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Bridezilla (sorry wedding one)

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ToesFeetShoes · 06/09/2015 01:14

So my daughter is just home from a hen do. She's 27. This is the 4th and final hen do for her friend... The first one was a spa day, then a house party then a weekend in Majorca and tonight was dinner and drinks at a bar in town.....

My daughter has spent a lot of ££££ on these hen dos and feels she has to go but her friend has lost the plot! She's annoyed at my daughter as my daughter is friendly with the grooms sister who dislikes the bride to be and on each hen the bride has either cried as she's annoyed with something or sat with a face like fizz. She's been a general bridezilla also but that's another thread!

Is it me or has this girl lost the plot. My daughter is counting down until the wedding is over!

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DisappointedOne · 06/09/2015 01:19

This is what happens when people pander to people that have forgotten what a wedding is actually about. Your very-much-an-adult daughter should have backed out after the first incident.

whathaveiforgottentoday · 06/09/2015 01:20

4 hen do's! Yanbu, bride has lost the plot. I'd be seriously pissed off if I was expected to pay out for all 4. In fact bride would have probably have become an ex-friend.

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ToesFeetShoes · 06/09/2015 01:28

My daughter is staying with me tonight as I'm walking distance from the pub. She said she felt she had to do these hen dos but now wishes she had stood her ground and said no. This friend was always so grounded but this wedding has sent her loopy!

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DisappointedOne · 06/09/2015 01:31

(I had 3 hen dos, but all for different people! 1 (happy hour at a bar and I paid for some hot nibbles) in the town I worked in, 1 in my home town (meal and drinks) and 1 where I took my best woman away for the weekend and paid for pretty much everything.)

Zillie77 · 06/09/2015 02:52

Wow, why was your daughter expected to go to each event? Weren't they organized to accommodate different groups of friends?

squoosh · 06/09/2015 02:54

If the bride has cried at each of her four (!) hen dos it sounds like something else is going on.

MidniteScribbler · 06/09/2015 03:58

She's been a general bridezilla also but that's another thread!

Nuh-uh! No way! The rules state you MUST tell us, in exquisite detail, of these bridezilla moments.

MythicalKings · 06/09/2015 07:09

Nuh-uh! No way! The rules state you MUST tell us, in exquisite detail, of these bridezilla moments.

^^ this. We haven't had a good one for aaaaaaages.

JeanSeberg · 06/09/2015 07:19

YABU - bride can have as many hen dos as she wants. If folk don't have the balls to decline, that's their look out.

She's annoyed at my daughter as my daughter is friendly with the grooms sister who dislikes the bride to be and on each hen the bride has either cried

This makes it sound like people have been bitches at the hen dos, possibly including your daughter? Not sure what you meant though.

GaryBaldy · 06/09/2015 07:27

Yes what midnight and mythical said.

Full disclosure. It's the law.

AlphabetStew · 06/09/2015 07:41

If all Bridezillas' friends' refused to pander to Zilla demands, there would be fewer Bridezillas. They'd be bred out of existence and go the way of the dodo and the wooly mammoth.

Advise your daughter to start saying 'No' to this Bridezilla. For the good of mankind.

WhatTheJeffHasGoneOnHere · 06/09/2015 07:43

Having 4 hen do's is just ridiculous, unless they're for separate groups of people. Your daughter didn't have to go to all of them though.

More bridezilla stories please.

londonrach · 06/09/2015 07:44

Im slightly worried the bride has cried at each hen do. Sounds like shes not happy. Yanbu re the hen dos. Bride being totally ott but sounds like shes deeply unhappy.

SanityClause · 06/09/2015 07:53

I know MN likes a good bitch about a bride, but it does sound as though this bride is deeply unhappy, and that not all is well between her and the family of her husband to be.

I doubt your DD is the person to discuss this with her, as the bride might not be accepting, given your DD's friendship with the SIL to be, but maybe your DD could speak to another mutual friend about it, to try to help the bride resolve any problems, hopefully before the wedding.

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ToesFeetShoes · 06/09/2015 08:04

My daughter and another group of about 4 girls have been to them all. My daughter felt like she had to go as her friend had gone to her hen do (just the one though). At first it was the hen abroad so she was happy to go to that and it was booked..... Then it was last nights hen so the people who didn't go abroad would come.... Then it was the hen do house party for reasons unknown but the mother of the bride wanted to organise one even though she was going to them all and then the spa day was meant to be a girly thing but this girl took it over and before anyone knew it, it was another hen do!

She was crying because she thinks his family don't like her which isn't true. She thinks his family don't make an effort. I think the problem is that she has such in realistic expectations and thinks all families must now become one etc. daughter spent the night in the loos with her and daughter is the one who tries to calm her down. Things have escalated at home though as the grom walked out a few weeks ago after a fight about it and went to his mums for a few days.

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ToesFeetShoes · 06/09/2015 08:15

General bridezilla - here's a collection ...... Got angry about friend who got pregnant and couldn't go on abroad hen and said friend was trying to make it about her ..... Asked one of her bridesmaids to tone their arms for the dress..... Forced all wedding party to stay over at venue even though very close to home and they have to pay..... Angry at guest who lives in Oz who can't make It over for the wedding.....just a few bits and bobs. This has been going on for 3 years. its been intense and non stop. My daughters friend is a lovely girl and I have known her for years but i think it's all got abit much really. Even daughter said she doesn't think they should get married...

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grapejuicerocks · 06/09/2015 08:24

Wow

Wishful80smontage · 06/09/2015 08:35

That's next level Bridezilla blimey!

MythicalKings · 06/09/2015 08:37

londonrach · 06/09/2015 08:40

I agree with your dd op. Gnome walking out. Bride in tears. Sounds like this wedding has got out of control.

BalloonSlayer · 06/09/2015 08:46

Well if she's marrying a gnome perhaps it's for the best he walked out of the house. He'll be happier in the garden anyway.

Hissy · 06/09/2015 08:47

Poor thing. It's always such a shock when gnomes walk out on you.

Bunbaker · 06/09/2015 08:48

Gnome

Why don't people switch auto correct off?

Aeroflotgirl · 06/09/2015 08:50

Yanbu at all, yes your dad should have stood her ground and gone to one, that she wAnted to go to and she could afford. Next time she should be more assertive, if bride to be does not like it, she not a good friend, your dd is better out of it. That is my motto0, never failed me.

londonrach · 06/09/2015 08:50

(Throws ipad out of the window and heads for the chocolate..its not too early is it)...ok mn how do you turn autocorrect off?

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