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I'm going to have to cancel, aren't I?

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legolegolego · 13/09/2015 08:01

I'm due to go to a christening today but I've just been sick. I've been feeling pretty exhausted this week and quite often I will be sick just once when I'm over-tired, but the mum would kill me if I went, wouldn't she?

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TeaPleaseLouise · 13/09/2015 08:04

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addictedtosugar · 13/09/2015 08:13

Unless your pregnant, yes I think cancelling (with the true reason) is the way to go. Hope your feeling better soon.

londonrach · 13/09/2015 08:14

Unless morning sickness cancel. Hope you feeling better soon x

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legolegolego · 13/09/2015 08:26

Argh I really don't want to have to cancel. This is crap.

Could I maybe ring the mum and ask what she'd rather I do? Or I could still drive there and drop off present but not enter church?

Clutching at straws!

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YellowDinosaur · 13/09/2015 08:37

What time is the christening? I don't think you'd be unreasonable to wait and see. You know you're often sick when exhausted. If you're not sick again I think you'd be fine to go as long as you have a couple of hours to wait and see if it's going to happen again first. If you're sick again then stay at home. If not then go

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legolegolego · 13/09/2015 08:46

It's not until this afternoon, 2pm. I've had some breakfast now and feel mostly okay just still tired.

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YellowDinosaur · 13/09/2015 08:49

Will if you know you have this reaction if you're exhausted, and you're exhausted, then wait and see. If you're not sick again then I personally would go in your position. Any more sick and you need to stay at home.

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 13/09/2015 08:51

If you've been sick because you are over tired, that won't affect anyone else. I'd go (if not sick again). Or ring her and explain and leave the ball in her court.

BikeRunSki · 13/09/2015 08:57

My friend's dd throws up when she is tired and hungry. She is very good at doing so at 3pm in the last week of term! Her GP recognises that this is a known reaction to exhaustion and has put in place a management plan with school. She is allowed back the next day (I am not sure what happens if she is sick in the morning) - so I'd see how you feel, speak to the mum, and think about going.

BlinkAndMiss · 13/09/2015 08:58

I think you should give it a few hours and see of it happens again, it'll be pretty clear whether it's a bug or whether you're exhausted by then. I don't think you should ring and ask the mum what to do - she might feel awful telling you not to come or she might feel compromised.

Thelushinthepub · 13/09/2015 08:59

I wouldn't cancel at all. You said you puke when you're sick?

If you're concerned you have something contagious just don't have direct contact with others and ensure you practice good hygiene

InimitableJeeves · 13/09/2015 09:02

If it were down to a sickness bug you'd still feel nauseous and would probably have diarrhoea. If you have neither you're likely to be fine.

corlette · 13/09/2015 09:18

If you know it's just a 'tiredness sick' rather than a 'bug sick', I'd go to the christening.
Explain to the mum that you've had an exhausting week, lovely service, here's the pressie, shooting off home now as you've been feeling a bit under the weather but would love a cuppa, catch up and cuddle with the baby in a week or two.

Tiredstressed · 13/09/2015 09:20

I wouldn't bother the mum - she is probably busy preparing. If you are ill, you shouldn't go. If you feel fine now, I'd go. I wouldn't hold the baby etc just in case.

Catsize · 13/09/2015 09:22

Don't put the ball into the mum's court. You know you shouldn't be going, sadly.

CalmYourselfTubbs · 13/09/2015 09:23

if its a bug, you risk passing it to a baby on christening day.
i doubt the mum and dad will be pleased about that.
cancel.

Ladymoods · 13/09/2015 09:23

Am I the only one who would be delighted to have an excuse to get out of going to a Christening?

dustwhatdust · 13/09/2015 09:31

Ladymoods : Me too !

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legolegolego · 13/09/2015 09:51

Ha ha, I quite enjoy a christening! And I haven't seen said friend for a while and haven't met baby yet so looking forward to that. Well, I was.

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Thelushinthepub · 13/09/2015 10:00

I hope none of my friends think like this for DD christening. I'd be really pissed off if they cancelled at the last minute especially for one puke when they felt fine (not that I'd know the exact details obviously)

TendonQueen · 13/09/2015 10:01

If you've been able to eat now and haven't been sick again that's a good sign. I'd give it another couple of hours and then if it seems most likely overtiredness, I'd go.

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legolegolego · 13/09/2015 10:04

It's a 2 hour drive so I need to decide quite soon what I'm going to do.

I think I'm going to go. If I hadn't been sick this morning, I wouldn't think, as I feel now, that I felt too ill to go anywhere.

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Ladymoods · 13/09/2015 10:04

They probably do lush, not everybody likes christenings. It's mainly for you and your family, not everybody's ideal way to spend a Sunday.

Ladymoods · 13/09/2015 10:05

You sound a bit Christeningzilla there too, by the way.

Thelushinthepub · 13/09/2015 10:07

It doesn't bother me in the slightest if they don't like christenings, obviously they wouldn't have accepted the invitation if that were the case so this situation wouldn't arise

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