WWYD- To consider plastic surgery

[Sayitagain90]

Hi,

I had to name change for this. This is not necessarily an AIBU, but more of 'What would you do', if you had the same issue as me.

To get started, I loathe my lips and my nose. I'm very nervous to undergo surgery for my nose, but may do this years later.

I hate the size of my lips, they are very big, yes biggish lips do look attractive on some people. But my lips are REALLY big, they have no shape, they look like two pieces of bananas that have been stuck on my mouth and my bottom lips hangs!

I am very self conscience of my lips, I did get teased a lot in primary school over them. But I NEVER take pictures of myself and I will beg my friends not to include me in their photo shots, as my lips ruin the picture. Honestly, I have only taken one picture of myself and DS and that's was when he was born. For the past 8 years, I have resorted to hiding my lips when I'm out in public, meaning I pressed my two lips together constantly and I have a bad habit of biting into them ( In hope I can take off some of the skin).

I'm not comfortable with talking to people who I don't really know well, as I'm worried that they are looking at my humongous lips. When people are rude to me, I try not to get rude back as I worry that they may use my size of my lips against me.

I'm 23 now and I'm considering looking to reduce the size of my lips. My friend sneakily took a picture of me some years ago and sent it to me a couple of days ago ( as a "omg look how much we've changed) and I literally wanted to vomit when I saw the picture of myself. My lips took over my face, it was just terrible. Though I'm not sure if I should consider surgery, I'm worried that reducing the size of my lips may change my whole facial appearance. Some people have told me that I am attractive, though I do not believe this, maybe they think I am because of my hair and my eyes. But I would like to take photos of DS and I and not having to worry what I look like in a picture.

I feel like my lips (and my nose) are effecting my daily life.

Don't know where to begin with researching as this procedure doesn't seem common as the majority of people get lips surgery to increase the size of them.

WWYD?

Interesting how you want the surgery, but are worried it will change your appearance.
Well, (and I'm trying to ask this kindly) what would be the point of having surgery if it didn't?
I also feel BDD could well be an issue for you. Your OP screamed this, frankly!
Do you actually like yourself as a person?
Will new lips really make you like yourself better?

Personally I would find yourself a surgeon who is BAAPS registered and have a consultation. Then you won't be worrying about it for nothing, because you will know if it is viable, and what adjustments can be made and what you can expect to achieve from the results. Rather than worrying about your lips being damaged because someone on the internet said so or those kinds of issues Talk to someone who knows.

Its non obligation, and you can think it over properly from an informed consent point of view, and also have an idea of price, risks, benefits, etc.

Its this kind of thing that plastic surgery was invented for - not seeking a wrinkle free visage or the perfect ski jump nose, but "correcting" an issue that makes you feel you really stand out to the extent that you feel it is holding you back, even if only psychologically. It is still inhibiting. Counselling will not necessarily change this, though you might consider having some during a 6 month cooling off period if you can get it on the NHS - to pay privately might seriously eat into your surgery fund though and may do no good at all - its not a magic fix that can suddenly make you accept yourself though it may well give you some perspective.

Don't worry about your GP judging you - they probably do judge people as they are only human, but they are more likely to judge a patient who is a type two diabetic who makes no lifestyle changes or the person who keeps not turning up to appointments than a genuine issue like this. And if the issue is not genuine and you are worrying about nothing, they will be able to help you with that too.

Good luck.

A reputable surgeon, such as the one I was referred to by my doctor, will discuss with you your expectations from the surgery, before ascertaining precisely what results can be achieved and consulting with you. For the vast majority of people, the surgery is a once in a lifetime thing. You need to know that the result you want is achievable, and that the surgeon you have chosen is capable of achieving it. It's not like getting a haircut, where the hair will grow back and you can try again.

Are you close to your dad, Say ? You mentioned that you have his features, and not your mother's?

Thanks very much for your advice everyone.

I have been feeling like this since I was 13, I'm now 23 and I feel the same way about my features. I just caught myself in the mirror, without me hiding my lips, and It was just disgusting! If I had a choice, I would cry every single day, but can't because of DS.

I'll definitely do the counselling actually! That is a very good idea.

I just hate the way my face looks.

Yes Thespottedzebra I am very close with my dad, but I do have his features as many people have told me this.

Hi. A friend of mine had recently undergone a nose job surgery in Toronto ( www.rhinoplasty.ca/procedures/primary-rhinoplasty/ ). She wanted to undergo this surgery so badly since childhood. Her nose was flat and short. She used to adore people with sharp and pointed nose. It depends upon people’s attitude about plastic surgery. Some people just consider them as a makeover.