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To think someone else should just have given her a seat!?

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ollieplimsoles · 07/09/2015 14:09

Sorry its a Daily Fail article (hope link works)

www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-3224978/Eight-months-pregnant-woman-forced-stand-train-half-hour-businessman-refused-seat-d-booked.html

it seems like we see this or a variation of this every other day on here. Yes he was an ass hole for not moving but are you really telling me that NO ONE else stood up and just gave her their seat?

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wasonthelist · 07/09/2015 14:56

That said, if I was her, I'd probably have taken the guy's picture, and or videoed him refusing, then walked to the nearest First Class carriage and sat down.

velocitykate · 07/09/2015 14:58

I may not be remembering accurately, but wasn't there once a news article about something similar and when the person having trouble couldn't find a conductor, they tweeted the train company from the carriage and the company (think it may have been Virgin), immediately sent someone to sort it out?

I suspect she probably couldn't find a conductor to sort it out.

Seriouslyffs · 07/09/2015 15:00

I was on a very crowded Piccadilly line train last week with hoards if tourists with enormous suitcases. A heavily pregnant woman was strap hanging and after much trying to catch someone's eye and tutting- we were standing at the othe end of the train- someone walked negotiated his way through the cases to her end and asked someone in the reserved seats to move. He offered her his seat and she said no Confused
I think the fear of being rebuffed or offering a seat to a non pregnant woman makes people keep their head down. But I'm shocked that if she was specifically asking for a seat no one helped.

wasonthelist · 07/09/2015 15:05

Not specifically asking for a seat - asking for the actual seat she had booked. The geezer was a tool, she'd have got a lot more traction in the Fail etc if she'd snapped his pic and/or video'd his refusal to get out of her booked seat.

PatricianOfAnkhMorpork · 07/09/2015 15:06

LittleRed that has to be the same woman as what's the chances of there being two with that odd spelling name in Manchester?

I found her twitter page and whilst she tweeted on her way to Birmingham, she doesn't appear to have tweeted about the seat incident on the way home unless she has deleted it.

I think her life is about to turn into hell though as I found all of her social media pages on the first page of Google and also the company she works for. I think she is about to seriously regret going to the papers.

Unthoughtknown · 07/09/2015 15:07

This isn't really news, yes there are twats in the world. Like a previous poster I would have sat on him or kept on until he got up. The comments are deranged though, got to love Mailonline and its barmy readers.

Moln · 07/09/2015 15:09

Staff on trains do seem to have a bad habit of disappearing when it's busy or there's a rowdy crowd.

I was travelling with young children years ago (eldest would have been 6) on a route that I'd travelled many a time. Ticket inspector appear after every station on every route I'd previously been on. That is until there was a group of pissed sports fans after a match, one of then spent lot of time straddled across the aisle naked from the waist down swinging his penis to and fro. Didn't see a member of staff once.

LookAtAllThesePhucksIGive · 07/09/2015 15:13

It is the same woman. I know her. There will be far more to the story. She probably gave him a mouthful of abuse and he decided to stay put. She's not the most diplomatic of people.

mileend2bermondsey · 07/09/2015 15:19

YANBU to think someone should have offered a heavily pregnant woman a seat.

YABU for doing that incredibly annoying faux 'sorry to link to the Daily Fail - which I absolutley do not read, but somehow found this article. ' Hmm

wasonthelist · 07/09/2015 15:20

LookAtAllThesePhucksIGive

What is her actual age then?

limitedperiodonly · 07/09/2015 15:31

I notice it happened between Birmingham and Manchester.

Would never have happened in London.

We're really warm down here.

PigletJohn · 07/09/2015 15:33

obviously not the same Manchester woman as this one of the same name

LookAtAllThesePhucksIGive · 07/09/2015 15:37

Around 28-29.

LittleRedSparkle · 07/09/2015 15:38

"she doesn't appear to have tweeted about the seat incident on the way home unless she has deleted it."

why wouldnt you tweet about it, if you were tweeting anyway - i would have - with a photo of him on the train too

LookAtAllThesePhucksIGive · 07/09/2015 15:40

That was around 5-6 years ago. It is her.

LittleRedSparkle · 07/09/2015 15:44

interesting Phucks, what are your thoughts on her not tweeting about it on the train journey as she was tweeting anyway?

LookAtAllThesePhucksIGive · 07/09/2015 15:51

I don't use Twitter much so not sure but she knows the guilty party probably won't come forward to disagree with her story and put his side across ie letting us know what she said or did to him.

JeffreysMummyisCross · 07/09/2015 16:13

To be fair, there are various reasons why she might not have been tweeting on the way home (couldn't manage to do so while standing up, had run out of data or battery, etc). Though it does sound like there might be more to the story.

contractor6 · 07/09/2015 16:29

I do find it bizarre bo one else offered a seat, I've been on that same train line bot as heavily pregnant and offered seat, only once had to ask some one to move there bag, maybe someone offered and she said no I want to one I've booked??? At least I hope that is the story as ipsets me to think a heavily pregnant woman wouldn't be offered esp on a long distance train

Toughasoldboots · 07/09/2015 16:33

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HackerFucker22 · 07/09/2015 16:37

I was still getting the bus to work at 38w and most mornings I'd end up standing as no one would offer me a seat apparently my own fault apparatus I should have demanded one but also been fully appreciative that people have a good reason for not offering seats - hidden disabilities / coming home from night shift / it noticing the big, fat, irate pregnant woman stood right in front of them

LittleRedSparkle · 07/09/2015 16:39

ah - what i meant was she was apparently tweeting all the way home, but didnt mention there was someone in her seat - but i read it wrong, i thought she was tweeting on the way home, but she wasnt.... my error

"I found her twitter page and whilst she tweeted on her way to Birmingham, she doesn't appear to have tweeted about the seat incident on the way home unless she has deleted it."

contractor6 · 07/09/2015 16:44

Hacker, where you on my bus this morning? I am also 38 weeks otherwise wouldve given up seat, I did glare at the other people in the priority seats for you though!

derxa · 07/09/2015 17:09

Let's say she's not exactly Little Miss Innocent.

notquitehuman · 07/09/2015 17:19

I had pelvic problems in pregnancy so was on crutches for the last few weeks. I stood on the train into London many times, while people pretended not to see me. I didn't like to ask, as I know other people can have their own reasons for needing to sit, but it made me very upset!

One time, a man kindly stood up for me on the tube, and someone else pushed in and took the seat! He turned his headphones up and didn't look up from his book the whole journey. I was gobsmacked.

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