Usually meet up with friend on my own. She's always late so I bring book to restaurant and wait. Don't mind as have young children at home and happy for peace and quiet. Met up with her plus my DH and DC for walking tour, lunch and theatre in another town 1 hour away. Her idea, but I bought theatre tickets. Plan was to have picnic lunch in between. Night before she rings (waking me up as I had fallen asleep) to say "I am bringing a packed lunch. Do you think that is selfish?" Non-plussed, I said no. Being sleepy, I did not gush "of course not", just sounded non-plussed (as we had agreed to bring packed lunches). She sounded put out that I hadn't spent a lot of time reassuring her, but I was too woozy to care, having just woken up. Next day, she arrives 20 minutes late. We had arrived 30 minutes early, as we set out the time she had said she would set up (9am). She rocks up at 10.50am. We have to run to venue for 11am start. Don't have time to listen to her excuses/apology (which would be in fact an invitation to tell her that we really don't mind!). She seems put out that her "grand entrance" has been ignored and we are more concerned about giving the kids a snack/going to the loo before 11am! Walking tour overruns, kids get hungry, but DH and I manage to distract them. After things are calm, she starts going on "Oh, I feel so terrible, the kids are so bored and hate this, and it was all my idea". I try to "shush" her discretely as I do not want to wind the kids up. She looks very put out at being shushed as this was obviously my opportunity to tell her that of course we don't mind and her needs come before the kids. At lunchtime - which is a quick chance to eat our packed lunch before the show begins - she announces that she has not brought any packed lunch and she will need to buy some sandwiches. I say this is fine and there are lots of sandwich shops close to where we are picnicking. She ignores these and goes on a ten minute trek to buy some rank sandwiches in a petrol station. Then proceeds to eat these sulkily, enviously eyeing our nice picnic. I am busy feeding kids and taking them to the nearest loos (the museum). We are packing up and she announces "I shall have to go to the toilets at the theatre". I say "Why not use the museum loos, they are just over there". She says "Oh, I couldn't use the museum loos". So we queue up in the packed theatre for the four ladies loos with her, and then wait outside. When we are seated she wants to sit in the aisle seat (that I have booked in case the kids need the loo during the performance). I ask her to sit down where she is (not on the aisle) as we are trying to get everyone seated and there is a queue of people behind us. She does not come out during the interval and "hogs" the aisle seat saying that she will have to leave during the performance as "they have brought the soundcheck forward to 6.30pm" for her concert (1.5-2 hours away). Realistically, she will be lucky to make the 7.30pm performance start. I spent £200 on the theatre tickets for us all and hoped it would be a special occasion rather than something she just dropped into. I don't think I'll bother arranging a day out with her again. AIBU?