to tell her to jog on? naming day

[bettyberry]

Just received an invite to a naming ceremony.

Its a non-religious thing and is mostly people giving speeches and dedications to the children (Part of me is thinking of the scene in sleeping beauty where the fairies bestow gifts on the baby)

There is a dress code, a gift list (no deviating!) and strict instructions not to drink alcohol even though the venue has a bar.

There will be no food provided for the 'party' just snacks (crisps, nuts etc) or drinks apart from soda.

It is 3 hours long, early evening, right around dinner time.

The children haven't changed names, no blended family, marriage or ensuring DCs have the same surname etc (I'd still be a bit for these but understand the value of celebrating a 'new' family set up) parents have been together 10+years.

The children are 5 and 8.

To me it all feels a bit grabby (the specific gift list) and that the host (the DCs mother) is feeling a bit put out both her sisters have had babies recently and no one is interested in her spoilt children.

Please tell me I'm not going barmy and this really is just a 'look at me, I'm here! Look at me!' thing.

This is so exciting! Is there room on the bench for me? I have a giant box of mcvities family circle to share?

betty I am a little bit in love with you

I wish I had the balls to say that kind of thing on Facebook, I have so many FB friends deserving of it!

We had a naming ceremony for DD when she was six months old. We aren't religious, and offering free food and drink was the only way of getting our lazy relatives, who kept complaining that we hadn't taken her to visit them yet but never considered getting off their arses and coming to us to actually come and see her.

We actually requested no gifts (people brought them anyway which was lovely of them). Would never have dreamed of having a gift list!

well personally I think it was a mistake to do it this way and I suspect you will now come out looking like the bad guy which is what you were trying to avoid. Telling her how you feel is one thing but the message you have written is almost gleeful that you are "putting her straight" publicly which makes you look spiteful tbh.

You may have only a few facebook friends but now the post will show up in the news feeds of friends of everyone who's been tagged in it.

its all gone a bit quiet on my FB page... may comments with laughter emojis and other people have been tagged I don't know but all very quiet... I'm waiting for the phone to ring.

you rock op.

That fb post was quite brutal but it needed saying.

This is clearly a future classics thread!

Better to tell her now than her have the embarrassment of having no one turn up!

This is so exciting! Is there room on the bench for me? I have a giant box of mcvities family circle to share?

Of course.

Well I think you can safely say your invite has been revoked

Still she might either rethink the whole thing or turn it into a huge victim fest and everyone takes her side.

If it does go ahead, the power if MN commands that you go and report back at intervals how shit and grabby it truly is...

That's if you're still invited - which is currently looking very doubtful!

*of

Kin ell I'm glued.
You are brave OP.

Ooof!

What are your mum and dad going to say to that message...?

This is the most fantastic thing I have ever read.

That's a very nasty thing to write

I'm bringing gingerbread cupcakes, can I sit on the bench too!?

Mind if I pull up a chair, lovely MNers?

I have bbq ribs if anyone wants some?

Fuck me that rocks!

I'm off to make hot chocolate and am willing to share if there's space on the bench for me?

I am just marking my place.
When I pulled my sister up about something I did it on email & only with 3 other people copied in, I still wish I had done it more publicly.

I suppose it could turn into one of those eternal frosty silence situations?

(Yes please buttercup and bollocks)