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To think someone else should just have given her a seat!?

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ollieplimsoles · 07/09/2015 14:09

Sorry its a Daily Fail article (hope link works)

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3224978/Eight-months-pregnant-woman-forced-stand-train-half-hour-businessman-refused-seat-d-booked.html

it seems like we see this or a variation of this every other day on here. Yes he was an ass hole for not moving but are you really telling me that NO ONE else stood up and just gave her their seat?

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LuckyWednesday · 07/09/2015 17:35

These types of issues keep coming up with booked seats

Lj8893 · 07/09/2015 17:41

When I was about 34 weeks pregnant and pretty obviously so too, I got on a train home from work and it was packed and also a really hot day. I'd just finished work and was exhausted and certainly would have struggled to stand for the journey but it was packed and there were no seats.
As I was getting to the end of the carriage, a woman called over to me that there was a spare seat next to her which I gratefully took.

The next stop a woman got on with her pushbike, stopped at me and demanded that as I was the youngest person on the train I should stand for her to sit down. I explained I was pregnant and she just shouted over me. The woman who I had sat next to was supportive of me and said if the pushbike woman was in need of a seat so bad she would stand, but Pushbike woman declined as the woman next to me was older than her. The seat woman was about 60, the pushbike woman in her mid 50s. She stomped off muttering about selfish young people. I was 25 at the time so hardly a teenager.

I hated getting on the train after that.

mountainofdreams · 07/09/2015 18:52

Silly story. She says that because she is 34 weeks she 'shouldn't really be travelling by train' ehh lots of heavily pregnant women travel by train including myself. She should have just alerted a member of staff. Bizarre that she didn't.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 07/09/2015 19:42

His mother must be proud to have such a gentleman for a son.
However sorry Ollie but I don't think other people were under any obligation to give up their seat.
He was sat in her reserved seat. No-one else was. I mean if someone else would have offered her a seat, all well and good.
I'd have sat on his knee. He'd have soon bloody stood up

ohtheholidays · 07/09/2015 21:04

He's a dick and I'm disgusted that no one else chose to stand up for her!

Everyone seems to be scared of they're own shadow now,no one pulls anyone up on they're lack of manners.That's whats helping to make the world so awful.

I've always stood up for people when things like this have happened,I honestly don't understand some people.

I hope they find out who the arse is and that he gets banned from using the train ever again,karma might just lean him some manners and common decency!

tobysmum77 · 07/09/2015 21:23

There's more to it there's no way she wouldn't have been offered a seat by someone even if one bloke was a dickhead.

I've never seen a heavily pregnant woman forced to stand on any train. 20-weekers you risk a 'pregnant how very dare you' response but heavily pregnant is different.

Tootsiepops · 07/09/2015 21:34

Tobysmum - I commute in London, and am very obviously pregnant (and wear a 'baby on board' badge). I am not always offered a seat. Not only that, but people will push past me waddling to get to free seats before I can sit down.

slithytove · 07/09/2015 21:37

Gaaah I know her. Didn't think she was the fail type, and her boyfriend certainly isn't. How mortifying.

slithytove · 07/09/2015 21:38

She is EXTREMELY feisty. Will be interesting to get the true story.

Havalina1 · 07/09/2015 21:50

I commuted from near Cambridge to Liverpool St up to 37 weeks pregnant. Every single time on the busy home journey I was offered a seat. But I was so hormonal, the kindness would make me incapable of speaking without blubbering tears - I found people is so nice.

One of the rail workers at LLS came after me one day, gave me a baby on board badge and insisted on walking me to my train. He said I looked so tired!!

I dunno u have found people incredibly kind both pregnancies.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost · 07/09/2015 21:59

I'm actually surprised at a man not giving up his seat for a heavily pregnant women. Most men are in awe of pregnant women. And treat them with kid gloves. Well they did during my pregnancy, I was always offered a seat. Women not so much so. I think the ones that have been pregnant, tend to think "Well I went through it, no one carried me around, or fell at my feet, and the ones that hasvent are jealous and want to go through it

CrystalButterfly · 07/09/2015 23:50

I was once attacked by a drunk man and woman on the train. At first when the train was packed they decided to make fun of me because I ignored them, other people on the other seats were laughing.
The train became more empty and when I got up to move the woman through her water on me, I was actually surprised to see people sitting behind not doing nothing.
I elbowed the woman to get off me as she was tugging on my bag and the man punched me in the face.
I then pulled the cord, the train driver said on the intercom "someone pulled the cord so the train has stopped"
He came down to the carriage, I told him they attacked me and he just reset the alarm and walked back to drive the train
I then phoned 999 and they said I had to call BTP and couldn't help me, I had no credit to call BTP and asked them to please call for me and they didn't.
Whilst I was on the phone to the police the woman started racially abusing me and EVENTUALLY a young girl stepped in and ONLY AFTER she stepped in then the OTHER men on the train followed.

the police did however pass my phone number on to BTP who asked me to come in and bring what I was wearing and I told them to forget it, what's the point now the man and woman are long gone.

This horrid train ride was from crystal palace to Victoria london

CrystalButterfly · 07/09/2015 23:51

Threw not through

SingingSamosa · 08/09/2015 00:09

When I was travelling down to London from the Midlands a few years ago, I was 34 weeks pregnant, on crutches because of excruciating SPD and carrying two heavy bags, not a single person offered me a seat on the tube. I was gobsmacked! At one of the stations I had to change at, I had to cross over the tracks (on a bridge) to another platform. There appeared to be no disabled access way of doing this and so I had to manoeuvre myself, my bags and my crutches up the seemingly millions of steps, across the bridge and down all the steps again. No-one offered to help. It's a sad world we live in.

quangotango · 08/09/2015 00:20

I always find these stories strange. I have had 3 children in the last 10 years and commuted into London every working day for virtually the entire pregnancies. Every journey without exception someone gave up a seat for me. weird.

Toughasoldboots · 08/09/2015 09:54

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PatricianOfAnkhMorpork · 08/09/2015 13:12

LittleRed her twitter timeline shows she did tweet later I assume once she got home given the timestamp. No mention of the train incident but something about football. I find it bizarre that she is tweeting fairly regularly about her entire life but not about this.

Like I said its possible that she has deleted them since selling her story. Which strangely she also hasn't tweeted ...

Moln · 08/09/2015 13:19

I feel the same quangotango. I was always offered a seat on public transport, in all forms.

It's weird beachside of tag to read that others never where!! Is it just a case of luck?!

Efferlunt · 08/09/2015 13:35

Obviously he is an unpleasant person but I'm not sure she comes across very well. Can't be bothered to ask others/find a guard but goes to the DM

When I commuted into London pregnant I was offered a seat 80pc of the time, if I needed one on the other occasions I would ask and someone always obliged. Interestingly it was always scruffy younger men or middle aged women very few younger women and almost never a middle aged businessman type.

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