to reply to my childrens' texts?

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My exh has told me and my children that they are not to contact me or me them, whilst they are at his house. I have never instigated a text conversation with them whilst they are with him, but I do respond to their texts. He says I should ignore them.

Back ground: one of my children has anxiety and usually just needs to touch base with me to feel okay again. There has been 7 months of upset between him and the children as they don't like his girlfriend - they both feel shoved out/that they are not listened to etc...

Personally I have no issue if he wants to contact the children when they are with me (although in three years he never has) as I think children should be able to contact either parent at any time if they wish to.

This came to a head the other night when my children were at his house, texting me, asking to come home (at 11pm). I called him to see if he wanted me to collect them and was told I shouldn't be texting them, I should ignore them and that HE WILL PUT A STOP TO IT.

AIBU to think its okay for me to reply to my children?

Detour from main topic, but I always understood EDS to be a condition of connective tissue issues, and articles I've read present it as this, so am confused by it being used to describe stress / anxiety symptoms?

You are correct Ardara but that means it can affect all tissue, not all of it is fully understood yet, but from what I understand of POTs, which is a symptom & usually the hyper adrenaline type in EDS patients, this can mean the heart has to work harder to pump the blood around the body as the the veins & arteries are stretchier. The type we tend to have also floods the body with adrenaline, all of which feels like anxiety, living on your nerves etc & can cause an over sensitive flight or flight response.

I had my tilt table test recently & even though mentally I felt really calm, it threw my body into a full on panic, complete with butterflies & my heart rate going mental - just from being stood up

The link I've added above is a good explanation too

Thanks Rockin, that's intwreating to know I have ME, fibro and depression, all sometimes down to EDS but misdiagnosed, but not in my case. My experience of someone I know with EDS was very much the typical hyper mobile joints, didn't have the same stress / anxiety / MH type symptoms

Thank you for your replies.

Rockin - thanks for the video link - its exactly what happens with my dd. If only more people understood it!!

I have decided to just ignore exh and concentrate on me and the girls. I only intend communicating with him about contact and any essential information about the children. The girls can tell me what contact they want and I will work with that.