I don't know if DD is right, she always manages to confuse me

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DD1 is a disabled and vulnerable teen. DD2 is a year younger at 16. DD2 has had an apple device for 3 years. DD1 has just got one. DD1 doesn't spend money but saves it, but is generous. DD2 is very tight with her money, but spends it all on clothes and make up

DD1 has spent probably about ??100 over a few months on iTunes. in 3 years DD2 has never spent anything on music because she'd rather spend on clothes even though she loves music.

DD2 got DD1's password and copied 56 songs. DD1 doesn't mind

I suggested to DD2 that the next batch of music should be bought by her and shared with DD1

she went ballistic and said that a few years ago I copied some of her CD's and gave them to DD1, so why should she pay for any music when DD1 didn't pay for the CD copies.

if you've got this far, please give me your advice, DD2 is so difficult in every way right now. I just don't know if she's actually right on this one. my brain is so fuddled. I just know that DD2 is devious and will freeload off whoever she can.

thanks all

Amazon prime recently launched Amazon music which is a music streaming service, they then made it possible to download songs.
I use it almost exclusively now for music and it's included in the prime membership, if you download the Amazon prime music app you need to log in to your prime account and then you can download and stream tons of music.

I just checked and I have bought 2,600+ songs with iTunes but now mainly use prime music.

Love and hate are two sides of the same coin I would suggest she is frustrated by it and struggles to express the emotion as other than hate, but then I am not there and don't see how it manifests! If DD1 doesn't mind and understands what has happened I wouldn't interfere other than to say maybe do something nice for your sister to say thank you. Even if it is spend some time with her.

I would highly recommend Spotify. One account each - £10/month, and they can listen to as much music as they want, and download upto 3,000 songs to listen to offline on their phones or iPods.

I don't think your DD2 hates her sister. She'll be saying that because she's young and doesn't really understand it. It probably upsets her that she's missing out on a "normal" sibling relationship and it's probably very hard for her to live with a disabled older sibling who is actually "younger" than her in many ways.

I hope the counselling sorts some issues out, although it'll probably be a lot better once DD2 moves out and grows up a little bit.