to think that if you give wedding presents a thank you would be nice

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Or am I being a bit precious about this? Do people not send thank you cards anymore . Shall I just walk away quietly ?

I got married a month ago and still haven't sent thank you cards
In my defence, my kids and i moved in with my husband the day before the wedding and between caring for dh and still working, there just hasnt been time or the energy to do them.
It wasn't something i thought i would have to do as we specified no gifts but got them anyway

geez it's been a month. barely back from honeymoon and still unwrapping at this point I should imagine.

or getting pictured/cards printed as others have suggested.

A thank you at the time or text/email would suffice surely?

don't get this heed fir cards written in unicorn blood flown in by golden eagles stuff..If there are conditions to what you are giving then don't give it.

A month is nothing, my DD and Son In law got married in February, were building up to exams (teachers), they then went on Honeymoon, came back to exams and then decided to sell their house. You then have to wait for photos etc, get cards printed and hand written note, actually move house and then they sent thankyou cards. It took six months but they got there.

I received a lively, personally written card from the bride of a wedding I went to two months ago, but am still waiting for a card from my niece who got married two years ago . but then then, she's never sent birthday or Christmas cards either

A month isn't long. The good wedding etiquette guide states that 6 weeks is considered 'normal' and polite or up to 3 months following the wedding.

We got married in December. All thank you cards were sent out by end of January, except a few people we were seeing in person, who got them by the middle of feb.

*lovely

YARBNU!

2 months on and I still have a few to do

Dear X, thank you very much for the Y. We are looking forward to putting it towards our building work/used it to buy our lovely new TV/dishwasher/are using it for ABC purpose,

Lots of love, us

All in best handwriting on a handmade card. It's taking a while because I'm extremely appreciative of my gifts and want to show that properly - which means a bit of elbow grease!

It took 3 weeks to receive the photos on disc, then another week to design and have printed a montage thingy to stick on the fronts of blank cards. Then I had to stick 40 photos to 40 cards using those little plastic corner thingies. Then write them...

Personally I believe it's the thank you which is important - that's just basic good manners when someone's been kind

How it comes isn't so much the point ... card / letter/ email / phone call / canister on the leg of a carrier pigeon / whatever. Times change and I doubt anyone expects engraved vellum these days, just so long as they receive something

It could be cock-up rather than deliberate rudeness. Dh and I got married in August '92, and having kept a careful list of who had given us what, we decided to split up the thank-you letter-writing - I wrote to my side, and he wrote to his - people who were friends of both of us, we split between us.

I got on with writing my letters, and assumed (foolishly) that he was getting on with his - until, at Christmas, I found out that he hadn't written any of them! I ended up putting a thank-you, and sorry-for-the-delay note in half the Christmas cards that year.

Yes a card should be expected but give people time. Many people go away on honeymoon or get cards designed with pictures which they need to wait for. I think within 2 months should be doable.

I pre-ordered our thank you cards (matched invites) and it still took nearly two months to get through them.

Hopefully B&G will be in contact.

I wish people would send a thank you, not necessarily a card, an email acknowledgement would suit me. If you order from an online list you have no way of knowing if it actually arrived. Plenty of scope for fraud I always think.

Sorry i missed the point about only a month! I agree that that's a bit soon given honeymoons/ getting over the wedding.

Although saying that it only took us six weeks to send out personalised hand written cards to 120ish people (big family = ridiculously big wedding.. Never ever again!) including a two week honeymoon And a major house move. I did them in stints across a week or so, I'm really glad I did though although I appreciate not everyone is as Monica gellar esque as I am.

Thank you cards are dying out (there has been a few threads on this lately) and personally i'm glad of it as i hate them with a passion. (Mainly because of the number of them my mother made me sit and compose with perfect handwriting and spelling as a child and all the bloody PA pressure i still get off her about them having grown up and had children of my own!)

However! I think thank you cards for wedding presents is a lovely thing which i enjoyed doing. I think it's the full circle ness of it. All the traditions together.

A lovely invitation card to the guest.
A nice acceptance in return (i sent out pre-paid acceptance cards with my invites. No excuse!).
Everyone dressed up on the big day and presents and cards dished out.
Pretty thank you's sent off a few weeks later.

A month is nothing though. They'll be busy with photo albums and getting back to work after the honeymoon etc.

I have always had thank you cards from people who live in the UK.

However, I have been to three Canadian weddings and never received a thank you from any of them. I wonder if thank yous for gifts are not a thing over there?

I sent mine out the minute we received our photographs as I wanted to send a photo of the whole group to everyone, but we only had a small wedding so it wasn't too much of a chore. Thinking about it, those Canadian relatives had 200-300 at their weddings. I'm not sure I could be bothered to send out that many cards either!

This thread comes up once a month at least, if you give to get something out of it then don't bother. Don't you think a newly wed couple have better things to do or may be busy with other stuff. The same goes with expecting new mums to be writing out and posting thank you's when they have much more important stuff in their life. Who does cards anyway, it's a dead tradition.

Oh come in it's only been a month!

Plus at the wedding guests are thanked a million times for there presence and their presents! They know full well they've been thanked.

We sent cards out 4 months after the wedding as we paid the photographer extra money to make up personalised cards that some people admired they looked at then chucked in the bin.

Thank you cards are becoming outdated and rightly so for many reasons.

On saying that I've just received a thank you card from a wedding we attend THREE years ago.... Maybe she was fed up reading threads like this one :)

She gave them a HUNDRED pounds!!!

What was she thinking!!?!? I would be furious with my furious with my Mother if she did that but each to their own.

Not sure where I stand on the giving of Thank you cards. We recieved a lot of presents but had no idea who had sent them so even if I'd had have wanted to sent a TU card I couldn't.

I do think your Mum needs some sort of acknowledgement of her extremely generous gift though.

I got married on July 11th and have so far only done 10/70 thank you cards. And they've not been sent as I keep forgetting to buy stamps . I feel really guilty but we have literally hardly had any free time, and I'm writing quite a lot in them. I hope people don't think we're ungrateful- this has given me a push to prioritise them though!

I reckon you don't start to worry til 3-4 months. A month is nothing!

I think it's a sad sign of the times that good manners in this regard are no longer seen as important. I have noticed that thank yous generally (be it card, email, text or whatever) are conspicuous by their absence these days. I appreciate writing thank you cards to numerous people is an onerous task but how long does it take to quickly fire off an email or text, FGS?!

I always acknowledge and thank for any gifts received, and my kids have had it drilled into them too, so it's always very disappointing and annoying when a gift given is not even acknowledged. You wonder why you bothered.

I think it's wrong that people expect thank yous to be handwritten and posted. If it's a busy time of year then DS's thank yous will be an email with pictures to those who attended - if anyone wants to take umbridge at that then they just don't have enough going on in their lives.

In this day and age I'm perfectly happy with an email/text or facebook message. However I would expect some sort of recognition even so that I know that the present arrived.

I'm still slightly bitter about not receiving a thank you for the wedding card we sent to a youngish relative with around £50.00 in it. Never received a word of thanks for it, to the point that I had to check with another relative that it had been received. Now as above I know that stamps are pricey these days, but a FB message would have been absolutely fine.

A friend's daughter asked if my husband would mind driving her bridesmaids, in his car, to the wedding then on to the reception. We decorated the car with ribbons, put flowers on the back shelf, gave the happy couple a £50 cheque. Have never received a word of thanks for any of it.

This was 3 years ago.

can I ask, what's the verdict on a short text as a thank you? I got one once after parting with more money than I could afford, and it just felt a bit meh....

I'm still waiting for one from November last year Bastards.