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Giving People Lifts and Paying For Parking

46 replies

ElkeDagMeisje · 06/09/2015 09:47

Opinions on this please?

I gave someone a lift on a round trip of 50 miles yesterday. Had to pay for parking at the other end, it came to 7 Euros. The other person had paid for the ticket in advance, so when giving them the money for my ticket (15 Euros) I handed them over a 20 note, because I didn't hand me back any change. They handed me back a 2 Euro coin Hmm, saying that would cover my share of the parking.

It doesn't matter, its only a few euros. I was too polite to go into detail about costs. I didn't ask, nor was I offered, any money for the petrol in my car. I would probably have refused if I was, but it would have been nice if the other person had paid for the parking!

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cuntycowfacemonkey · 06/09/2015 09:49

That would be the last lift someone like that got off me!

Emochild · 06/09/2015 09:50

Would you have been doing that journey anyway?

PennyHasNoSurname · 06/09/2015 09:50

ditto.

I always pay fot parking when someone else drives.

LIZS · 06/09/2015 09:50

Were you making that journey anyway?

KitKat1985 · 06/09/2015 09:51

So to clarify you paid for petrol AND parking? Yes they were being cheeky IMO. YANBU.

Toughasoldboots · 06/09/2015 09:53

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cuntycowfacemonkey · 06/09/2015 09:53

Doesn't matter Emo the OP was clearly saving her friend money by providing transport, it's just good manners to show some acknowledgement of that.

iwantgin · 06/09/2015 09:54

The other person should have paid the parking without question plus offered you some money towards fuel and for the time and effort you saved them.

cuntycowfacemonkey · 06/09/2015 09:54

Plus lift sharing should benefit both parties in some way not just one

judgelionelnutmeg · 06/09/2015 09:55

Yes it would have been polite of them to offer a contribution towards the petrol and/or the parking. I would certainly think twice about offering them a lift again.

LittleRedSparkle · 06/09/2015 09:57

You should have asked them for their part of the petrol money
Tightwads

greenfolder · 06/09/2015 10:04

If you were going to something together then the costs should have been split equally. With me, it would work itself out more or less during the day through lunch or coffees or something

Emochild · 06/09/2015 10:11

I just can't get wound up about it

If I was going somewhere anyway then it's no skin off my nose if they offer to pay towards parking/petrol

Friendships tend to balance out over the year without accounting for every penny so unless they were treating me like the hired help and expecting me to take them places and never offering to cover the cost then I wouldn't think twice about it

morecoffeethanhuman · 06/09/2015 10:13

I'm too polite (awkward!) ever take petrol money, but would expect the offer regardless & I'm always the driver so never pay for parking, its the unwritten rule!!

jeronimoh · 06/09/2015 10:14

It doesn't matter whether you were making the journey anyway! Rude!

iwantgin · 06/09/2015 10:51

The other person is saving money and effort by having a door to door taxi. If he/she had to use public transport then it would cost them more to do so.

iwantgin · 06/09/2015 10:52

Is the other person a non-driver?

I think that SOME people who have never driven, or been a car owner don't realise that it is costly and more effort

NotMeNotYouNotAnyone · 06/09/2015 10:58

If I'm going out with my friend to do something together then I don't pay petrol money, but whichever of us has change will pay parking. I've usually paid to meet her on public transport then we drive somewhere together.

But if we're doing a trip solely or mainly for my benefit then I offer petrol money for s long trip or if it's local I'll buy her lunch or something.

StarOnTheTree · 06/09/2015 11:06

I agree that paying for parking is the unwritten rule for short journeys Grin

For longer journeys people should definitely offer money towards petrol.

Mermaidhair · 06/09/2015 11:26

I'm sorry I have read the post multiple times but I don't understand at all and it is driving me crazy. So your friend paid 7 for a parking ticket in advance. What did you need to pay 15 for?

GaryBaldy · 06/09/2015 11:33

Mermaidhair - I'm assuming the passenger bought the tickets to wherever they were going at £15 each - the OP paid her for them with £20 so should have had £5 change. Beyond that I'm a bit lost.

But OP YANBU anyone getting a lift should pay for parking, offer petrol money and buy the driver a drink IMO.

Mermaidhair · 06/09/2015 11:36

Thank you for explaining, it was hurting my head.

Mermaidhair · 06/09/2015 11:38

Yanbu, she should have paid for parking.

LatinForTelly · 06/09/2015 11:44

I think she was being very tight, but I wouldn't have brought her up on it either, if that gives you any comfort. I agree sometimes it's nice for someone just to offer.

ValancyJane · 06/09/2015 11:47

Unless it's a really good friend who you know is having a hard time, they should have offered a decent amount of money towards petrol/parking or alternatively bought you lunch!