AIBU?
To take DD2 along with DD1 to this party?
dontrunwithscissors · 23/08/2015 10:21
DD1 (8) has a birthday party at 3.30 today in a soft play place. I've been called into work, which leaves DH with both children. He would normally just drop DD1 off and pick her up later, but the soft play they've chosen is a 30 min drive each way & it seems a bit daft to be going home and then back again.
WIBU to politely text the birthday girl's mum and ask if it's OK for DH to bring DD2 and, of course, we will pay her entrance/food costs seperately?
2ndSopranosRule · 23/08/2015 10:32
Just go, it's fine - when you get there, just tell the person at the desk that it's one for the party and one to play - have the money ready too so it's obvious! The other dc isn't going to the party so there's no problem.
We do this with soft play parties, as do many parents I know.
dontrunwithscissors · 23/08/2015 10:36
Sirzy: yes, that was the plan. I would never just take another along
I've had this happen with DD's parties (& seen it at others) and haven't minded at all (& thinking about it, they never texts in advance), but wondered what the consensus was.
MyNewBearTotoro · 23/08/2015 10:36
I think if you ask the Mum it makes it more awkward - she may feel obliged to offer to pay/ invite DD2 to have the party food/ cake etc.
I would take DD2 but pay for her separately and make it clear you're not expecting her to be part of the party (explain this to DD2 beforehand as well so she's not expecting to join in for the cake etc!).
RalphSteadmansEye · 23/08/2015 10:38
Just take her and pay when you arrive. Order some food at some point for her, too, so party parents know you're not gatecrashing the party.
Completely common where I am for siblings to come along to soft play or farm type parties. Their parent just pays separately for them.
dontrunwithscissors · 23/08/2015 10:41
Nobody to share a lift with.
The place will no doubt be packed to the rafters & DD2 will no doubt be off making new friends so it's quite possible the child's mum will be none he wiser.
Mynewbear--I hadn't thought of that. I don't know this woman/child at all. She also only sent the invite home on Friday so v short notice.
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Marcelinewhyareyousomean · 23/08/2015 11:10
I think your op makes it sound like you are expecting your additional dc to join in. I'd text first and make sure they don't join in. If there are no shows they might be invited.
I've had a party like this and people signed their additional dc in on the list. Towards the end the party place tried to charge me for extra dc. I told them to take it up with the cheeky bastards that added their dc's names. n
rollonthesummer · 23/08/2015 11:24
I've got lots of kids and have been to many parties over the year-there is almost always a parent (often several) with siblings with them who they've paid to go in with. A non issue. Single mums/one parent ill or working means there isn't always someone to have the others.
If you want to, text the mum saying unfortunately you have to work so DH will have both children! Explain he'll pay separately for her and will obviously stay if you feel worried but this is standard practice. It's a public place!
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