AIBU to want this child kept away from DD

[Chala86]

Ok, a bit of backstory. DD started junior school last year and immediately started having problems with a boy in her class. Stealing from her, stabbing her with pencils, throwing things at her during break, and tried to strangle her. I have been told he has SN, however am of the opinion that his behaviour is unacceptable and the school have been little help in nipping it in the bud. DD has been told she has to play with this child during break and lunch last term. When I spoke to the teacher last year she said - but he doesn't go out of his way to play with her. First off, regardless if this is true or not, I fail to understand what it has to do with stealing and general unpleasantness that DD is experiencing. Second, according to DD, he tells her that she has to, so utter rubbish.
Anyway, this has now carried over into the new term. Today DD came out of school telling me that he threw a piece of fruit at her. I know it sounds petty, but she said her neck was sore for most of the day and that there wasn't time to tell an adult. And her teacher has told her that she has to play with him at lunch, which I'm totally against because of how he behaved last term.
AIBU to want this boy to be kept away from my child? At the very least to expect better supervision during break and lunch to ensure that this kind of thing doesn't happen? I'm just concerned that it will escalate and am unsure how to proceed. Should I speak to the teacher again? Or do I just put it down to childhood squabbles?

It is all well saying that the boy should have supervision at break times but if this is not funded by his statement or EHCP, then the school will argue that they don't have the funds or resources to do this. This boy's parents have probably had to fight to get him as far as they have. However, this not your fault or the fault of your daughter and if you keep a record of events and hand them into the school then they can try and get things reassessed - but if they don't know they are happening then nothing is going to change.

My DS who has SN and attends a special school was attacked on several occasions by a classmate including scratching his face and running up to him and grabbing his head in a headlock and then biting his face (leaving a huge bruise and teeth marks). This class has a ratio of 1:2 and all staff were experienced with SN and it still happened. The school only phoned me to let me know he had been injured - I wasn't told any of the consequences for the other child. I was a bit but I suppose I thought that if my SN child was more aggressive then it could have easily been him hurting others.

I do feel quite strongly about the fact my son has a lifelong, visible facial scar as a result of the school failing to take appropriate action against the child that attacked him after he'd attacked (but not scarred) several other children.

In that case it was very much to my son's detriment that the school left matters alone in the hope the child would calm down/learn to self regulate/whatever rather than ensuring other children were properly protected. Children have rights not to be physically assaulted, and I rather think that right trumps any of inclusion.

I don't need to know how the school deal with these incidents , just that appropriate action has been taken. More than one of these incidents have happened during lessons ie DD getting stabbed in the stomach with a pencil. The strangling incident happened during lunch and DD told the deputy head. So the school are aware of the more serious incidents, although no teacher has spoken to me about them. In both cases the boy was given a detention during break. At the moment I just want to make the DD's new teacher aware that we had problems last term and that we had a small incident on Friday that should have been reported by DD but wasn't with a view of stopping any kind of escalation as DD came home quite upset and worried it would keep happening.