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Children in park exposing themselves

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Yepyep333 · 19/09/2015 20:19

My daughter and her friend are both 12, they were in the park this evening and 2 girls and 3 boys came into the park, aged between 9-13 (they recognised one of the girls from school) the boys then took there trousers down to just above there knees and started going on all the equipment and laughing hysterically, my daughter and her friend moved, the boys then went over to them saying 'hi, it's a lovely day etc' (whilst standing with his trousers pulled down) I feel furious Angry Is this what young children have to put up with now? I want to report it but to who I don't know!

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RockinHippy · 19/09/2015 20:28

Can you find out which school they are at ?? If your DD is at school with the girl, then maybe you can track the boys down via Instagram or similar ??

I agree with reporting them, they are old enough to know better & need a lesson pdq that this sort of behaviour is not okay, not even in fun.

If there's no chance of reporting them to their school, maybe ring the non emergency police line on 101 & ask for advice there

Good luck

(& maybe teach your DD to point & laugh at how small & ugly it is if it ever happens again, embarrass the toerags)

MatildaTheCat · 19/09/2015 20:29

If you don't know their parents then a word with the Community Police team would be in order for a stern word. Or perhaps even your dd saying she will report them to the Police if they ever do it again.

Agree it's horrid but wouldn't want the boys to get placed on the Sex Offenders register or anything stupid like that.

dangerrabbit · 19/09/2015 20:48

Report to police.

WorraLiberty · 19/09/2015 21:22

Trousers and pants or just trousers?

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Yepyep333 · 19/09/2015 21:31

Trousers and pants down!Angry

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WorraLiberty · 19/09/2015 21:33

Eww that's not funny at all.

alleypalley · 19/09/2015 21:45

So they were exposing themselves? Report to the police of course.

Crazypetlady · 19/09/2015 21:50

Agree it's horrid but wouldn't want the boys to get placed on the Sex Offenders register or anything stupid like that.
The O.p said they walked over with trousers down which is harassment they are old enough to know not to do it. When they approached the girls it went beyond stupid.

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Yepyep333 · 19/09/2015 21:57

Yes all 3 boys, my daughter and her friend have said the boys were using the slide and swings etc, when my daughter moved one boy came up and pressed his bare bottom on a see through panel and said 'look at this' I have asked if they saw full frontal nudity and they said no, having said that I'm horrified I had to ask that Shock I said perhaps they better not go back to the park but they are adamant they are not spoiling their fun which I agree with really, I'm not sure if I reported it they would say it's just children being silly?

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RockinHippy · 19/09/2015 22:15

They are over 10 Yep so no, they won't think it's a child being silly, they are considered criminally responsible at 10

margeys · 19/09/2015 22:31

Report, but they won't be put on the Sex Offenders Register at this age. However, stern action does need to be taken. Boys behaving like this at this age, are at risk of worse when they get older, unless this is nipped in the bud very strongly.

Also take your DDs feelings seriously. This would really upset many DDs

OneDay103 · 19/09/2015 22:49

Your poor did! Report these horrible children. If they think this is ok, who knows what else they might be getting up to. Even scary to think that they might come across younger children and do something to them.
Vile children, definitely report them.

GloGirl · 19/09/2015 22:59

I'd phone the police also

ilovesooty · 19/09/2015 23:19

It needs to be reported and investigated. It's a safeguarding issue.

gamerchick · 19/09/2015 23:24

Report to the school as well.

Heathcliff27 · 19/09/2015 23:34

I say yes report it. Last year a 14 year old boy exposed himself to my 10 year old daughter and a few weeks later did it again to a 17 year old girl and a woman in her 50's who was walking her dog. It was reported at the time and he has been put on the sex offenders register, we're in scotland so it may differ here. It isnt kids just being silly. Its indecent behaviour and should be treated as that.

Rainuntilseptember15 · 20/09/2015 08:25

Where they 9 or were they 13 though?

ilooklikemrsploppy · 20/09/2015 08:30

Sorry you dcs had to see this, that's bloody horrible. You should report though.

Bulbasaur · 20/09/2015 08:34

Report it to the police. What punishment he gets isn't really your concern. Your job is to protect your daughter and make sure it doesn't happen again.

That's way too old to be acting like that.

Though, I do know plenty of college boys that would still find mooning funny. Hmm

Catsize · 20/09/2015 08:41

Sounds like they were just being daft. I can't think I would report it to the police.

Catsize · 20/09/2015 08:42

And the fact that the dangly bits weren't seen suggests there wasn't a sexual motive to me. Inappropriate, yes. Definite future sex offenders? Probably not.

cashewnutty · 20/09/2015 08:48

I work in Child Protection and we get referrals like this on a regular basis. It is always taken seriously. We might not do a full investigation given their ages but we might depending on what they have done and the intention behind it. As a minimum we would certainly be sending someone out to speak to the boys and their families. This behaviour needs to be nipped in the bud and they need to know it is wrong.

MischiefInTheWind · 20/09/2015 08:51

They were being daft and vulgar because they didn't think there'd be any consequences. I'm assuming there were no adults in the park. Anonymity gave them power and confidence.
I'd report it to the police and the consequences will probably be that they'll get a stern talking to about their behaviour and warned that if it happens again, the consequences will be serious. The police are more subtle and capable of a sense of proportion than many give them credit for.

cashewnutty · 20/09/2015 08:54

Mischeif you are so right. We often send out a really burly police officer to do the talking to. Seems to work!

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