Bridezilla (sorry wedding one)

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So my daughter is just home from a hen do. She's 27. This is the 4th and final hen do for her friend... The first one was a spa day, then a house party then a weekend in Majorca and tonight was dinner and drinks at a bar in town.....

My daughter has spent a lot of ££££ on these hen dos and feels she has to go but her friend has lost the plot! She's annoyed at my daughter as my daughter is friendly with the grooms sister who dislikes the bride to be and on each hen the bride has either cried as she's annoyed with something or sat with a face like fizz. She's been a general bridezilla also but that's another thread!

Is it me or has this girl lost the plot. My daughter is counting down until the wedding is over!

TBH, TwoFeet, this situation is nothing to do with you. Your DD is 27, so if she feels it would be useful to get some perspective, and advice about how to help her friend, she should perhaps post, herself.

This thread just feels like a way for you to get people to make judgy comments about a "Bridezilla". It's a bit Misogyny In Action™ for my liking.

Also interested how the op knows all these alleged incidents to be fact...

More to the point why does your 27 year old DD feel she has to go to all these events? She needs to learn to be assertive and say 'no thank you' to all these ridiculous invitations. So what if she loses the friendship of this other girl - who sounds totally self obsessed.

She knows because daughter told her???

Marking my place. LOVE a good Bridezilla thread. Keeps my sleep deprived brain occupied. Would love to hear updates.

Whenn is the wedding?

I am just venting really. My dd has told me about all of this and i got the full story last night. I agree about the hen dos and I told her not to do it but she wanted to be a good friend and it's sort of got out of control. She's a big girl and can look after herself. I was more just posting for the sake of it

Wedding is in 3 weeks

To be fair I would cry a lot if I was marrying a gnome.

Tbh OP you have no idea whether his family are like her or not. They may be awful to her, her sil to be is hardly going to admit it to your dd.

There is a lot here you don't know as fact and that your dd probably doesn't know.

Your dd could have declined some of the hen dos and avoided this.

BWAH ha ha ha ha!!! Some brides be crazy (disclaimer, was the bride 2 weeks ago)

The only "crazy" thing I did -IMO was accept a stupidly expensive but totally amazing dress from DM.

Other than that I was cool, calm, collected and perfect. Obviously.

One of my BMs found out she was pg just before my hen. She wasn't drinking "due to antibiotics" yup, clocked it at that point God love her but still fit in her dress at 11 weeks because the only thing to have grown were her boobs so she didn't wear a padded bra. And if it hadn't fit, I'd kinda mentioned to another BM who's a seamstress that if X's dress was suddenly too small could she work a miracle. I have no idea if she could but she was reassuring enough so I left them to it!!!

My best friend who emigrated to Oz couldn't come, couldn't be my BM and I was gutted over spent the day skyping in and drinking champagne in Australia. I love her.

I wound up with 3 hen dos however. This is a very bad thing but not my doing so I remain perfect!
1- the "official" one organised by the bridesmaids. In London. Amazing
2- a random one with another group of ladies and the mothers. Afternoon tea. Very civilised! Sprung on me as we arrived at a hotel
3- a surprise mixed stag and hen by one of my theatre companies.
Sadly I wasn't in attendance at that one as I had food poisoning. My poor DH was subjected to all the hen as well as all the groom fun again a total surprise!

Bride sounds like she has insane expectations "2 families becoming one" is flipping TV. If people like each other then they'll spend time. If not then don't force anything. I had my SIL as a BM and we're closer for it (I hope) but this poor bride clearly needs to manage her expectations.