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AIBU?

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To think that people go luxury shopping every weekend?

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FuryFowler · 26/08/2015 21:43

I'm just watching Anne robin sons spending programme and there's a family who go shopping every weekend as their hobby, buying £150 hand bags.

I don't enjoy shopping so do it as little as possible, I can't afford to and it gives me a headache. But we are on the same income as the family on this programme.

Aibu to wonder if shopping is a big hobby for a lot of people on here? Do you like to shop for
Luxuries? How much a week do you spend?

I'm thinking bags, clothes, electronics, jewellery etc....

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Skiptonlass · 27/08/2015 09:34

I initially thought no, but then I realised I will happily spend an entire afternoon in a bookstore, a fabric/yarn store or a garden centre. If I have to go shopping into town I'm more of a targeted in/out with exactly what I need sort of person. I'm not keen on shopping for the sake of it, I've lived most of my life on a very tight budget and even though we are more comfy now I get a bit uneasy about wasting money.

A retail park on a Saturday is my idea of the fifth circle of hell, but I suppose spending four hours browsing books/fabric/plants isn't that different. It's still shopping.

What would I think of someone who put a designer handbag on a table to show it off? Umm.... That handbags get put down all sorts of places, are swarming with germs and to put it on the floor probably ;) besides, Radley handbags are hardly high end (ooh, get me being all snobby... It's not like I have a closet packed with emu skin birkin bags...)

Despite growing up pretty skint, I do know several seriously, seriously rich folks. One thing they all have in common is they don't flash wealth around on tacky designer goods. Or shop as a leisure pastime.

You can tell I grew up in Yorkshire and lived in morning side for ten years can't you? :)

Whatthefoxgoingon · 27/08/2015 09:41

I was more shocked at the family last week tbh. Their income was £100,000 (after tax I presume otherwise pre tax income is totally misleading) and they were so feckless that they couldn't budget for school fees for two kids and wanted another £50,000!

specialsubject · 27/08/2015 09:58

shopping as a hobby is a lot of what is wrong with the planet. Crawling round stuffy indoors arenas, stopping regularly for cake (so people get fatter), buying loads of useless items (huge waste of resources), learning nothing.

indoors indoors brain dead braind dead waste waste. Get outside and look at something that grew FFS. Or go read a book. From the library.

bushki · 27/08/2015 09:59

I didn't see the show, but I can't think of any families I know who shop weekly as a hobby tbh. I have a teen DS who is not into shopping at all (hates it) and has no concept of designer labels thankfully.

I do enjoy a good day out shopping a few times a year, usually during the sales and spending saved money not on credit. I always go alone though, I hate trying to shop in a group, and I'd rather go on a weekday when it's quieter. I also have window shopping days when I'll just browse and not spend any money. Spend a lot of time (not money) browsing online as well.

SaucyJack · 27/08/2015 10:06

I shop a lot, although I only buy cheap bits and bobs for the kids.

It's just summat to get out of the house for innit. I'm a SHAM, and the days are easier to fill if I have a task to do- even if that's just buying new school socks.

SwedishEdith · 27/08/2015 10:25

I thought it was interesting that the mother was adamant that they could die tomorrow.

Wonder if she'd inherited some money? She didn't come across well at all.

woodhill · 27/08/2015 10:30

Yes Des you could be right. perhaps she lost people dear to her or grew up with very little. still thought she wasn't teaching good values to her teenagers about having expensive stuff constantly.

WipsGlitter · 27/08/2015 11:06

I agree that her thinking if you put a Radley bag on the table you were somehow 'better' was very warped. I used to think like this but have managed to move on. Plus she was very mean about her £10 bag from the market.

I missed the woman with the 'rules' - what was her story?

LynetteScavo · 27/08/2015 16:32

Basically the rules lady had a high earning husband, but didn't see the need to buy loads of stuff or spend money for the sake of it.

She said one doll for each daughter, and a spare for a friend when they came to play was quite enough.

She only wanted to purchase things locally produced, environmentally friendly etc and only wanted natural fibers in fabrics she bought (hence the £2K curtains- sadly I can't afford to be that particular) She mentioned the car cost less than the curtains.

I bet she's a MNetter.

velourvoyageur · 27/08/2015 21:44

Not for luxuries. But I love clothes and my CD collection :) so I spent 50 euros on 7 CDs yesterday. I might go and buy some more tomorrow. I'm in a place with an amazing music shop which I don't have where'll I'll be in a month so am stocking up. If someone wants to buy a handbag instead of 21 CDs I don't care.

Used to spend loads more but cut down, specially on books.

SunshineAndPeardrops · 28/08/2015 06:32

I liked the rules lady

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FuryFowler · 28/08/2015 22:26

I actually saw the dog logo and and thought, ooh they're selling Boden at the trafford centre :/

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Notso · 28/08/2015 22:56

I suspect the Radley woman had some bad experiences in the past. They did come across as awful as a family though.

The rules woman was worthy in a way only possible if you are loaded. I know several people who are similar and find them incredibly annoying.

JenniferYellowHat1980 · 28/08/2015 23:05

The Radley woman was a bell end and I hated to hear her daughters laughing and sneering just as she did. She was fucking rude about the other woman's £10 handbag too. The dad had a very studied nonchalance about paying for the sunglasses - purely for the camera I'm sure.

Personally I find shopping an exercise in humiliation and don't go unless it's desperate. I'm currently trying to sort clothes for the new term by shopping online - lots of trips to the PO to make returns.

beaucoupdemojo · 28/08/2015 23:09

I like shopping when I am slim and hate it when I am fat. It is soul destroying when everything looks horrible because it is designed to look good on a size 10, not on a size 16.

People shop to anesthetise (sp?) themselves. Life is hard work and stressful and buying treats ( be they expensive or not) makes people feel better. But the effect doesn't last and no sooner have people bought one thing they 'need' another 'need' takes its place.

I also think that entertainment is so pricey in the UK and the weather not always good, that shopping feels like value for money because you at least get something to show for a day of shopping. Going to the zoo or cinema costs so much and even then you get bombarded with gift shops and overpriced sweets. We are always being sold to and it's hard to resist.

My teenagers do enjoy days shopping when I am taking them to Superdry and the sports shop and Game. Aldi, not so much . They wouldnt want to do it every weekend though. They'd rather play sports.

Didn't see the programme but wrt Radley - they make some really nice, good quality bags but they are not what I would call designer.

NewLife4Me · 28/08/2015 23:21

YANBU

Shopping is a huge leisure activity.
This is why Millions are spent building huge Centres to keep you shopping all day.
It's a huge industry and when you start to look at the business psychology
surrounding it and all that bollocks, it's fascinating.
That's me trying to be intelligent having studied it a bit

ouryve · 28/08/2015 23:35

wrt Radley - they make some really nice, good quality bags but they are not what I would call designer.

This.

The bag I bought last weekend is Radley - bought in their outlet shop. It's simple, black, roomy without being too big and has lots of pockets for all my crap, change etc. Practical and it's leather, which so many aren't these days. I quite like the dog, but he lives in the front pocket with all my loose change.

I'd love one of their Grosvenor bags but they're a couple of hundred quid that I'm not entirely sure I want to spend, right now.

There were a couple of women in there getting very excited about the matching enormous bright blue monstrosities they were both buying, though.

AnthonyPandy · 29/08/2015 01:59

Does anyone remember the money programmes they used to have on television about 10 years ago? There was one with Alvin Hall and another one with a woman called Jay and a man called Ben who would look at the psychological issues people had around money, their experiences growing up with or without money and how it all influenced their attitudes to spending now. They were very interesting and it would be great if they were repeated.

ohtheholidays · 29/08/2015 10:32

There's no way I'd want to go shopping every weekend.

What a waste of a weekend,I can afford to but as far as I'm concerned it would be as much fun as watching paint dry.

The weekends for us are family time.Some weekends we go to a Theme Park,a zoo,a farm or we might go to a seaside for the day or the whole weekend or we visit family or friends or we go out for a meal.

Were all meeting up with friends later at a restaurant.
I think our children would hate us spending the weekend shopping.

Savagebeauty · 29/08/2015 10:36

I hate shopping with anyone else.
I don't mind on my own for a couple of hours then meeting someone for coffee/ lunch.
But all day?
I do most clothes shopping online now.

Bambambini · 29/08/2015 11:03

Not lots of money shopping every week but we do spend a lot eating out.

SellFridges · 29/08/2015 11:11

I love shopping. We've cut back recently as we've been doing work on the house and haven't actually had a weekend free for months but we've just plotted to go to town later for a potter and potential purchase. We can afford it.

The DC will be happy enough. DD needs to choose a present for a party next week and DS couldn't care less as long as someone grins at him. He's only 5 months though.

bluesbaby · 29/08/2015 14:16

Somehow I don't believe the majority of MNers claiming to hate shopping... IME most people do like shopping! That's what the economy hinges on!

SurlyCue · 29/08/2015 14:29

My mum shops every weekend she will do her weekly grocery shop, then meet with a friend or sister, have lunch, then go round the handbag/shoe shops (those independent boutiques) the garden centre type places for garden lights or ornaments or the furniture places. When we were children a saturday "grocery" shopping involved driving for up to an hour to whatever large shopping centre she "needed" to go to that week (usually with an aunty or her friend in tow) where she would then drag us round clothes shops making us try on stuff. I hated it. For a while as a teen i thought thats what you did on weekends and i did with friends but i quickly realised it was the being with friends i liked and still hated the shopping aspect. Im pretty skint now but even before i just never bought into the brand thing. I dont wear any jewellery i dont even buy newspapers. I go to asda if i need something for the dinner. Otherwise its just my grocery shop. In and out in 40 minutes instead of a whole saturday being written off for shopping. If i need clothes i do online or ebay.

StarlingMurmuration · 29/08/2015 14:39

I do like browsing round the homewares departments in John Lewis and other naice big department stores online or in person, but these days most of my spending is on Amazon, on things for DS. I hate "going into town" for nothing in particular though.

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