping either as it just bloody hurts and I wake myself up every time I turn over. Are you sure that there's nothing to be done about it? There's a good back pain thread on here somewhere.

I'm going to presume you haven't suggested it yet. You wouldn't be wrong to suggest it, see what he says. You may have to be the one that moves out or he may want to.

My DH sleeps upstairs frequently as he departs the house at 5.30am for work and doesn't want to wake us all up at least that is what he says

YANBU DH moved into DS1's room in the week when he joined the army 16 months ago. He swapped to DS2's last weekend because he's got a double bed.

DH gets up at 5:20, I rarely get to sleep before 2 or 3. He snores like a warthog, I have severe back and pelvic problems that cause me so much pain. He doesn't sleep well because I moan and groan all night, I don't sleep well because he snores then his alarm wakes me. He moved out because we bought the mattress in our room to suit me mainly and I wouldn't sleep at all in the other rooms.

The vibes have to be experienced to understand. Like rolling black evil thoughts. Like glaring at someone until they look back at you. Bad Vibes

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Ok, playing Devil's Advocate to these "bad evil vibes", I'd either say a) if he's giving you voodoo vibes you've got bigger problems than your sleeping arrangements, or b) maybe he's really really annoyed because you're a nightmare to sleep next to.

The person who is awake moves.

I don't understand why you would wake someone sleeping and make them move.

If I wake and can't get back to sleep I don't wake my husband up I just move room. He does the same.

Hooked on as you want to be unreasonal there you are .....YABU...(there is however a silent n in this word as its a good idea, both of you get good sleep)

Are you sure you have not got Sleep-Apnea??
Have you had tests done from the Sleep Clinic, referred to by your doctor??
I have Sleep-Apnea, it was torture for any-one sleeping in the same room as me they did not sleep at all well!!
My snoring was so much worse while sleeping on my back.
I got referred by my GP to the Sleep Clinic at the hospital for tests, that confirmed I have Sleep Apnea, now sleep with a very attractive mask(NOT) that helps keep my airways open to greatly reduce my snoring[grin

Yeah, the whole 'bad vibes' thing makes you sound even more unreasonable.

My late dh was a terrible snorer. He got a terrible shock one morning in a TLodge when he woke up and i wasnt next to him. After having spent half the night kicking, prodding,poking him i decamped to the bathroom and slept in the bath with the spare bedding!!