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AIBU?

Prejudging about where you live

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FennyBridges · 20/09/2015 14:55

I live in a lovely village in the south west. I am fed up with people locally making judgements about it and about the people who live there. So what if it has a council estate? Some people have said that in such and such they are a bunch of inbreds. In such and such they are really rough. It's a beautiful village. It's not by the sea. We never grew up here but just loved being in the deep countryside with good roads to link to various towns and cities. We have a lovely house, far superior to any of these people saying this. Why would anyone be so rude as to slate my village? AIBU that people should just say positive things about where others choose to live?

It's totally getting on my nerves.

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CrossfireHurricane · 20/09/2015 17:07

Wadebridge is inland has old and new areas and a fairly recent bypass.......

WaggleBee · 20/09/2015 17:09

Now I want to know where Leaveme is referring to. Which area?

margeys · 20/09/2015 17:11

I have family who live in a posh part of the South. They harshly judge a nearby village because it has a council estate. I just think they are frightful snobs

Mrsjayy · 20/09/2015 17:14

So your village has a council estate most of my village is council or ex council houses a woman i know thought another woman we know would live in a better area they are both work in the same profession 1 is up to her eyeballs in debt 1 isnt folk are just snooty about this kind of thing you get good and bad everywhere

LeaveMyWingsBehindMe · 20/09/2015 17:16

Waggle sorry, not saying.

I can't be doing with the fallout.

Also I like to maintain an air of mystery.

margeys · 20/09/2015 17:18

Yes but it must be horrible being surrounded by others who look down on your village.

SouthAmericanCuisine · 20/09/2015 17:22

margeys what other people think of me is none of my business!

ahbollocks · 20/09/2015 17:28

I've lived in a 11 bed 4 living rooms 2 kitchens mansion in a very naice place, a studio flat by the sea and a 2 up 2 down in deepest moss side so I genuinely don't judge at all because I was the same old me wherever I lived.

I don't get postcode snobbery.

MrsJorahMormont · 20/09/2015 17:28

Leaveme I would put money on it being around the Fens / East Anglia

FennyBridges · 20/09/2015 17:34

No I don't get postcode snobbery (obviously). I'm in Cornwall - not Wadebridge actually - but I too would prefer to keep a little mystery about myself. My sons do go to a 'nicer' school than the village I guess, but there's no before or after school clubs there so it seemed silly to give up my career just to hang around 8.50-3 to pick them up. County said no childminders in village - I did check and liaise with the school.

If Cornish people think south of the bypass is all that I'm intrigued if they've ever been out of county. Both DH and I moved here from elsewhere upon seeking employment here. We love Cornwall and especially our little corner.

I'm not angry. Peeved is a better word.

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margeys · 20/09/2015 17:36

SouthAmericanCuisine - It doesn't sound like you have ever lived in a small village then.

LeaveMyWingsBehindMe · 20/09/2015 17:38

Okay you got me there (I did say it was famous for it!) but i refuse to be narrowed down more than that.

LeaveMyWingsBehindMe · 20/09/2015 17:39

It's lovely though. Really it is. But some of the people, lordy lordy, duelling banjos…..

SouthAmericanCuisine · 20/09/2015 17:42

margey its because I've lived in some of the most isolated and insular (some might even say incestuous) places in the country that I have adopted that as my mantra.

If I cared about what other people think, and say, I'd never leave the house - my appearance, my opinions, my parenting, my pets, my job, my house, my marital status - they all offend someone who is happy to share their opinions with others.

Meh. Let them gossip.

MrsJorahMormont · 20/09/2015 17:53

Leaveme :o I always think of that line from Alan Partridge where he's interviewing the Norfolk farmers: 'We've all seen the big eared boys on farms!' :o

WaggleBee · 20/09/2015 17:58

Leaveme you're terrible Muriel.

LeaveMyWingsBehindMe · 20/09/2015 18:26

Someone did once say to me 'The only good thing about coming from Cambridgeshire is that at least I can say it's not Norfolk.'

Pico2 · 20/09/2015 18:30

I'd guess that people hear that your DS doesn't go to the village school and assume it's because you share their snobbish views. They then feel safe sharing them with you. I know that doesn't make it any better though.

Hackedabove · 20/09/2015 18:40

We get the opposite, live in a wealthy area but mostly because our business is in our house, and we bought the business, so live in the house.

I'm sure people think we're loaded and workmen charge us more.

alphabettyspaghetty · 20/09/2015 19:13

I used to live in a nice part of Luton

Nuff said

FennyBridges · 20/09/2015 19:27

Thanks everyone :-)

Pico maybe you're right. And Hacked i can totally see that happening too. I remember sitting in the Royal Albert Hall and listening to the women behind saying Hayling Island, on the south coast, being full of inbreds and my uni friend next to me horrified, because that's where she'd grown up.

I just wish people were nicer. Will try not to be bothered

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PacificDogwod · 20/09/2015 19:28

Civil war almost broke out here some years ago when new houses were built on the border between our Naice Village and the neighbouring Even Naicer Village with a higher percentage of millionaires. The new houses were within the postcode of NV, but physically closer to the ENV (the 2 towns virtually bleed in to each other). The allocated telephone numbers started with the prefix for our NV, not the ENV's.
It was pitchforks at dawn, I tell'ya.

And, what's worse, the phone number snobs won!!

This is all well before we moved here, and I have the less prestigious phone number and thought when I was told this story that it was a joke. But apparently some people can really get aerated about this kind of stuff. I thought all those that complained should have been allocated a special Twat Code or something.

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FennyBridges · 20/09/2015 19:31

Lol. Twat Codes. No wonder so many people have heart attacks! What a waste of stress!

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LeaveMyWingsBehindMe · 20/09/2015 19:34

I have my whole life been blighted by living on the boundary between somewhere really nice and somewhere much less nice. The places on teh boundary are all we've ever been able to afford. Sometimes I have been able to crow that I am on the right side and sometimes not. I seem to specialise in living in places that are almost somewhere else.

My ambition before I die is to live right in the heart of somewhere lovely so I don't have to keep arguing with people about whether I really do live there, or in the slightly crappier place half a mile away.

PacificDogwod · 20/09/2015 19:37

I just wish people were nicer. Will try not to be bothered

It is your only hope, Fenny
People as a mass, are twats; individuals can be very lovely.

NB DS4(5) favourite soft toy at the moment is a horse called Fanny. I am very positively inclined towards Fennys

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