AIBU to think that Iceland food isn't poisoning my child...?

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A bit long, sorry
yesterday I was at DGP's house, with a bag of shopping from Iceland.. Chinese food (Saturday night 'takeaway') and a bag of smiley faces for me (haven't had them since primary school!!) and DGM was horrified and wouldn't stop going on about how Iceland food was all convenience food, the wrong kinds of food and that I 'was setting my son up for a bad future' she also seemed to think I don't cook and don't feed my son 'proper' food and vegetables!! WTF I can and do thanks I really don't know whether she's right and I'm a crappy mum (not her words but the way she was talking to me about it seemed like that was her opinion) I'm a bit upset about it... I love her to bits but she's quite a my way or the highway sort of person and I usually end up doubting myself after these sorts of discussions with her.. Especially as my lads a big boy (size 4-5 clothes at 2.5yo) and he's got to go back to the children's centre next month to make sure his heights caught up with his weight but he's about 100/101cm tall now and 22kg... So now I'm feeling really guilty and a bit of a crap mum
Is Iceland food really bad? Ds usually has cereal/toast for breakfast then a sandwich or sometimes hoops/beans/ravioli on toast with sweet corn or peas for lunch and a meat, carbs and veg tea before he goes to bed.. Is that a really bad diet for him?

celery we usually eat dinner at 4/5, and if he didn't eat it then he wouldn't be eating again until 8ish. I always thought that was an ok time gap so he didn't think he was getting 'special' food iyswim? I'll try giving his dinner back to him next time though and see if that works for us

Just up his non processed foods like eggs, fish, meat, veg and tap water. I'm sure he will be fine.

My kids only get pudding type stuff before bed if they have eaten their tea. Pudding type stuff is just extra and second choice to an essential healthy home cooked meal.

If your son doesn't eat his left over tea at 7.30pm/8pm, he can't be hungry.

I used to advise families on managing childhood obesity. Some of the posters on here are draconian. Some of the easiest advice is only drink water (plus milk maybe once a day). No snacks between meals.

Draconian? No. We just can't afford a constant slow trickle of treaty pudding type foods or to waste meals. I don't mind if my children leave or eat meals, it's their choice. However it wouldn't cross my mind to have an uneaten nutritious main meal on the side and offer lesser pudding type foods. Our kids were weaned on to a wide (sometimes experimental) variety of wholesome home cooked meals and they've always enjoyed 'adult' meals. My older kids are also very experimental when cooking now as teens.

an easy step to take is to gradually reduce the concentration of his squash. add a little bit less every day so he does not notice it. I have offered wholemeal toast as an alternative to tea when they really do not like it. that way they are not up crying with hunger but not getting used to being too fussy.

Still, that';s great. It's my main advice too. I once thought I could never get used to drinking water and now it's all any of us drink. All the boys and I always have a pint of water on our desk or they by their beds or desks at home all the time and it's not horrible or dull. It's a lovely refreshing drink. it's just a question of getting used to things. I now find squash and fruit juices and smoothies are awful and too sweet!

Mind you one of mine who is now allowed out at lunch time - sixth form - said his lunch yesterday was 5 oreos (ugh.....)