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To hate that ex h feeds dd aldi squash that contains aspartame

92 replies

Ellreejee · 02/09/2015 19:42

That really.

I've tried giving sainsburys stuff that is aspartame free but he keeps buying aldi own brand that has it.

What squash do people recommend? I'd like one xylitol or stevia without artificial anything or preservatives.

OP posts:
gamerwidow · 02/09/2015 19:57

There is absolutely no creditable scientific evidence that aspartame causes harm in anyone except those with a very rare disorder. if normal squash find then this squash fine too

TheAnswerIsYes · 02/09/2015 19:57

I give watered down juice to my 4yo (as well as water and milk). I avoid sweeteners and additives for him as much as possible and if my DH kept giving DS squash with sweeteners I would not be happy.

Phoebe84 · 02/09/2015 19:57

OP, I suspect you know YABU but on the off chance that you don't, you really need to get a grip. Pick your battles. This one really isn't worth it.

confusedandemployed · 02/09/2015 19:57

Jeez, all the panic over aspartame. It's hardly smack.

newoldmum · 02/09/2015 19:59

Battles worth winning = not this one.

TheAnswerIsYes · 02/09/2015 20:03

I avoid it for my DS as my friends and I have seen negative effects such as hyperactivity and wetting when our children have drinks containing sweeteners. Perhaps it's because they are not used to them but it's easy enough to avoid.

Happfeet2911 · 02/09/2015 20:14

FGS aren't there more important things to worry about, aspartame is not crack cocaine!

Finallyonboard · 02/09/2015 20:18

I would find this very upsetting too op! Slightly crossing moral lines, but I would be tempted to tell him that she had an allergic reaction to a squash you gave her and GP has suggested that no squash is given! I'm a worrier though, so I appreciate my response is ridiculous to the extreme

Unhappyuser · 02/09/2015 20:19

Of course a 2 year old will drink water if that's what's offered. You are the parent

Goshthatsspicy · 02/09/2015 20:19

Sweetners make me unwell. I get very shakey, and feel sick.
No way is that crap any good for us.
In your situation though, it might be better to keep quiet (if she is okay on it) as it might make it a bigger battle.
When my sister was little, she had severe asthma. On the advice of her doctor, my mum was told to keep her off diary products. When we stayed with my Dad, he thought that was absolute rubbish. It almost seemed that he took pleasure in feeding it to her.

BackforGood · 02/09/2015 20:20

I agree with everyone else.

Breaks into "Let it Go, Let it GO".....

Stillunexpected · 02/09/2015 20:20

Of course a two year old will drink water if nothing else is available. If you are going to worry about the ingredients in squash, there are far more things to worry about than the aspartame. Why did you start with squash in the first place?

And you do appreciate that aspartame is found in other foods as well - some yoghurts, cereal bars, ice-cream etc? Even some medicines have it as an ingredient. I think there are other things to worry about.

cuntycowfacemonkey · 02/09/2015 20:22

Aldi do squashes that don't have aspartame in them, the high juice types - can you suggest those instead.

tobysmum77 · 02/09/2015 20:25

Yabu. Sugar rots teeth and causes diabetes and obesity.

Aspartame while yes we're all better off sticking to water is far less proven to cause harm.

BlackeyedSusan · 02/09/2015 20:25

no they bloody won't drink water... they spit it out... every sodding time from 6 months old. and yes it was offered again and again and again. She will drink squash with about 10ml of squash to a glass of water...

if it is really weak, then it could be worse. would he give her sainburys if you sent a bottle of it along. Is there something he feels really strongly about that you could compromise on? processed meat for example?

passmethewineplease · 02/09/2015 20:26

I don't get the aspartame hate, am I ring in thinking that it is one of the most tested sweetness ever? And that said tests have found it not to be harmful to us?

OP I'd let it go, if this is all the only concern you have regarding contact then count yourself lucky.

JuJuMun69 · 02/09/2015 20:27

Everything in moderation. stop demonising a bit of bloody squash!

goawayalready · 02/09/2015 20:27

my ex does this i gave them the squash that doesnt affect them and send then into fits and shouts and they drank it themselves and give them the cheap shite they make sure to give them a nice extra strong big drink before they come home when im trying to go out afterwards my son was so jumpy he didn't sit in the hairdressers chair without acting like he was being shocked he was yammering on in disjointed sentences leaping from one subject to the next i play minecraft woah! look a wasp did you see that car ouch that hurts can i have an apple did you see this i did that it was constant his younger brother was squealing in the pushchair everyone was looking at us like Confused but i kept calm and they got a haircut im so tempted to give them a pint of pepsi and a bucket of chocolate and send them over next time (i won't obviously) the sugar crash they have from going there is immense

JuJuMun69 · 02/09/2015 20:28

As long as it isnt give in a bottle its not a crime!

JuJuMun69 · 02/09/2015 20:28

given...

JuJuMun69 · 02/09/2015 20:30

goaway...Your child obviously has a bad reaction to something. My son has an epi pen for peanuts..

hibbleddible · 02/09/2015 20:34

If children are thirsty then they will drink water.

Dd didn't have any squash at all until she was 3, apart from at parties.

Saying that, he is her parent too, and is able to parent her how he feels best within reason whild he has her. I would put the squash issue aside and focus on the bigger picture.

00100001 · 02/09/2015 20:38

they will drink water - at six months old they'll be getting a lot of fluids from milk alone - so will spit it out mostly, and then as milk goes down water goes up.

Plus you do get fluids from food - people are obsessed with kids having to be drinking alllll the time

00100001 · 02/09/2015 20:39

blackeyedsusan how long was it before you gave squash?

00100001 · 02/09/2015 20:40

^^ genuine question not judgey

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