Hi all,
To give a bit of background.
I had DS very young, I was 16, and since he has been born, I have continued on with my education. Whilst I was doing my A- levels, I noticed that DS speech wasn't developing at all and after me obsessing ( I was literally obsessed) and chasing doctors, he was diagnosed with ASD ( they want to reassess him again for this sigh) at 3, and oral motor dyspraxia at 5.
When I was 18, just starting my first year at University, I made myself a vigorous timetable, so that I can support DS with his communication/ speech skills. So as soon as I got home from University, I will spend 3 hours ( with breaks of course) working on DS speech and communication skills, and take him out on weekends, for some quality time. However, due to this, I spent much longer on my university work and wouldn't go to bed, on most days, at 5am, if I was lucky, I would go to bed around 2.30am- 3.00am.
I did this routine for two years, whilst at University. However, in my final and third year at University, (the most intense year) the lack of sleep that I wasn't getting for the past two years, was taking a toll on me. I wasn't motivated, I was sleeping ALOT and I worst of all I was highly involved (and stressed out) in my son's SEN tribunal appeal to put him into an independent special school. My tutors knew of my struggles, and could see that my work was suffering as a result and strongly persuaded me to repeat my final year. I strongly resisted as there was no way I was going to spend another year at University whilst DS still needed my attention. I was determined to finish my final year so that I could spend time with DS, whilst his still young. So I deferred my coursework/exams till the end of August, so I can still complete my work at my own pace but manage to focus on this SEN appeal.
Even though my SEN appeal was successful and DS is now going to a specialist school that will help his speech/ communication needs. I sadly wasn't able to complete my work, even right up to the end of August, though I managed to complete my dissertation module (which was a 2.1 
). Worst of all, the job I really want to go into, as my undergrad degree is irrelevant to the job, I need to do a Masters and I will need a 2.1 or above, overall, to do the MA. The MA course wouldn't even consider someone with a 2.2 or with relevant experience.
So in the end, I decided to repeat my final year, which I will be taking again this year.
I'm very sad that it had to come to that as I really wanted to spend time with DS and work on his speech/communication skills at home. His 5 now and I don't want him thinking that his mum spent all of his childhood studying at school. Maybe I should quit University and forget about the job that I really want to go into and just focus on DS. But I don't know. My friend has suggested, that if I decide to repeat my final year, that I should put DS into full time after school club, so I have the remaining hours just to focus on my studies and when he comes home, spend time with him till he goes to bed. When he goes to bed, focus on my studies for a maximum of 2 hours, then go to bed.
She recommended me this timetable, in hope I don't study in the early hours of the morning and so I can sleep well.
Does this sound like a good plan? I really would like to spend time with DS and to work on his speech/communication skills as his only saying 20 words.
Or should I just quit Uni.
I'm so confused. 