To think going on the piss with a new born in tow is just plain shitty parenting?

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i was just gobsmacked to see a family sat in the beer garden yesterday afternoon (mum, dad, 5/6 YO and a new born) and mum and dad drinking pitchers of cocktails. In the 40 min I was there they had two pitchers and showed no sign of slowing down. Am I being overly judgy here or is this just wrong?! I'm not yet a parent myself but can't imagine ever drinking like that with a 5 year old to look after let alone such a tiny baby

Fair enough I shall remove my judgy pants and get on with the ironing!

Have a lovely Sunday everyone.

I find scenarios like that really uncomfortable because I am the child of an alcoholic and I spent much of my childhood frightened of the behaviour of my drunk parent.

That does not mean that parents in a sunny beer garden having a few drinks are irresponsible.

Of course you are - but not in front of the kids

Laughing really hard at this.

OP YANBU

I would have judged too.

WTF has this got to do with looked after children? Was the adult behaviour that bad that it caused you genuine concern?

What other evidence of shitty parenting did you observe, other than alcohol consumption?

I was under the impression that stag/hen do's are not usual for a Sat afternoon, that's for the wedding
Basically mind your own business

Were the parents actually doing anything that caused you concern, other than what they were drinking? I think YABU. If they were slurring, falling over, and neglecting the DC then that is a problem. If they were just drinking more than you deem acceptable, but still looking after their DC properly, then it is their business, and no one elses. Also if there were children there, then presumably the pub has a license that allows children, and is therefore aimed at families as much as everyone else?

I thought you meant someone had stuck their 3-day-old baby in a sling and gone out in her stripper heels for Friday 2 for 1s at the Slug and Lettuce

Afternoon in a beer garden and a couple of pitchers? Meh.

YABU but I do see where you are coming from. A minority of parents in the pub I work in allow their kids to run riot so they can get pissed. I've seen very distressed babies strapped into pushchairs while their parents drink copious amounts. Its a shame there is no protection for staff who should eventually be able to refuse them service.

One of my first shifts at a pub involved a long arguement with woman who wanted to bring her tiny newborn into the very very noisy pub at 11.30pm on Friday night so 'she could get a bit gattered (her own words)'. That is the kind of parent that should be judged.

Depends how drunk they were. Wee they rowdy/slurring their words/causing trouble? My DH could easily sink a pitcher and would barely feel it. Maybe one of them was drinking most of it and the other was just having a glass or 2? Impossible to know whether it was worth judging without knowing more.

Maybe she had a shitty pregnancy and was celebrating now?

Easy to judge superficially but you never know the back story.

"Of course you are - but not in front of the kids

Laughing really hard at this."

I posted the first comment and stand by it. I didn't say that you shouldn't have a couple of drinks in front of the kids; I said that you shouldn't get drunk in front of the kids.
There isn't enough info in the OP to say whether this is what was happening or not, but I do think that getting pissed in front of your children is wrong.

Personally, I would not judge another parent without knowing the circumstances and even then I would try hard not to be judgemental.

YABU, for all the reasons already pointed out.